How to maintain a long-distance relationship? Long-distance love itself is a freshness of love, but if two people are in different places for a long time and have little chance to meet each other, they will become alienated only through communication tools. Here is how to maintain a long-distance relationship.
How to keep long-distance love 1 long-distance love 1 methods to keep freshness, frequency and way of communication.
In terms of communication frequency, long-distance lovers should maintain a fixed communication frequency. You can agree on the communication frequency and time suitable for both parties, which will make the other party feel more stable. What's more, in the case of different places, you need to arrange a moderate meeting, such as once a month or twice a month. In this way, you will feel that the other person is real, not just a "mobile phone pet". This real feeling of meeting can maintain the residual temperature when you don't meet. When the residual temperature dissipates, it's time to meet again.
2. Share each other's life and feelings, and make Ta your best friend.
In a long-distance relationship, happy or unhappy things should be shared with each other, and you should also be encouraged to share things and feelings encountered in Ta's life. In these mutual sharing and support, you will find that although there is no physical intersection between your circles, you are never strangers to each other's life in different places. You still have endless topics, and you are still each other's best friends.
Ways to keep a long-distance relationship fresh 3. Establish a * * vision
Establishing a * * * vision will be very helpful for you to spend this difficult period in a different place. You need to invite the other person to participate in your future planning and tell Ta that this is your future, not just your future. Only in this way can you have a clear expectation of their feelings and make yourself and the other party more convinced that the situation in different places will end one day.
Ways to keep a long-distance relationship fresh 4. Increase the frequency of meeting.
Holidays and anniversaries can actively create opportunities and increase the frequency of meeting each other. Because seeing others in pairs on holidays and thinking that you have a lover but you are not around, it is easy to get emotional and feel sorry for yourself, which makes your life more desolate and lonely. In addition, you can often give gifts to each other to express your thoughts about your lover, see things and think about people, and often warm your lover with some small gifts, especially those full of heart and meaning, which can make the other person feel your sincere and sincere love. It has a multiplier effect on the maintenance of feelings.
Long-distance love is a special form of love, because distance brings some inconvenience, but at the same time, it brings an unattainable beauty because of the limited time spent together, and we cherish each other more. In fact, maintaining a long-distance relationship is not that difficult. As long as you have trust, dare to take responsibility, open your heart and communicate frankly, adjust your mentality, make progress together with each other, set up the ideal of * * * and work hard for it, and strengthen the connection between them, long-distance love will surely show its unique richness and make it a positive result as soon as possible.
How to maintain a long-distance relationship II. Long-distance love is not terrible. The terrible thing is that there is no plan.
A tourist asked me this question: teacher, he is going to study abroad for two years, and it is possible to start a business abroad. If it goes well, I will return to China in three years. Is it necessary for me and him to continue?
I believe many couples have encountered such problems. Like my visitor, she is afraid of the concept of "long-distance love = breakup". Because she is not sure whether they can survive such a long-distance love, and she has no confidence in herself, it seems that the long-distance love has been announced at this juncture, which makes her unacceptable and unable to change.
Later, I tried to ask her: Are you afraid of long-distance relationships? Before you consider whether to continue your relationship, have you planned your life and contact in different places, and then exchanged views with each other and made a decision on how to deal with it? Her answer is no.
Long-distance love is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you have entered a long-distance relationship without adequate preparation. The passage of time and the lack of countermeasures have led to the gradual widening of the distance between them. This is how long-distance love kills love. When you are about to or may be about to enter a long-distance relationship, don't panic. Use your brain and heart to discuss the solution with your partner. Don't be afraid, but be brave enough to face it, so that you can bear the foundation and grasp of long-distance relationship.
How to maintain a long-distance relationship? The emotional tutor gives you four suggestions!
Second, loyalty and trust can calm anxiety.
When you send a message to your partner with longing and expectation, but the other party doesn't respond or only responds briefly, have you ever doubted the loyalty of the other party? When the other person is busy, he will reply to you with more information and explanations, but you have passed that emotional point and are angry now. Can you still trust the other person unconditionally? These two questions reflect the normal mentality of both parties in a long-distance relationship.
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Don't you reply to me first when you see the news?
Why are you always busy when I miss you?
Who are you with now?
Suspicion brings countless misunderstandings and unexplained problems. When doubt has appeared in your long-distance relationship, calm down and think about it. Is there a fundamental problem with your loyalty and trust?
In order to deal with suspicion, I have compiled three tips for everyone in my life:
1, get familiar with each other's working time planning and life rules, and then express your thoughts when the other party can interact with you emotionally;
2. Couples often announce the identity of their existing partners in the circle of friends or other social software and groups, such as photos of both parties in the circle of friends, gifts from the other party, and others trying to get close to you but your heart belongs to you. ......
3. Reflect and compare yourself. How do I spend every day?
I work so hard and so busy, and the person I like is of course the same as me. Why should I doubt him? Is it because I am too idle or I have a bad life that I imagine that he likes me?
Third, understanding and communication have brought us closer together.
Love is another name for understanding. Tagore
Couples and couples who live together day and night need a strong understanding, so that both sides can reach a * * * understanding in cognition and behavior, not to mention long-distance couples.
For example, if you can't understand that the other person can't talk to you on the phone because he is going to attend his own social activities (work group building or friends' party), then it's difficult for you to reach an understanding on the question "when shall we talk?"
The woman will think, I also have parties and activities, and I want to chat with you after I refuse. Why not?
Men will feel that chatting with you is of course possible at any time. Why do you have to do it when I have other activities?
This is a matter of cognition. The woman can't understand the man and thinks that other social activities are more important than her. The man can't understand the woman either He thinks that the other person is unreasonably trying to control his social time.
When you don't understand each other's words and feel that they don't seem to understand you, you might as well ask the following two more questions:
1, what's your idea?
2. If my idea is ... can you accept it?
Living in different spaces, many times things happen differently from what they expected. At this time, communication is needed to make both sides know each other better and get closer to each other. Good communication can create more similar topics and establish stronger ties between them. This can be said a lot, space is limited, and I want to see the children's shoes. Let me know in the message area.
4. Do you have your own life construction and future plan?
If the first three points are the mentality and ability to deal with long-distance love, then the last point is the practical operation to help people get through the tempering process of long-distance love. In addition to love, everyone has the obligation to make his life more substantial, more substantial, and make himself better and happier.
The construction of one's own life is an important part of everyone's experience and maturity. Don't say that because you are in love, your mind is on each other, and you always focus on "Does he miss me?" "What is he doing?" Let's go Plan your life. Besides the daily arrangement and work, how should you use the rest of your time?
If we could meet on weekends and holidays, where would you go together?
If you can't meet, where will you go?
Set a series of small goals for your future, work hard and achieve them step by step. In this process, learn new knowledge, meet new people, try new contacts, share everything they encounter, plan each other's future together, and lay a solid foundation so that the spiritual distance between you will not be alienated by the realistic distance.
"When I was very young, I felt that the most romantic thing in the world was that a person ran a long way to see another person, and now it is."
Every party in a long-distance relationship is like Valentine's Day. Every thick ticket is an insistence on love. The dry goods I shared today are my support and strength from the perspective of consultants. I wish all lovers will be well.
Author: Yang Li, an emotional tutor, is a national registered psychological counselor, a marriage and family counselor, a senior psychological counselor, and a writing teacher of Lengai WeChat official account. The consulting style is humorous, the analysis problem hits the nail on the head, and the actual combat tutor sends it. Committed to the study of personal growth and intimacy, Satya family therapy, structured family therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy have been studied for a long time, and a unique learning system of emotional intelligence and love ability has been established. I hope everyone who is engaged in learning will have the ability to love and be happy.