First of all, the perfect woman
Love expression: excessive self-denial, self-demand, always correct.
Example of a strange woman: a woman with perfect behavior and morality is a natural man killer. Excessive self-denial, self-demand, always right, narcissism in my heart, because I love myself and don't allow myself to make mistakes.
Man's way: share the joy of making mistakes with her.
As a myth, you can love a fairy, but you can only marry an ordinary woman and go home. Your question is whether you can turn a fairy into a mortal. In fact, life is what needs vulgarity and arbitrariness most. Share the joy of making mistakes with her, share laziness and carefree, and limit her contribution to you to what you can repay.
Second, in the face of doubt.
Love expression: I like catching shadows, but I deliberately pretend to be generous.
Example of a strange woman: general suspicion is only a means for women to flirt, and excessive suspicion may be a mixture of defects and aggression. Women in mobile phones are a little paranoid and hysterical. They are sensitive to deception and think that men are bullying themselves by telling the truth.
Man's Way: The most effective strategy is to play dumb, belittle yourself from time to time, and never be self-righteous.
Suspicion is often a means of controlling relationships. You should learn "unconditional obedience". Of course, for a guilty man, if you want to win enough freedom from a suspicious woman, you should keep in mind two principles:
Principle 1: Establish necessary rules at the beginning of love, such as not having the same friends and not interfering in each other's space.
Rule 2: Don't have sex too intimately. Keeping a proper distance can protect both her and you. Suspicious women are very sensitive to intimacy. Once a certain love pattern is formed, it must persist for decades.
Third, a cold face.
Love expression: I often indulge in fantasy, do not take the initiative to care about people, and the normal information in the interactive relationship is often invalid.
Example of a strange woman: indifference from hostility is acceptable, hostility can be resolved sooner or later, and indifference will be transformed into warmth. The most worrying indifference comes from extreme narcissism, which is a kind of personality defect, lacking sexual attraction and unable to love. Narcissistic personality is a mud mass without differentiation and no internal structure. It is not angry when it is angry, but unhappy when it is happy. Holding such a woman, you may even feel lonely and cold.
You should create some unique communication ways to realize communication between two people. Of course, some very independent women also have a hidden indifference in their deep personality. You can't melt into her heart, touch her or conquer her.
Man's way: make simple rules for information and emotional communication to help her feel safe enough.
If anger can't be expressed normally, indifference becomes a technology. If you don't want to admit your mistake, pretending not to know is the only countermeasure. Men who can only accommodate warmth but can't bear indifference are not strong men, because they have too much demand for relationships, which is a kind of dependence.
Being needed by women is often the self-esteem and happiness of many men. In the face of women who have nothing to want, everyone will be afraid. No desire is rigid, and no desire in the family will make the family lifeless. If she is indifferent to you, it is very important to make simple rules for information and emotional communication to help her feel safe enough.
Fourth, face passion.
Love expression: sensitive and hysterical, love and hate go hand in hand.
Examples of strange women: Dramatic women abound, and each woman has different levels of hysterical emotions. They are suggestive, emotional and exaggerated, pursue sensory stimulation and like to be the focus of attention.
Man's way: praise her all the time.
Exaggeration, emotional outburst and abuse are several major characteristics of drama personality. It is difficult for you to communicate with her in a normal way because she has many distorted experiences of reality. If she lies, she never wants to lie because she can't tell which is reality and which is imagination.
What you have to do is to accept her emotions unconditionally, and don't think she is demanding. It is important to give her a sense of security and praise at all times. Your eternal praise to her is equivalent to giving her diamonds and jewels, and her feedback to you will always surprise you.
V. Facing contradictions
Love expression: I don't know if I love you, have an affair at random, and then confess everything.
For example, strange women: borderline disorder is a unique psychological problem of women, which originated from an introverted or indifferent mother. No matter how hard children try, they cannot form a deep attachment relationship with them. Frustration in intimate relationships makes girls distrust their feelings, emotional instability, irritability, unconscious self-frustration or self-harm.
She can't tell whether she wants to be attached to you or leave you, and she lacks emotional control and foresight, so she can't bear anxiety. I don't know if I love you or not, I have an affair at random, and then I confess everything, which makes the people who love her miserable.
Man's way: help her find a good psychologist and accompany her for life.
Lack of self-boundary is the core of the problem. How to rebuild the border with people and how to identify and manage your emotions are the goals you want to help her achieve. Usually, such a woman needs to accompany a psychologist for life, and it is also one of the flexible ways to help her find a good psychologist. However, most psychologists are afraid to accept clients with marginal obstacles. "They are like children who need breastfeeding forever. If you don't satisfy her, you will never have peace. "
Sixth, excessive cleanliness.
Love expression: Pay attention to rules in love, and everything is step by step.
For example, strange women: neat women are always too cautious and live a rigid and stubborn life. This is a kind of love in a condom. Everything is step by step, emphasizing the rules in love and ignoring the fun of creation.
Man's Way: Set a clean boundary from the beginning and indulge occasionally.
You must make the rules of the game from the beginning. She is willing to lead an honest and clean life and indulge in her own career, but there can be no cleanliness addiction at home. Of course, sometimes you can allow her to turn the bedroom into a clean paradise, just like a child playing house. After everything is clean and flawless, she can experience the dust-free feeling of naked body and mind. Story: The dictation when chasing and being chased has switched places.
Seven, excessive dependence
Love expression: insatiable concern, willing to play the poor.
Example of strange women: women's dependence on men has always been respected by the old morality, thinking that the world will be peaceful in this way. But dependence is actually a fear of incomplete personality, excessive obedience to the will of others, long-term experience of helplessness, fear of not being able to take care of yourself, fear of not being able to fulfill promises, and easy to fall into a state of loneliness or abandonment. Serious dependence is manifested as a kind of attachment, hunger and thirst, insatiable love, willing to play the poor person and pestering the loved one with weak control.
Man's way: periodic separation.
Periodic separation can cultivate her independence, encourage her to get in touch with society and gain good social recognition. Some women are also independent in their careers, but emotionally dependent. When they are with their loved ones, their IQ will immediately drop to zero. Watch out! This dependence is only to control your tactics, and the necessary stupidity can respond to her emotional exploitation of you.
Eight, lace complex
Love expression: simple and persistent, not afraid of male dominance.
Examples of strange women: lesbianism, a homosexual tendency of women, is becoming more and more common in our society. Women are more likely than men to remain bisexual. They marry and have children, fully realize the physiological functions of women, and at the same time keep secret feelings with the same sex.
Man's way: tolerate, wait, and don't let same-sex sex behavior interfere with family life.
First principle: tolerance. If you can't stand it, you'd better leave. It is not good to try to change homosexuality. Being gay is her right, and choosing to leave is your right.
The second principle: control your own behavior and don't let same-sex behavior interfere with family life;
The third principle: wait. When hormones fade with age, children's growth increases family affairs, and most women will voluntarily give up the life of same-sex love.
Nine, sadistic complex
Love expression: anti-social tendency, ignoring rules, and little tolerance for setbacks.
Examples of strange women: People with potential abusive tendencies often have anti-social tendencies, and their ways of thinking and feelings are somewhat different, such as indifference to other people's feelings, lack of social responsibility, disregard for rules, little tolerance for setbacks, and inability to learn from experience.
Man's way: learn stop technology, or give up first.
Women often flirt. Don't treat a slight bite, pinch, pinch, scratch or hit as abuse. As long as there is no skin damage, violent abuse cannot be established.
All domestic violence has a growing process. In the early stage, we should make it clear that we don't like physical injuries, don't make excuses for each other, or forgive her easily. In order to escalate the conflict, we should learn to stop the technology. There is a premise for the escalation of the conflict, that is, neither side admits defeat. If we feel that the situation is getting out of control, we should take the lead in giving up or leaving. Let the emotions of both sides be buffered.
Oedipus complex
Love expression: there is a tendency of detachment in sex and inexplicable guilt about bare body.
For example, a strange woman will unconsciously seek compensation from you to compensate for her unfinished feelings in the early relationship between father and daughter. Most women who love their fathers tend to be detached in sex, and even feel inexplicable guilt about nudity. They lack creative ability in sex, and it is very natural to be passive or even avoid it. The performance of these loving fathers and daughters may all stem from deep shyness and confusion about sex.
Man's way: seduce her so that she can't extricate herself from the real physical pleasure.
How to make a woman who loves her father get rid of her confusion about sex is a question of considering your sexual ability. You should play enough male charm to seduce her and let her fall into real physical pleasure. You should praise her performance in sex in time, trigger her inner conflict, and share and resolve it appropriately. On the other hand, you should stop her from turning her loving father into a surrogate mother. Excessive maternal love is the transformation of the complex of loving father. You just need to treat her as a sexy woman and don't create a family-like atmosphere.
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Editor: The charm of love lies in its unpredictability. Let a man unforgettable love, must be irrational. When you fall in love with a normal woman, you may not feel the heartbreaking feeling in love, nor can you find the intoxicating or even depraved feeling. A strange woman may be a treasure, but after you have been tortured, you have endless yearning for her and are obsessed with her.