Destiny calls nature, nature calls Tao, and Tao is nature. It is all around us, and everyone can know that it can be done on our own. Therefore, the Tao is not far from people. However, people are often tired of being humble and feel inadequate, and do lofty and difficult things. You told him a simple truth, but he didn't accept it. He agrees that you are right, but he still doesn't accept it, because what he said is too low, and it is necessary to find a difficult and complicated talent to "by going up one flight of stairs". What he cares about is vanity, not Tao. For this situation, there is a standard description in ancient books: "Those who give up the easy things can't do it, and those who find it difficult think they have learned."
"It's not far to beat the bandits" is a poem in The Book of Songs. Ke, this is the handle of an axe. It's not far to get an axe handle. You have an axe in your hand. The axe in your hand has a handle. To turn a piece of wood into an axe handle, just aim at the axe handle in your hand. But after all, there is one thing in hand and another thing to be updated. Between the two, in the eyes of people with axe handles, it is still far away and difficult to grasp.
That's not how a gentleman governs people. A gentleman rules people by men.
Governing people by people, Zhu commented: the truth of being a man lies in everyone. Everyone has a gift, and there is no difference between the two. The handle of that axe is still a little far from the wood to be made, and there are still some differences. There is no difference between people. Destiny is called nature, frankness is called Tao. Similar in sex, far in learning, and the same in sex. It is the day after tomorrow. Therefore, a gentleman uses his own truth to "deal with a man as he deals with you."
Deal with a man as he deals with you. This sentence was misunderstood by later generations and understood as "I will treat you as you treat me." You are not good to me, don't blame me for being unfair to you. The meaning of "mutual revenge. The heart is broken, and the Tao is far away. Zhu's meaning is obvious. If you want to help others ideologically, you should help them with what they know and what they have. However, everyone read Zhu Zi's great love as a legitimate reason to support himself and treat others badly.
"Deal with a man as he deals with you" is one of the most commonly used teaching methods for teachers. When a classmate asks a question, the teacher doesn't answer it directly, but asks it according to his logic and lets him answer it himself. After a few questions and answers, he understood himself. This will help him more than telling him the answer directly, because you are helping him find the answer in himself.
"Stop it", he made a mistake, you "deal with a man as he deals with you" and help him with what he already knows. He understood, corrected, and stopped. Don't deliberately ask him to have lofty goals.
Keep it simple, pay more attention to the simplest and most essential daily life, and don't always feel lofty and vain.