Here, we will simply ask friends who don't know PUA to explain what PUA is. PUA's full Chinese name is strike up a conversation artist.
I don't need the technical terms I searched online to explain here. The reason is very simple, it is too long, and you may not understand it for a while. I think PUA is actually an emotional liar.
In daily life, many people may have received fraudulent phone calls more or less, and PUA cheated not only your money, but also more.
PUA's common five-step emotional trap: curiosity-exploration-fascination-destruction-emotional abuse.
Let me analyze it here.
The first step, curiosity, is to add your friends first, then observe all the information scattered around you, know what kind of person you are, and know a few things you like and dislike.
The second step is to discover and disguise people who like you, chat with you slowly, set a personal setting for yourself, and make it impeccable through friends and friends around you.
The third step, infatuation, makes you curious or fascinated by him. The vulgar means is to chat with you every day. Finally, if he doesn't talk to you, you will take the initiative to talk to him.
The fourth step, destruction, when you confirm the relationship with him, then it is time for the fish to take the bait. At this time, he will take strong drugs to ensure that the fish you take the bait will not unhook.
The fifth step is emotional abuse. Actually, this word is not appropriate. I think it's mind control.
It's like being imprisoned in the basement by a person, being beaten and abused every day, but suddenly one day being nice to you and starting to be nice to you, then your hatred for him will be transformed into other feelings.
The above points are the most basic PUA introduced by the author, so if there are similar things in everyone's daily life, then you should pay attention to whether you are the fish called PUA by others!
In short, you thought you met the only thrill, but it turned out to be loverboy! The city routine is deep, I want to go back to the countryside!
In daily life, remember not to be deceived!
The 23-year-old girl suffers from PUA.
Xiaomei (a pseudonym), a 23-year-old girl, met her boyfriend Xiaoyu on social software. It is also from here that Xiaomei fell into Xiaoyu's PUA trap.
Xiaoyu considers herself a second-generation doctoral student, but she is actually only a junior college student. When he framed Xiaomei, Xiaomei was controlled by Xiaoyu to some extent.
Later Xiaoyu instigated and threatened Xiaomei to buy him a luxury car by various means. Of course, these loans have to be repaid by Xiaomei alone.
As long as you are a liar, you will be exposed sooner or later. Xiaomei found that Xiaoyu was only a junior college student. Coupled with the pressure brought by various loans to Xiaomei, Xiaomei couldn't bear it and jumped off the building.
The reason is that Xiaomei feels that she can't recover the loan she spent on Xiaoyu, and she can't treat her family and explain it to her family, so Xiaomei will choose to get rid of it.
So, how to avoid becoming PUA in daily life? It's actually very simple. Communicate your love with relatives, friends, parents and elders around you. There is an old saying, the authorities are fascinated, and the bystanders are clear. You can judge whether this relationship is reliable by the dictation of people around you!
Finally, I hope everyone will not become PUA and do such extreme things!
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