As soon as Ji appeared in the TV series, he made a stunning appearance in a red sports car.
On the eve of the college entrance examination, the students are all attending the swearing-in meeting. Rebellious Ji Yangyang hid in his uncle's stadium to play with his car. In class, academic performance is always at the bottom.
To this end, his father Ji Shengli severely criticized and educated him, threatening: "I told you, don't mix with your uncle in the future."
Ji Yang Yang didn't listen, and the gap between father and son became deeper and deeper.
Season is a typical "problem of juvenile" in anyone's eyes.
Such a "problem of juvenile" is rebellious, withdrawn and has poor grades. Although his father holds an important position, it's no use lecturing him.
Is that rebellious child really hopeless?
I don't think so. Such a rebellious teenager was afraid of losing his hair when he learned that his mother had breast cancer. He shaved his head and said, "I'll accompany you."
Rebellious children will feel sorry for their mothers.
Therefore, to save rebellious children, it is better to change yourself than to work hard on them.
Rebellion is not born.
Every child is an angel, and the companionship of parents is the longest love.
But in reality, due to the pressure of work and life, parents have to leave their homes and naturally miss their children's childhood.
Children can't feel the care of their parents, even if their parents send their grandparents considerable living expenses, it's only a step away.
Without parents' company, relatives around children naturally want to share more love with these left-behind children.
However, these indulgences are to bury the children's lives, and rebellion comes from them.
Rebellion is not the child's fault, but the child is particularly helpless.
Once, in front of Fan Deng Bookstore, a mother saw TV sharing "Rebellion is not the child's fault: gentle parenting without beating, scolding and getting angry".
Mother said doubtfully, "Rebellion is not the fault of children, but the fault of hometown?"
The clerk in the bookstore invited her to go in and have a look. The mother refused, but the child next to her said, "Mom, let's go in and have a look."
The mother who asked questions joined Fan Deng's study in less than ten minutes.
She finally realized:
Rebellion is not the fault of children, but the helplessness of growing up.
The child's body is growing rapidly, exceeding the height of his parents, and will soon enter the adult world, but he doesn't know how to deal with it.
However, many parents have to leave their homes for work and life reasons, lacking companionship and education.
And some parents, even if they are with them, will only teach their children to do homework and go to college, and will not pay attention to their emotional world at all.
If children can't get help, they will resist and go against their parents.
A report from Weibo: In the cold winter, when the outdoor temperature was as low as 5 degrees Celsius, a 1 1 year-old boy walked from Qingpu to Yushan in Songjiang alone.
Fortunately, the police found that sending him home in time was not life-threatening.
When the police asked him why he ran away from home, the boy complained, "I took many interest classes and didn't have time to finish my homework." My parents are responsible for me. "
Parents blame their children for not finishing their homework; Parents don't ask and scold when their children run away from home. ...
Scolding and scolding seem to have become parents' usual means of education, but it is easier to destroy a child.
0 1 scolding and yelling can easily destroy a person.
The book "Growing with you all my life" mentions:
Roaring will cause both sides to secrete a lot of adrenaline, and the two will definitely collide and have a big fight.
In other words, when a child makes a mistake, the more parents make a hullabaloo about, the easier it is to say and do impulsive things.
Wang Yuwei of Shandong University once said:
Once a child is reprimanded, the brain will turn to escape mechanism, and attention will turn to how to escape from parents' scolding.
In this way, children choose to retreat, temporarily escape from their parents, and even start looking for another world, no longer shouting and scolding.
Running away from home, indulging in games and puppy love, these problems arise.
Teenagers' problems are just yelled at by their parents countless times.
Please stop scolding and start not yelling.
"Rebellion is not the child's fault" mentioned:
When you express your opinions and beliefs calmly and firmly, your children will listen more easily.
Gao Zeng revealed in the program: "I don't study and sing, and my mother won't be unhappy."
On the contrary, his mother thinks that children are gifts from parents and never thinks that children should be obedient. After all, children have children's thoughts. How can I be right?
Such an enlightened mother can wander with her backpack, and her son can achieve something in the music world.
Gao and his mother both lived what they wanted.
Stop cursing, yelling, yelling, and doting, and adopt a gentler way to solve the disputes between parents and children.
Being firm and calm is often an effective way to make children listen to your requirements.
Have you ever seen this scene:
On the subway, the mother reads a book, and the child also picks up a book to read; There is also a mother playing with her mobile phone, and the children will stare curiously.
Children are copies of their parents, and their appearance is their parents' appearance.
If you want to educate your children well, you must first change yourself.
0 1 Change children, change yourself first.
Jia is a famous education expert in China. Before that, he was as busy with work as most parents, and his son became a left-behind child in the city.
His son played truant and came last in the exam. Teacher Jia decided to give up his career and become an accompanying father.
At first, he yelled at the children until he found that the more times he yelled, the more rebellious his son became.
Later, he began to change his way of education. He stopped scolding, played with the children and accepted his hobby. Gradually, children began to love learning, and their grades also advanced by leaps and bounds.
Parents have changed themselves, and children will feel and change themselves.
If you want to change your child, you might as well change it yourself.
Ji Shengli was less criticized and began to play racing with children. Ji slowly fell in love with his studies, and later he was even admitted to the famous Munich University.
Education is a long road, and only change is the shortcut.
Companionship is the most lasting love.
Wake up and say to parents:
"Every child has the potential to be an excellent person, but the different education methods of parents give children different lives."
It is said that companionship is the longest love.
If you love your child, you need to accompany him in time, give him encouragement and face the difficulties of growing up with him.
Mm-hmm. Du Jiang and Huo Siyan's "peers" educate outstanding children.
In Where is Dad Going, Du Jiang and Uh-huh took part in a competition: using different tools to compete who swam to the other side first.
All the other dads let their children stay on the shore, but only Du Jiang decided to join them with Uh-huh.
In the process of swimming, uh-huh accidentally fell down. Fear, fear, uh-huh cried.
Du Jiang held him tightly, comforted him, and encouraged Mm-hmm to hold the mat.
Uh-huh's growth is inseparable from the encouragement and companionship of parents again and again.
With the company of "fighting side by side", children can "upgrade their monsters" in the future.
Good family education is to cultivate yourself first, and then be a parent.
There is such a hot list in Zhihu: Does a good family education have an important influence on a child's growth?
That's for sure.
Family education is of great significance to a person's growth.
Good family education is a stepping stone to children's success.
In the face of children, love is instinct, teaching is method and companionship is the greatest wisdom.
Dear parents, education needs to educate people first, and then educate yourself!