Why do couples or couples always like to say goodbye and get divorced?

When a boyfriend or girlfriend or husband and wife get along, there will always be contradictions. Some couples always talk about breaking up and divorcing when they are in conflict. What do people who often talk about breaking up or divorce think? The possible reasons are as follows:

First, habitually say break up or divorce.

This kind of person may not know that saying the word "break up" or "divorce" will cause serious psychological harm to the other party, but it is completely impulsive and habitual speech above emotions. When they are calm, they have no idea that their words have hurt their feelings. If the other person is psychologically sensitive, try to avoid going to extremes when quarreling.

2. Threatening to break up or divorce each other.

This kind of situation is actually more common in life. For example, if the woman has a conflict with her mother-in-law, the woman threatens the man: If your mother treats me like this again, I will divorce you … and so on. In fact, the parties just want to solve the problem, not really want to break up or divorce. Then, if we use this threatening attitude to deal with problems in communication, the effect will be counterproductive, and the result will only deepen contradictions.

Third, I hope to break up or divorce in exchange for each other's attention.

In fact, people who take this approach cherish this relationship, but they can't feel the other person's concern for themselves for a long time, so they break up or divorce when they are depressed. However, in his heart, he is still full of expectations for this relationship. He hopes that after his breakup or divorce, the other party will re-attach importance to this relationship. If the other party changes, the relationship will soon be reconciled. If the other party misunderstand, it may make things worse.

Fourth, I am disheartened about this relationship and have no hope in my heart.

This situation is very tricky. Because the parties are tired of the dissatisfaction accumulated in this relationship, their deep belief in breaking up or divorce has always been firm. If the other party does not make substantial changes, there is basically no way to change the minds of the parties.