If you leave the bad, you will have a chance to meet the good; Say goodbye to the inappropriate, in order to better reflect on yourself, what is suitable for you.
Text | Song Yue (Rich Book Column)
Writer Xi Juan once said:
Because of the heart, so pursue, so communicate; Communication is a process in which two people get to know each other. Some people break up because of understanding; Some people are happy to get married because they are satisfied with what they know.
Think about it, it really is.
I've met too many couples. From the first time you fell in love to the last time you broke up, you never talked to each other.
If love is gone, only looking forward is a better memory of the good past.
All the mistakes are due to lack of love.
Xiaomi, a college friend, is one of the divorced people I know. I was surprised at her divorce, because she is a person with strong views on marriage.
In college, Xiaomi talked about a boyfriend. Boys like Xiaomi very much and take care of him. Xiaomi likes him too. They have a lot to say together.
But after graduation, the boy wants to go to Dalian to be a navy. He asked Xiaomi to go with him. Xiaomi thought it was too far away and refused.
Later, she was with another alumnus. When she was in love, her boyfriend was very kind to her. She speaks softly and asks questions, which makes her enjoy it. After talking for two years, they got married.
After two years of marriage, her husband is also very kind to her. After work, she goes home on time to buy food and cook. She doesn't smoke, drink or socialize, and she doesn't have to worry about everything in her life.
After living together for a long time, Xiaomi regretted his original choice. Although her husband looks good, she can't stand many details, haggle over every ounce, don't respect her parents, be a big man and don't strive for progress.
Finally, when the child was over three years old, she chose to end the marriage. Her ex-husband's mistake made her not regret it.
Xiaomi concluded afterwards that although the two men were very kind to her, she could be so determined to separate because she didn't love them very much, so there was no pain. At first, I was just confused about her and thought it was love.
Now she is comfortable living alone. When she has time, she will visit her son. She can make her own decisions without being wronged. If she doesn't find the person she loves, she may not get married again.
This is the reality, not every couple will have a result, not every couple can grow old together.
Yi Shu once said that there are only two reasons for breaking up: not loving or not loving enough.
If you love deeply, no matter what conditions, people who love each other can overcome them and go on bravely; And not enough love, even if it starts well, will eventually go their separate ways, just a matter of time.
There is a line in Ex 3: Farewell to EX:
At every different stage of life, different people will be left behind. There are always some people coming and some people leaving. Some friends, I don't know how to get close. Some lovers have separated somehow.
A good intimate relationship is by no means a game of chasing one person, but two people go their separate ways. This is a one-man show.
I can't let go because my heart is unwilling.
I saw a news the other day. It's a pity.
Sichuan woman Xiao Zhang and her ex-boyfriend Xiao Li often quarrel during their love. After talking for a year, Xiao Li felt very tired and didn't want to continue, so she broke up.
A few months after breaking up, Xiao Li was introduced to the girl Xiao Liu. They got along very well and soon registered to get married.
Xiao Zhang thinks that Xiao Liu is his own "mistress" and bears a grudge against Xiao Liu because he was dumped by himself.
I harassed Xiao Liu many times, posted information on the website, and even sent her bloody photos after learning that Xiao Liu was pregnant, which caused Xiao Liu to be frightened.
This entanglement lasted for more than a year, and Xiao Li couldn't stand it and chose. After mediation, Xiao Zhang apologized.
I thought this was the end of it. Unexpectedly, unwilling Xiao Zhang bought two wreaths, shrouds and twenty coins and mailed them to Xiao Liu's mother's residence.
At the same time, she also posted information on soliciting prostitutes in the name of Xiao Liu, which led to Xiao Liu's frequent harassment and miserable life. So they chose again.
It was found that Xiao Zhang's behavior constituted the crime of provoking trouble and sentenced to 1 year 10 month.
It was just an emotional failure, but I didn't expect to lose my freedom in the end. I wonder if she will wake up this time.
For Xiao Zhang's ex-boyfriend, Xiao Li, it is understandable that she found it difficult to get along with Mix and chose to break up. Feelings are what you want.
And Xiao Zhang has been trapped in it. It's not how much she loves each other, but that she doesn't want to see each other get married so soon, be dumped, and be inferior to his present position.
This is not love, but an obsession and stupidity.
Chen Songling said:
"There is a kind of lovelorn and painless, that is, when you don't like each other but can't bear to hurt each other, you get along and finally make a decision to break up. At this time, love is like putting on shackles, and lovelorn is to unload shackles and have a sense of relief. "
Falling in love with someone is not terrible, but I am afraid that I can't dial it; Breaking up is not terrible, but I'm afraid I can't let go.
I left to meet my better self.
If there is a model for dealing with feelings, it must be Rachel.
Found her boyfriend Sean cheating, broke up decisively and moved overnight. I didn't cry, I didn't sell it badly, and I didn't tear love rat with my hands. Instead, I left room for each other to move on with my life.
When Sean brought up the old story again and tried to pave the way for his comeback by smearing Guan Xiaotong, Rachel Momo was also merciful and released the derailed stone hammer, leaving Sean speechless.
Through this storm, Rachel Momo's popularity rose, and by the way, she gained a wave of fans and a wave of praise.
Friends commented on her, with clear logic, courtesy and restraint, solid lines, daring to love and hate, simply and decisively, and the script was just right.
There is not a trace of sadness on her face. She has a beautiful face, good figure, good acting skills, good works and good opinions. On the contrary, she is more confident and attractive than before, and her career is on the next level.
If you leave the bad, you will have a chance to meet the good; Say goodbye to the inappropriate, in order to better reflect on yourself, what is suitable for you.
We should not be afraid to leave, but to get stuck in the mud. Life is so colorful, why waste it on people and things that are not worth it?
The most precious things in the world are not "not getting" and "losing". I left to be kind to myself.
In the words of philosophers, there are gains and losses, and a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise.
In fact, life is like a train in Spirited Away, with only a journey and no return. It is certainly gratifying to meet the right person on the road. You can miss it, don't be too sorry.
Because some people can only go for a ride with you. Fate has arrived, so we can only take care of ourselves.
Just as a friend told her after Qian found it, "Go ahead and don't look back."
Introduction: Song Yue, a rich book columnist, loves flowers and grass and reading, holding a baby in one hand and healing himself with words in the other.
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