In psychological counseling, some counseling can't be done once or twice, or something goes wrong. So, what caused the consultation to fail or make mistakes? In fact, many times it is because the principle of consultation is not well adhered to.
So, what principles should psychological counseling adhere to?
Yesterday, in the seventh basic class, Mr. Liu explained to us in detail the eight principles that consultants must adhere to:
1, voluntary principle. Consultation is generally "Dont Ask For Help" and "Welcome, Go or Stay". In other words, visitors should actively seek help, not passively and involuntarily. Because only those who take the initiative to ask for help will have better consultation effect.
For example, when parents call to make an appointment for consultation, they must ask parents: Is the child willing to come for consultation? Only children who want to come can consult. If children don't come to the consultation room, they must not come to the consultation room, and they should strictly follow the consultation settings.
2. charging principle. Charging is the protection for both consultants and visitors, and it is the guarantee of consulting effect. It is necessary to unify the charging standards, do not bargain, and do not favor one over the other.
Visitors who don't come after paying fees should be explained 24 hours in advance, otherwise it will be deemed invalid; If the consultant can't do the consultation on time, he should explain it 24 hours in advance, otherwise he should not only supplement the current consultation for the visitors, but also supplement it again.
3. The principle of confidentiality. The basic information, consultation contents and evaluation results of visitors shall be kept confidential.
But the following three situations can be exceptions to confidentiality: first, the parties themselves are willing to disclose. For example, after the consultation, ask the child: What can you tell your parents? What can't you say?
The second is related to the law. Where the law is involved and the legal personnel come to investigate, the relevant contents of the investigation by the legal personnel can be provided after the investigation order is produced. Don't ask others, others can't say anything.
Third, it involves personal safety. If the visitor has self-injury or suicide, he can tell his family and other relevant personnel.
Confidentiality exceptions should minimize the scope of knowledge and maximize the protection of visitors' privacy.
4. Acquaintance avoidance principle. Don't give advice to acquaintances such as friends or colleagues. If you meet relatives of children, teachers, bosses' children, etc. It's really hard to get rid of them. If the client wishes, he can have an interview with psychological knowledge and then make a referral.
5. Matching principle. Counselors and interviewers should consider whether they match from three aspects: professional value, personality characteristics and values. Do what you are good at, and have the same personality characteristics and values. If you don't admit homosexuality, you may not be able to do it.
If you want to know where your shortcomings are, and if you want to break through, you must constantly supervise and analyze. If you can break through gradually, stick to it. Do what you can, do what you can, strive to expand and improve, and always be on the road and improve in the process of doing it. Ask the teacher for help when you encounter a stuck point.
6. The principle of helping others help themselves. Counseling is to help the parties have the ability to help themselves. Because visitors are experts in solving their own problems, and the process of helping others is also the process of self-growth of consultants, because by learning from visitors, we can cultivate ourselves.
7. Time setting principle. The consultation time is generally normal consultation, once a week, 50 ~ 60 minutes each time. Crisis intervention can be carried out two or three times a week for two hours each time. In addition, once the consultation time is determined between consultation and visit, it should be fixed. Fixed time, fixed place and fixed consultant are helpful for visitors to improve the consulting effect.
8. The principle of avoiding dual relations. Psychological counselors should not have a deep dual relationship with visitors. For example, while consulting, fall in love with visitors.