But where do children spend their time? Has the child really worked hard?
Why not admit it bravely? "Just look hard!"
In many top student, you can see a very strong ability to make plans and execute them. They can make reasonable plans for clear goals and carry them out consistently.
However, the problem faced by most students is that after the plan is made, it will either be shelved or heated for three minutes, in short, it will not be implemented.
So, please don't pretend to work hard, and your grades won't accompany you in acting. ......
Once my daughter was such a child who used diligence as a disguise to cover up the nature of laziness.
My daughter has been working hard in the eyes of teachers since she was in junior high school.
At first, I was deceived by this illusion.
At that time, my daughter made plans for herself every week. I am often asked to buy exercise books for her.
Weekends and winter and summer vacations are also full of various remedial classes.
Since the second day of junior high school, the academic pressure has become greater. I see her sitting in front of the desk lamp very late every night, about 1 1 before going to bed.
However, the unsatisfactory monthly exam results again and again have kept me thinking: What is my daughter studying because she is so tired every day?
Before a final exam, she made a study plan as usual, but later I found that few of her plans could be completed, and most of them were not even half completed.
When doing her homework, she doesn't think at all whenever she encounters a problem. She basically looks it up online, then copies the wrong book, and then she won't review it again. So, when she encounters a similar problem, it won't happen next time.
I told her, "You are wasting your time studying so inefficiently. The money that mom and dad gave you for the remedial class didn't come from the wind. This is a waste of time and money. You are really useless. "
But she wouldn't listen to me. Instead, she said angrily, "I have my own learning rhythm, so don't bother me."
As a result, in the final exam, her grades failed, with a slight retrogression. I even played well with her, but my grades were always not as good as my best friend's. My grades improved and I did better than her.
My daughter collapsed and began to feel sorry for herself. No matter what my father and I told her, she refused to admit it and insisted, "Don't keep pushing me."
By the third day, I felt that my daughter couldn't continue to develop like this, so I strengthened the supervision of her children, hoping that she could improve her learning efficiency.
But things didn't develop as expected, but my approach set off hot wars again and again.
Every night 10, I ask her to review what she learned that day and let her dictate it to me. At first, she was very cooperative.
About a week later, in the afternoon 10, she didn't even finish a homework paper. I asked her, and she looked particularly impatient: "Can't you give me more time?"
I can't refute what she said with confidence, but I know in my heart that a paper should have been written long ago as long as I had a good concentration.
Once, I saw her reading a novel with her mobile phone. I asked her, "Why don't you do your homework quickly? Don't stay up late. " .
She has a good name: "I am accumulating Chinese composition materials!" Can you leave me alone? "
I was instantly angered by her words, took my mobile phone and shouted, "You write for me first!" " "
Like a madman, she called me bad mother, pushed me out of the room, slammed the door, smashed herself in the room, scolded herself, and didn't talk to me for a week.
I have insomnia every night. Seeing that the admission rate is only about half now, I am particularly anxious and want to change her learning status as soon as possible.
I understand that many things are still there if they are not faced and changed. So, slowly, I began to reflect on myself and improve myself. I also met a parent training camp that "detonated children's learning ability" and found my own problems in education.
We are often blinded by some low-quality diligence, thinking that this is hard work. Many times, we are actually lazy under the cover of low-quality diligence.
In the course, teacher Huang, an education expert, divides laziness into two types:
Among them, the daughter is a kind of "lazy brain and diligent limbs".
Teacher Huang said that such a child is actually very pitiful: others learn, and she also learns; She was still studying while others were playing, and in the end her grades were not as good as those of children who were learning while playing.
At this time, the help of parents is crucial.
In fact, parents' careless discipline will not only destroy children's inner learning motivation and enthusiasm, but also seriously affect the parent-child relationship. So, according to the steps, my first step is to repair the parent-child relationship.
In this process, when I can communicate with my daughter in a friendly way, I will use heuristic questions to help children set high-quality goals.
According to the requirements of the course, the goal of high quality must include five elements, namely necessity, feasibility, concreteness, detachability and feedback.
Unlike my daughter's own plan, I set goals for her from the outside, and I will give her positive feedback in time, which is also feasible.
In addition, Mr. Huang stressed that it is not enough to have goals. To stimulate the motivation from the inside out and cultivate self-discipline, we must go through three key stages:
In fact, the process of changing my daughter is not so smooth, because my daughter is in adolescence, so all kinds of problems are easy to repeat, but I know that good results will not happen overnight, so I continue to adjust my emotions and methods through the methods provided in the course.
In a subtle way, my daughter has really improved a lot.
First of all, I feel that her biggest change is that she uses her mobile phone to look up questions less and less. Now that she is in trouble, she prefers to think for herself. If she can't figure it out, she will go back for help.
Once, she worked out a problem by herself, so she was very happy. She ran and jumped and said to me, "I didn't think I could do it alone!" " "
Seeing her full sense of accomplishment, I echoed: "Yes, my daughter is great, and I can do it myself!" " "
During this period, my daughter began to understand for the first time! She scored below 100 in mathematics all the year round, and actually got an unprecedented 123. Moreover, the moment she got the paper, she seriously reflected on the wrong question.
Undoubtedly, my daughter, who had low learning efficiency before, is confident enough, willing to take the initiative to think, really diligent and loves learning!
After this period of anxiety, I found that there were too many parents who were as distressed as me. Every time I see these mothers, I think of myself, so I really want to share my experience with you!
"Detonating children's learning training camp" not only ignited the flame of my daughter's inner love for learning, but also made me feel deeply moved and relieved as a parent!
Here, like me, I found the direction and method of educating my children, and many parents are no longer anxious:
Mother Zhang from Wuhan excitedly gave us feedback: "The child has changed a lot, just like a changed person, and the enthusiasm for learning is unstoppable!"
Mother He of Shanghai also said in the group: "Children are willing to put down their mobile phones and stop fierce fighting."
After studying, mother Zhao in Suzhou stopped worrying and staring at her children. The speed of children's homework has been greatly improved, and the parent-child relationship has become closer!
Mother Li in Hangzhou was very excited and said to us, "I helped my son find his initial dream, and my son with a goal is full of motivation!" " "
Zhou's mother in Quanzhou said: "Children learn to be active, no longer lose their temper, and their relationship with children is getting better and better." It feels good! "
Another mother gave us a happy feedback: "During this time, the child saw that I was changing, and he was trying to change, and he was more and more motivated to learn and more confident! My son especially likes teachers! "
In addition, there are many parents who grow and change here, and then help their children grow up and make their learning more motivated and purposeful.
In order to really help parents, we invited Huang Weiqiang, a brain potential tutor, to have a deep dialogue with dozens of parents and found a practical and effective way to stimulate children's learning motivation, that is, the training camp mode!
We adopt the mode of training camp, just like giving you a personal trainer!
Actually, there are no children who can't teach, only parents who can't teach. With a little effort, you can cultivate your own children into "other people's children";
Learning is an effective way to grow into a better parent!