Chen Jialing once said to himself when he was a child:
"In fact, there is nothing to be afraid of.
When did you start to forget,
Forgetting that this life is actually very long,
Long enough for you to fall and get up again,
Wake up from a dream,
When did you forget,
This life is actually very short,
So short that you don't have time to force yourself,
There is no time to hate yourself. "
0 1
"39 years old, no house, no car, unemployed and single,
Why do 20 million women want to live like her? "
As soon as "Vulgar Girl Cultivation 2" started broadcasting,
Douban score as high as 9.7,
This score is almost the ceiling of Douban.
Although the latter score dropped slightly,
However, this does not affect the emotion brought by Chen Jialing.
Apart from the vulgar name of the play,
It's really awesome.
This is a movie about love.
Love story,
Just like the China version, please answer 1988.
Full of warmth,
At the same time, Chen Jialing, Chen Jiaming and Hong Yuxuan are typical examples.
Tell us yourself,
As an ordinary person,
How to live a good life?
Chen Jialing, 39 years old, unmarried and childless, unemployed and lovelorn;
Chen Jiaming, 30 years old, unmarried and childless;
Hong Yuxuan, 40+, married, with children, but her husband is cheating and loves family violence;
They look ordinary,
Or it can be called failure;
But they all come from this vortex,
Find yourself again.
Chen Jialing chose to return to her hometown Tainan;
Chen Jiaming was finally encouraged by Chen Jialing in the delivery room.
Get out of the comfort zone and do what you want to do;
Hong Yuxuan finally learned to cry,
I also took the initiative to end this marriage in name only.
02
"All of us will eventually accept our mediocrity,
In order to better live this life. "
I received a letter from the publishing house the other day.
The book of the same name "The Cultivation of Vulgar Women",
Open the book in the sun,
See the preface of the author Jiang Goose, which says:
"After forty, I began to praise myself for being ordinary and confident.
I'm going to the successful side. "
It is always difficult for us to accept our mediocrity.
But in this world,
There are not so many excellent models,
Most people can't escape the ordinary life.
In fact, it's not that difficult to accept the ordinary.
Just like Chen Jialing,
Like thousands of you and me in Qian Qian,
Even at 40,
Even if you have nothing, you still have the courage to accept your mediocrity.
There is also a free and easy life from the beginning.
In the first season of vulgar girl,
It set a new high for Taiwanese drama.
At the same time, it will bring an ordinary woman like Chen Jialing.
In front of all the women,
It is also rooted in the hearts of all women.
Most ordinary girls seem to be learning from Chen Jialing.
I saw my own shadow.
39 years old, resigned, broke up and went back to his hometown.
These disgraceful words,
Maybe not on a 39-year-old woman,
Women of this age should probably,
Intellectual, temperamental and successful.
But Chen Jialing is another part of "maybe should".
At the age of 39, I was working as a secretary to a boss I didn't love.
It looks charming,
In fact, it is uncomfortable to be wronged.
She takes care of the fat boss like a super nanny,
Especially covering for the boss,
Avoiding the boss's wife,
Show the boss's mistress the house,
Do all kinds of things you don't want to do,
The resignation letter was picked up again and again under his desk.
Put it down again.
39 years old, dating for many years,
Boyfriend who has been exhausted by time,
Two people will be arrested for having their period suddenly,
It is also a big sigh of relief.
Time has turned two people's feelings into roommates.
The dull time also consumes too much passion for getting married.
But getting married is like being together for many years.
The only way,
There seems to be no suspense,
I just feel that after being together for a long time,
Marriage is just a procedure.
03
"I don't believe in marriage, but I believe in you."
If you look back,
In fact, 39-year-old Chen Jialing is not bad.
Have a job that looks glamorous,
I also have a boyfriend who looks like a rich second generation.
But after confirming that none of this is what you want,
Chen Jialing still chose to give up.
Chen Jialing finally couldn't accept it.
A boyfriend like a roommate became her husband,
I can't accept that a strong mother-in-law controls all her choices.
I can't accept a marriage without feelings.
So,
Chen Jialing ended the relationship before she got married.
Just like the second season,
She's not gonna get pregnant,
And decided to marry Cai Yongsen,
You don't have to have children just because you're old,
She will only accept this child, because she really accepts it from the heart.
Would want this baby,
Just because I really want to be with Cai Yongsen,
Will choose to get married.
So she didn't marry Cai Yongsen,
Give birth to their children,
But after giving birth,
After she rejected Cai Yongsen's proposal,
After she made all the preparations,
Propose to Cai Yongsen,
She said to Cai Yongsen, "I don't believe in marriage, but I believe in you."
04
"40 years old is not terrible,
Home is your eternal harbor. "
In the early years,
There is a bad street saying:
"There is no room for the body in other places, and there is no room for the soul in my hometown."
Can I go back to my hometown
Can you really live a "good" life in a foreign country?
Chen Jialing's final answer is:
I choose to stay in Tainan.
Before the age of 40,
Chen Jialing is a population with no house, no car, no job, no marriage and no children.
But judging from the smile on her face,
You may not see it,
The sense of loss that a person without five needs should have.
Because in her hometown of Tainan,
Have a family that loves her forever,
Gave her the confidence to start over at any time.
She and her mother don't seem to get along,
But mom's love,
Gave her the greatest courage to be herself.
She asked her mother:
"Will you be disappointed?"
Mother red eyes said:
"If you can't, I won't."
Her grandmother said to her before she died:
"Grandma sometimes envies you,
Do whatever you want. "
05
"Unfortunate childhood takes a lifetime to heal,
A happy childhood cures a lifetime. "
Some people say,
Unfortunate childhood takes a lifetime to heal,
A happy childhood cures a lifetime.
I'm glad that Chen Jialing is obviously,
The kind of person who was cured by childhood for a lifetime.
The whole play is interspersed,
Chen Xiaojialing in childhood,
In sync with Chen Jialing, which is nearly 40 years old,
I can feel it deeply,
Even if Chen Jialing had nothing,
The love that Chen Jialing felt as a child,
It can also keep her warm and optimistic about life.
When parents are still ashamed to talk about sex,
Chen Jialing's grandmother told Chen Jialing,
There is a topic about virgins.
In Shiyan, girls are very sweet.
When he was killed for running in the morning,
When Chen Jialing was very young,
Mother has been teaching Chen Jialing in various ways.
How to identify and defend the bad guys?
She dressed up as a man in a suit,
To test Chen Jialing's vigilance.
Dad and grandpa were involved,
Teach her how to protect herself from bad people.
Just when Chen Jialing was really in the car,
When I met my sick uncle,
Mom will hug her tightly and say:
It's okay. Mom's here.
Instead of blaming,
Did you fall asleep in the car,
Maybe the skirt is too short.
It's like crossing from childhood to the present,
Mom saw dad suspected of cheating in a typhoon day,
Chen Jialing, wearing a raincoat and crying in the rain, appeared in front of him.
Chen Jialing didn't ask anything.
Hold mom tight,
Pat her on the back,
Tell mom that no matter what happens,
There will be me,
Just like you guarded me when I was a child,
Now it's my turn to look after you.
06
"I heard that God is everywhere, so I created my mother."
Mom's love seems to be noisy every time.
Always stuck in those daily nagging thoughts,
But in all that boring chatter,
Always hiding the love that moistens things silently,
It makes people tremble,
There is a plot in the play that I particularly like and moved.
When Chen Jialing's parents found out,
When your son is gay,
I was almost moved by this openness,
Mom was embarrassed to admit it to Chen Jialing at first.
Because she read Chen Jiaming's diary,
Only then did I know the secret.
Mother red eyes said:
"Actually, I was scared at first.
Next, I read the newspaper by myself.
Go to the bookstore to find books,
Calling for new knowledge of women,
The new knowledge of women has turned the telephone to people-oriented education,
Later, I gradually realized that,
So it's not sick.
Anyway, he is my own son,
I should stand with him.
Sometimes I think,
He lived to be thirty,
I'm too old to tell anyone,
It's also hard,
I really want to tell him.
Amin,
Actually, mom knows,
You're not alone,
Don't be so lonely. "
When we still regarded homosexuality as a quirk,
As a gay family, Chen Jialing's family,
More worried,
I am worried that my family will be lonely because of this.
It must be very tiring and hard to worry that he is hiding secrets alone.
At the beginning of the second season,
Chen Jiaming's lover, in front of the whole family,
Propose to Chen Jiaming,
And got the blessing of the whole family.
Dad also because he can't do much for him,
And feel ashamed.
Dad is outside the last delivery room in Chen Jialing.
What I said to Chen Jiaming,
This is another breakthrough,
Although Chen Jiaming seems to have accomplished nothing at the age of 30,
But he has the greatest mission to himself,
Is to inherit the Chinese medicine shop at home,
Waiting for your parents and sister,
So after he was proposed,
I have been putting off going to England with my lover because I want to wait for my family.
But dad told him,
Don't take things at home as your future,
He should do what he wants,
His own feelings matter most.
When Chen Jialing screamed in the delivery room,
Grab Chen Jiaming, he shouted.
Chen Jiaming,
Come on, whether you're traveling,
Or for any other reason,
Please be sure to get out of your comfort zone once. "
The last picture of the plot,
When I saw Chen Jiaming with a beard,
The moment I came back from afar with my backpack,
I'm glad to have such a family,
No matter how old you are,
No matter what you do,
Your family will support you unconditionally,
Be brave and do what you want for once.
07
"There is no perfect life, only better and better yourself."
"I'm not demanding of myself:
I live in this world,
Just want to know something,
Encounter something interesting.
If I can do as I wish, my life will be successful. "
This is what Wang Xiaobo said in Silent Majority.
How can a person succeed?
This is the best answer I have ever heard.
Like Chen Jialing in front of the old house she bought,
When I was a child, I once said to myself:
"In fact, there is nothing to be afraid of.
When did you start to forget,
Forgetting that this life is actually very long,
Long enough for you to fall and get up again,
Wake up from a dream,
When did you forget,
This life is actually very short,
So short that you don't have time to force yourself,
There is no time to hate yourself. "
Chen Jialing, who returned to Tainan, had not had time to "lie flat".
Encounter again and again on the road,
The haunted house I used to go to when I was a kid,
She put 20 years' savings in Taipei,
Once bought this overgrown land,
An abandoned haunted house.
This will also be the beginning of her new life in Tainan.
In this red brick house with a triangular roof,
She opened the story of the first 40 years,
Start over.
The haunted house was originally hanged by a woman.
So it can't be sold for decades,
But this red brick house,
There is a big yard,
There are some big trees in front of the house.
There is a swing under the tree that girls can't repel.
All secular superstitions are irresistible,
Chen Jialing's love for this house with fresh temperament.
She put a shabby house,
Decoration has become my favorite look.
Although too many opinions differ from those of family members,
Mother thinks the white sofa is big and dirty.
Secretly changed it to black for her,
Chen Jialing turned down the sofa,
Stick to changing back to the white you want.
But the freedom of decoration is Chen Jialing's last stubbornness.
Stick to the white sofa,
Just like Chen Jialing insisted on doing her own thing.
She doesn't expect a perfect life,
But the life she wants,
It must be what you want,
40 years old, accept your mediocrity and mediocrity.
At the age of 40, I switched to English and took a tour guide certificate as a tour guide.
At the age of 40, I went back to my hometown to fall in love with my childhood friends.
As she said when she returned to Tainan:
The rest of my life has just begun,
And it will get better and better in the future.
She's 40 years old,
Have love again,
My career is back,
Your favorite house,
I am with my family who love me.
As long as you don't give up,
Even worse will get better and better.
08
"Life doesn't start too late. Do what you like. "
In this play,
You may not have the perfect life you want,
Only 40-year-old unmarried infertile Chen Jialing.
Chen Jiaming, 30 years old, accomplished nothing,
Hong Yuxuan, who used to be a rich woman but was abused by domestic violence,
But it is these flawed lives,
Enough to shake the hearts of every ordinary person.
Everyone can see their own shadow more or less.
Like 30-year-old Prince Xi of naked resignation, single and living alone,
Instead, I feel that there are more possibilities in the unknown life.
Like Chen Jialing, 4 1 year-old, buying a house, decorating and being himself.
It's not too late, it's all in time.
I don't know who you are now,
At which stage,
Maybe it's sad, or it's hard,
I hope you don't get discouraged,
There are no standard answers in life,
No one stipulates what age to do.
Don't set limits for yourself,
Don't give up on yourself,
The famous American painter Grandma Moses said:
Life does not start too late,
Do what you like,
God will be happy to help you open the door to success,
Even if you are 80 years old now.
There was once a Japanese named "Spring Water Goes Up".
Write to Grandma Moses at the age of 30,
He wrote in the letter:
I work in a hospital myself,
I don't know if I should give up that annoying copy,
But a job with a steady income,
And engage in their favorite industries.
At that time, Grandma Moses, who was in his 100 s, wrote back to him and said:
Do what you like,
Later, the Japanese young man gave up his job as a doctor.
Instead, I put all my enthusiasm and efforts into writing.
Later,
This young man became Japan,
And the world famous writer Junichi Watanabe.
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