Pear blossoms in the sun once rained.
From Wild Model to Crown Princess
The pressure of these five years.
Give you a suite, leave my son,
The dog blood drama in the idol drama is Sun's real past. Most people think that they will not be happy, because marriage is not about two people, but about two families. If a marriage is not supported and blessed by parents, it will inevitably experience many obstacles and hardships. If you get the recognition and blessing of your parents, it will make a beautiful marriage icing on the cake and happier.
I know such a marriage that my parents didn't approve of, but they all lived happily in the end. Ronaldinho (female) and Pony (male) are my junior high school classmates. Ronaldinho lives in the town and Pony lives in the mountain. And when I was a child, because of polio, one leg was inconvenient and I walked a little lame. They had a good impression on each other when they were studying, but they never broke enough paper until after graduation, which was strongly opposed by Ronaldinho's parents. They think that Pony's family conditions are not very good and he is disabled, so his daughter will not be happy to marry such a person. No matter how much they begged for assurances, they refused. In the end, Ronaldinho went his own way and married Pony, and his relationship with his parents was so stiff that even his mother refused to recognize his daughter. Marriage without parents' blessing is often not a good marriage. Regardless of men and women, in fact, most parents are thinking of their children. The reason for their opposition is often based on their own marriage experience and understanding of simple life, which is actually reasonable. Unmarried men and women, lacking experience in this field, marry with the eagerness and impulse of love, and the result is always flustered. "First, unhappy marriage itself is a high probability event.
In fact, as long as you have been married long enough, it is normal to be unhappy in marriage-happiness is not normal.
Why does our media always promote model couples and happy couples? Because it is rare, if most people are happy, what is there to promote? Just as we preach "being brave", it is because he is a minority. If everyone is brave, what is there to preach?
I think many people have misunderstandings about the happiness of marriage. They always think that marriage is happy, at least others' marriage is happy, but in fact, marriage happiness is the highest ideal, which is not the norm or the bottom line! This needs clarification.
Don't refute the situation of just getting married for three or five months or one or two years. Life is long. Second, parents' opposition also represents the voice of the parties to some extent.
If you observe human nature deeply enough, you will find that when a man grows up, he basically becomes his father and a woman becomes her mother.
We often say "mother and child are connected". Parents have a great influence on their children. Many people invisibly accept their parents' aesthetics and values, and their parents' opposition actually represents the voices of some of them.
Just like when I was doing emotional counseling, many people hesitated because of their parents' opposition. I said, if you really love each other, why do you have to listen to your parents? If you really want to get married, can your parents tie you up?
The answer they gave me was surprisingly consistent-"In fact, the main reason is that I think what my parents said is also reasonable". I hope that parents all over the world can respect their children, trust them and believe that they are smart and have judgment. Besides, what age is it? If he is unhappy, won't the divorce be over? If you object, he will be unhappy in the future and even have no courage to divorce, because he is afraid of being "slapped" and being laughed at by his parents-"I told you at the beginning, but now I know, and I don't listen to the old man."