Marriage is sometimes more like an investment for women, and the object of investment is of course men. Choose a good man with a happy marriage and a happy family; And choosing a bad man, not to mention the pain of married life, may even affect your health when it is serious.
In short, for women, finding a good man, marriage is the destination; Find a bad man, and marriage is the grave.
Thirty years old, Chen Yu, one of the Phoenix men, said something that made many people angry: "Everyone said that marriage is a safe haven, and I got married just to relax myself and live a down-to-earth life."
As soon as this sentence was spoken, his wife Zhong angrily replied, "Everyone wants to take shelter from the wind. Who should the port be? "
Many times, the man a woman chooses to marry on impulse may find out little by little in her married life that he is not suitable for herself.
And this type of man, Phoenix Man, can be said to be "not suitable for marriage". Because their shortcomings are unbearable for most women. After marrying him, the marriage life is likely to become a mess.
In fact, the first condition for women to choose a spouse is that men should be loyal to themselves. If a man can't guarantee his loyalty to marriage, then marriage will become meaningless.
But now many men can't even guarantee this basic quality.
Recently, my friend Xiaoxi suddenly announced her divorce and ended her marriage just two years ago. As far as I know, she was pregnant when she announced her marriage.
What makes a soon-to-be mother choose to divorce? The reason for this is that friends guess.
In fact, when Xiaoxi just got married, the people around him didn't have any opinions on this marriage at all. Because the man she is going to marry is a real Phoenix man. We all think that men marry her because they covet her family's property.
But Xiaoxi didn't listen to advice at first and decided to marry this man. But I didn't expect that in just two years, the two divorced.
When I asked Xiaoxi why she divorced, she told me what happened to her. And admitted that she regretted her decision to marry a man. If she can choose again, she will never marry Phoenix again.
Xiaoxi's ex-husband Jia Yu is a handsome and eloquent man. When working as a salesman in a company and selling products to Xiaoxi, the two met.
Jiayu fascinated the stream with her appearance and language. Not only bought his things, but also lost his heart.
Jiayu had a girlfriend at that time, but he told Xiaoxi that he had no feelings for this woman and would break up soon. Sure enough, Jiayu and his ex-girlfriend separated not long before they accepted the pursuit of Xiaoxi.
To tell the truth, Xiaoxi looks ordinary, far less than Jiayu's ex-girlfriend. But Jiayu just chose to be with her. Moreover, according to Xiao Qian, Jia Yu keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriend.
It is precisely because of this that people around Xiaoxi think that Jiayu is greedy for the money of Xiaoxi, so she deliberately approached Xiaoxi. In fact, he doesn't love xiaoxi at all.
Xiaoxi won't listen. After six months of love, they decided to get married.
Jiayu's family is poor and can't get money for marriage, so the stream wants nothing, no house and no bride price. And after marriage, the two moved into the big house that Xiaoxi bought before marriage.
After marriage, as the days passed, Xiaoxi found that Jiayu was getting more and more impatient with herself. She used to coax and indulge herself in everything, but now she is easily impatient and sometimes yells at herself.
Moreover, the money earned by Jiayu will not be given to Xiaoxi at all, and Xiaoxi is responsible for all the expenses at home. Moreover, she will ask Xiaoxi for money from time to time and ask him what to do. He will also perfunctory and lend it to his friends.
Later, Xiaoqian learned that Jia Yu gave all his money to his parents in his hometown. He was equivalent to "helping the poor."
In fact, Xiaoxi doesn't care about money. What she cares about is Jiayu's heart. After getting married, I still subsidize my family and don't care about myself at all. How can we live together in the future?
Xiaoxi began to stop Jiayu from doing this, but Jiayu didn't listen to her at all, and said that the family had worked hard to give up themselves and now they wanted to repay them.
After marriage, some relatives and friends of Jiayu's hometown will come to the city from time to time to eat and drink, and everyone will take big bags when they leave. Some people borrow money or work when they come. And the money is lent out and never paid back.
Xiaoxi will give Jiayu money at first, but he won't get any money at last. Unexpectedly, he lost his temper with Xiaoxi, and the couple began to quarrel.
The quarrel between husband and wife at the beginning is likely to intensify if the reasons are not found out. Xiaoxi and Jiayu quarreled, and they started a cold war. Jia Yu once coaxed Xiaoxi, but hardly after marriage, Xiaoxi took the initiative to break the Cold War.
After more than a year of marriage, Xiaoxi became pregnant. It was also at this time that she discovered something was wrong with Jiayu.
I always tell Xiaoxi to work overtime at night and come back very late every night. Asked where he had been, he was also vague. The attitude towards the stream is also a lot of indifference. When I got home, I clung to my mobile phone and looked like I was chatting with someone else.
This aroused the suspicion of Xiaoxi, so she secretly looked at Jiayu's mobile phone. I didn't know Jiayu was cheating until I saw this! The object of the affair is his ex-girlfriend.
Xiaoxi was so angry that he took the evidence to find Jiayu. Facing the fact, Jia Yu had to admit it, but he was still quibbling: she sent it to the door on her own initiative, which had nothing to do with me. I was forced.
The stream broke down. She didn't expect Jiayu, a love rat, to cheat when she was pregnant. Although she still loves Jia Yu in her heart, this mistake is unforgivable. So he resolutely filed for divorce.
Jia Yu certainly doesn't want a divorce. He has always stressed that he was forced, and he still loves Xiaoqian. But Xiaoxi felt sick when he looked at his face and insisted on divorcing him.
Women are sometimes stupid, so stupid that they can't let go after being cheated by men, so stupid that they are cheated by men for their feelings and bodies.
Some women say, I know your shortcomings, and I can tolerate them, but you must at least promise to be loyal to me, right? Even this can't guarantee, is love rat.
When a woman cries after being deceived by love rat, does she ever wonder why she is easy to believe what love rat said, and why everyone around her advised her, but she just wouldn't listen?
Now, the tears you left after being deceived by love rat are actually the water that entered your mind when you didn't listen to advice.