In a high-quality love, you can quietly enjoy comfort together, learn new knowledge together, eat, drink and have fun together for a day. In short, no matter what we do together, our hearts are solid and warm.
High-quality love must be deeply in love with each other, and recognize each other as the person you want to join hands with for life, and also regard each other as the dependence and belonging in your heart for life.
So how can we talk about a high-quality love? In fact, this is what you need to do.
The first point: not deliberately.
Any deliberately bought peaceful love will not last long, because deliberately is not from the heart, and sooner or later it will get tired.
In a high-quality love situation, both parties should be free, natural and undisguised.
Ajie and his girlfriend have been in love for four years. Over the past four years, their relationship has become more tacit.
Every time Ajie comes home, no matter how late it is, Dingdong will get out of bed, hug Ajie sleepily and ask him, "What's the matter? Tired or not, hungry or not, I'll make you something to eat! "
Tinker bell said that her body seems to have formed a subconscious reaction. Whenever she comes back from a business trip and hears the door open, no matter how deep she sleeps, she will naturally wake up. This subconscious little gesture just shows the tacit understanding and natural mode of getting along with each other.
Tinker bell is so considerate that she doesn't want Ajie to give her anything in return. It's just that she feels from the bottom of her heart that Ajie is poor and hard, and she should give Ajie more care, which is not intentional at all. This is tinker bell's instinctive reaction.
In the relationship between lovers, high-quality love is an unintentional effort.
You will naturally think of each other's kindness to yourself;
Every holiday you will habitually prepare a surprise for each other; You will carefully remind each other to wear thicker clothes every day;
You will naturally want to do something to make the other person happy. This comfortable and unintentional mode of getting along is the most natural and lasting.
Number two: not tired.
What is good love? You won't feel tired in a relationship.
Just last week, my good friend Yuan Yuan broke up with her boyfriend Wen Tao of three years. When we parted, Wen Tao was reluctant. He still asked Yuanyuan why she broke up with him. Yuanyuan only said, "I'm so tired" and turned away without nostalgia.
It turns out that in that love, Wen Tao was particularly sensitive. He rummaged through Yuanyuan's mobile phone every day for fear of missing some important information. Without Yuanyuan's knowledge, he deleted all his male friends from Yuanyuan's mobile phone.
In the relationship between the two, Wen Tao wants to fully grasp Yuanyuan's every move. Wherever Yuanyuan goes, Wen Tao asks Yuanyuan to give him a place. Even if Yuanyuan has dinner with her good sisters, Wen Tao should follow closely, lest Yuanyuan meet other members of the opposite sex.
Yuanyuan thinks that true love is love, but they are free; On the other hand, Wen Tao believes that true love is unreserved and there is no room for privacy.
The two men often quarrel because they don't agree on this matter. Yuanyuan, who lived under the supervision of Wen Tao all day, was so tired that she finally broke up after a big fight.
Sweetness is the normal state of love, but constant monitoring is not sweet, but overbearing and suspicious.
Two people who love each other again should also keep a little private space and time of their own, so that people will not get tired when they get along with each other.
When love is too selfish and egoless, it will bring a burden to the other half, making the other half live a monitored life, exhausted physically and mentally.
High-quality love is: mutual trust; You can go to the movies by two people or by one person. You can go to a coffee shop together or read in separate rooms.
You are lovers and friends, and you will sincerely wish each other happiness in different fields.
The third point: don't entangle.
When you meet a high-quality love, you will think that the person in front of you is the one you are looking for. When you decide to love TA, you won't have a little enTAnglement and hesitation, because you have made plans to spend your life with ta.
Yao Yao broke up with her boyfriend Xiao Bing, because every time she married Xiao Bing, Xiao Bing always showed indecision.
Xiao Bing said that he didn't have a house or a car, and he didn't know whether he could give Yao Yao the life he wanted, but Yao Yao was never a material girl. She believes that as long as two people work together, they will have a good life.
Xiao Bing said that he was not ready to get married, and his heart was tangled, but Yao Yao felt that getting married needed some impulse. Sometimes, the more a soldier obsesses about marriage, the more it shows that the soldier doesn't really love him, so Yao Yao broke up.
High-quality love must not be disturbed, but the moment you meet, you put them into your future plan.