Because of the particularity of my career, I always come into contact with this kind of woman who likes to be a mistress, and Xiaoyun is one of them. The intersection of Xiao Yun and Mr. Chen is purely accidental. When she was transferred to a strange city on business, she met this mature and steady middle-aged man.
Xiaoyun is in another country and is taken good care of by Mr. Chen. This business trip touched Xiaoyun's heart. Xiaoyun took the initiative to apply for transfer to this strange city and started an immoral relationship with Mr. Chen for five years.
Although this relationship is shady, Teacher Chen cares for Xiaoyun like a child. Even if Xiaoyun is unreasonable, Mr. Chen will take the initiative to tolerate her.
In the past five years, Xiaoyun was very relieved about this relationship and did not take the initiative to play tricks on Mr. Chen's wife until one day, Xiaoyun found out that she was pregnant.
In the face of the sudden little life, Xiaoyun felt both fear and joy. Although she still didn't marry Mr. Chen by force, Mr. Chen was not happy at all after receiving the news.
Although Xiaoyun comforted Mr. Chen in turn, saying that he was not responsible, Mr. Chen solemnly reminded Xiaoyun not to have children, draw a line with him as soon as possible, and find a good man to remarry.
In fact, Xiaoyun is 28 years old this year, and the best time in her life is wasted on Teacher Chen, but she still has no intention of getting married. Even if introduced at home, she shirked it on the grounds of busy work.
Just after Mr. Chen reminded Xiaoyun, he began to reduce his contact with Xiaoyun, and then took the initiative to apply for transfer to other cities and bid farewell to Xiaoyun completely.
Xiaoyun couldn't accept Mr. Chen's sudden farewell. He came to us to try to save his relationship with Mr. Chen. Even if he doesn't want children and the future, Xiaoyun also hopes that Mr. Chen can turn back.
When receiving the consultation, Xiaoyun always concealed Mr. Chen's family background. I also thought that Teacher Chen was afraid of being responsible before bidding farewell to Xiaoyun. After my in-depth consultation, I found the fact that Xiaoyun never wanted me to know.
In fact, most of the third parties trapped in this immoral relationship are very pitiful. They are extremely short of love and don't know what love is.
Judging from Xiaoyun's performance, what she loves is not the real Mr. Chen at all, but the imaginary Mr. Chen.
This is what we often see in consultation. Some women complain that their husbands are lazy, stupid and immature, but in reality men are successful businessmen. Just like Mr. Chen in Xiaoyun's fantasy, he is responsible, considerate and caring for himself ... full of advantages.
In fact, will a responsible man keep his beloved woman as an anonymous third party? Even if a man has more excuses, isn't five years enough for him to deal with his wife?
More importantly, since Xiaoyun will be pregnant, it means that Mr. Chen has not taken protective measures. Since Mr. Chen doesn't intend to be responsible for Xiaoyun's rest of his life, his failure to take protective measures is pure "slag".
A love rat can make Xiao Yun so stubborn, which means that Xiao Yun has probably never been well loved in Descendants. This can also be seen from Xiaoyun's willingness to apply for transfer from the original city as a married man.
Xiaoyun is eager to get rid of his family background and seek a man who can completely tolerate himself. Even knowing that this man has a shameful purpose, Xiaoyun indulges himself, which shows that Xiaoyun not only lacks love, but also lacks self-confidence.
May be the influence of family background, let Xiaoyun have no confidence to stick to a relationship, so she became careless about the choice of men, even though she knew that there was no future with Mr. Chen, she still sent it like a moth to a flame.
In this way, even if there are problems in the relationship between the two sides in the future, it is none of Xiaoyun's business, because all the problems are the problems of the married man, who "cheated" himself and gave everything to this relationship. Therefore, she can say that she is a "victim" without moral condemnation.
However, after learning that all the men in Xiaoyunli were married, I stopped this consultation and didn't have a chance to learn more about Xiaoyunli's family background. But I advise sisters with problems like Xiaoyun to face their true selves, accept the cruel reality and not make themselves so humble. If you can't even love yourself, who can you expect to love you?