1. Definition: The direct psychological connection established by people in communication and communication, with characteristics including personality, directness and emotion.
2. Stage: positioning, emotional exploration, emotional communication and stable communication.
3. Self-exposure and depth: Self-exposure, also known as self-opening, refers to showing one's personal side to others when communicating and interacting. Altman found that the degree and depth of self-exposure are sensitive "detectors" of the depth of interpersonal relationships. From the shallow to the deep, there are four aspects: hobby, attitude, self-concept, interpersonal relationship and privacy.
4. Principles: reciprocity, exchangeability, self-value protection and equality. The principle of exchangeability means that individuals expect interpersonal communication to be valuable to them, that is, they gain more than or equal to the loss in the process of communication, or at least less than the loss. Self-value protection is a psychological tendency of self-support, which aims to prevent self-value from being belittled and denied. For those who affirm their self-worth, personally recognize and accept, and in turn give affirmation and support.
5. The three-dimensional theory of Shu Ci (interpersonal orientation FIRO theory):
(1) People have three basic interpersonal needs: ① tolerance: contact, communication and compatibility with others; 2 Domination: controlling or being controlled by others; ③ Emotion: Love others or be loved by others.
(2) Interpersonal needs determine the relationship between individuals and their social situations. If not satisfied, it may lead to serious problems such as psychological barriers.
(3) For these three basic interpersonal needs, people have two ways to meet them: active and passive.
(4) Three basic interpersonal needs plus active and passive ways of satisfaction constitute six basic interpersonal orientations. That is, active tolerance (actively interacting with others and actively participating in social life), passive tolerance (expecting others to accept themselves and often shrinking from loneliness), active domination (liking to control others and being able to use power), passive domination (expecting others to guide and willing to follow others), active emotion (caring, friendly, sympathetic and intimate to others) and passive emotion (being indifferent and passive to others).
(5) Whether the interpersonal needs in childhood are met or not, and the resulting behavior patterns have a decisive influence on the interpersonal relationships of individuals in adulthood. ① Inclusive demand: children have less interaction with their parents and have low social behavior. If children communicate and integrate with their parents properly, they will form an ideal social behavior. Whether they live in groups or live alone, they will feel satisfied, and they can choose their own behavior according to the situation and have good interpersonal relationships. 2. Explicit demand: Parents have requirements for their children, and giving them some freedom will make them form a democratic behavior. 3. Emotional needs: children can't get the love of their parents when they are young, often face indifference and reprimand, and will have low personal behavior when they grow up. Shu Ci put forward the principle of group integration and explained the formation and disintegration of groups with three-dimensional theory. The process of group formation includes-controlling-emotions, and the disintegration of feelings is out of control-difficult to contain.