Why is self-esteem and self-love the most important? In fact, these two points are inseparable from many things in our lives. Only when people respect themselves will others respect you; As long as you love yourself, others will love you.
And self-love is divided into many points. You can cherish your life, your body and even your reputation. I believe I don't need to say more about how important reputation is to a person. Each of us will care about our image in the eyes of others. To put it bluntly, this is also a kind of reputation.
Maintaining a person's reputation is of great significance to a person's society and life. In fact, the first consideration when people get along with each other is a person's reputation. If this person has a bad reputation, then no one will want to associate with him; The opposite is not the case.
Over the years, through my research, I found that whether a person is self-respecting or not can even affect the success or failure of TA marriage. It is difficult for a person who has no self-esteem and self-love to be happy in marriage.
Imagine that a person who has no self-esteem and self-love must be shameless and contrary to ordinary people. Once such a person gets married, how can the other half endure it for a long time? Marriage must be full of contradictions.
In fact, people who don't know how to respect themselves and love themselves in marriage are often both hateful and pitiful. What is hateful is that they will do a series of incredible things. Sadly, they often don't feel wrong. This cycle, into a cycle.
This kind of person's marriage will also become more and more painful and hopeless in this cycle, and eventually it will end in failure.
Reader Xiao Lu once told me something about her last failed marriage. After knowing her marital status, I firmly believe the above conclusion. Many times marriage is not a warm harbor, but a hunting ground full of reality and calculation. If you are unfortunately treated as prey, you can only stop loss in time and end this marriage early. Otherwise, the painful life will never end.
Xiao Lu's ex-husband Jia Yu is the man who brought her endless pain. He is a person who has no self-esteem and loves himself. His performance in marriage was simply unsightly, which made Xiao Lu feel sick in retrospect. In Xiao Lu's words, I have never seen such a shameless person!
Fortunately, Lu Xiao woke up in time and filed for divorce, ending this painful marriage. But the harm that Jiayu brought to her has not subsided so far.
Jia Yu is a veritable Phoenix man and a particularly selfish Phoenix man.
But it is such a man that Xiao Lu fell in love with him blindly as before and married him regardless of the opposition of his family. Looking back now, Xiao Lu can't help complaining that she is as blind as a bat.
Jia Yu's parents are farmers, and his mother is very ill and can't work at all. Therefore, the whole family, old and young, only rely on their fathers to work to support themselves, and the poverty at home can be imagined.
However, Jia Yu has been competitive since he was a child, and his academic performance has been very good. So the whole family scrimped and saved to send him to college. When he arrived in this city, Jia Yu secretly vowed that he would change the fate of himself and his family no matter what he paid.
After work, Jia Yu met Xiao Lu, an only daughter with a good family in the city. And Lu Xiao just likes him, so Jiayu agrees to stay with Lu Xiao.
Do you think he did it for love? Wrong, he is only interested in Lu Xiao's family.
When two people fall in love, as long as they spend money, Lu Xiao spends it alone. After falling in love for so long, Jiayu only gave her a scarf, which she bought online for "nine dollars and nine bags". But even so, Xiao Lu firmly followed Jia Yu.
After two people fell in love for about a year, Jiayu proposed to Lu Xiao. Xiao Lu was very moved and agreed, but his parents objected.
However, the more her parents objected, the more fiercely Lu Xiao resisted. In her mind, parents just don't want to be happy. During that time, Lu Xiao quarreled with her parents. Finally, in despair, her parents had to agree to their marriage.
In this way, Xiao Lu married Jia Yu without a house, a car or a bride price.
When she first got married, Lu Xiao was full of confidence in the future. She thinks that life will get better and better as long as two people work together. But later, she found that this home was just her own efforts, and Jia Yu's heart was never in this home.
Jia Yu only cares about his own family, his parents, brothers and sisters. He didn't give Lv Xiao a penny's salary, and everything was called home. And all the expenses in the city are borne by Xiao Lu alone.
When Lu Xiao discussed with him, he said shamelessly, "If you marry me, what is yours is mine. It is natural for you to support your family! "
Lu Xiao found that Jia Yu is such a man who doesn't know self-esteem, while eat woman's soft rice is so car-scrapping.
Lu Xiao struggled to support her family alone, and Jiayu urged her to go to her parents' house for money at this time. Xiao Lu was so angry that they quarreled. Jia Yu even said, "You have a daughter. When your parents are dead, isn't the property all mine? " Isn't it the same to pay now and pay in the future? "
Xiao Lu's heart is very cold. She didn't expect Jia Yu to be so shameless that she even had to get her hands on her parents' property.
It was also at this time that Jia Yu's mother was seriously ill and was admitted to the hospital. The doctor planned to have an operation, but Jiayu's family didn't have enough money, so he asked Lu Xiao for money.
Most of Lu Xiao's money is used to support her family. She has no money. At this time, Jia Yu forced her to ask her parents for money.
Xiao Lu found that the operation cost was high and the success rate was not high. She went home and asked her parents, who were very angry and didn't give her any money.
I didn't expect Jia Yu to say, "How can your parents have no money? If there is really no money, let them sell the house to my mother for treatment! After all, it is a family. "
Xiao Lu looked at him like a madman and said, "What are you thinking? Your mother has surgery. You want my parents to sell the house? Are you crazy? "
Jia Yu said hysterically, "What's yours is mine, and what's yours is mine. Why else should I marry you? "
Lu Xiao was completely disappointed, and she also gave up Jiayu. She is too lazy to quarrel with Jiayu. Directly file for divorce.
The process of divorce was not smooth, and Jiayu didn't cooperate, but Lu Xiao insisted on divorce, and it took them more than half a year to get divorced.
Recalling this past, Xiao Lu is still concerned.
A man who doesn't know how to respect and love himself will be particularly selfish in marriage. He is self-centered in everything and doesn't consider the other half at all. No woman can accept marrying such a man.
Marriage is no joke. You need to think carefully, and more importantly, you need to think seriously about why you want to get married. Only by thinking about this clearly can we step into the palace of marriage.