In March 2008, Qiu Yanhua, who was about to take the college entrance examination, called a classmate who was a soldier in a certain army in Guangxi. Unexpectedly, the switchboard turned the phone wrong, and Hainan guy Wei Qinglong received the phone dramatically. In the later days, the two were brother and sister and often called each other. In the same year 65438+February 1 day, Wei Qinglong retired and returned to Hainan. Qiu Yanhua, who is far away in Guangxi, has become his concern, and the two can only convey their love and thoughts by phone.
On September 1 day, 2009, Wei Qinglong was conscious and unconscious in a car accident (commonly known as a semi-vegetative person). Despite the opposition of his family, Qiu Yanhua resolutely left his hometown and came to Hainan to take care of Wei Qinglong, who was unconscious.
Many things happen, and miracles happen. After more than a year of careful nursing, Wei Qinglong's physical condition improved day by day and his consciousness gradually became clear. He can chew rice, gesticulate with his fingers and communicate with others slowly. Helliphellip Qiu Yanhua seems to see hope.
After three years' efforts, Wei Qinglong, 24, and Qiu Yanhua, 23, officially registered their marriage on 20 12 165438. On the wedding day, there were no flowers, no wedding dress, no wedding. However, Qiu Yanhua vowed never to give up.
For a time, this fairy-tale love got the attention of the national media through the report of Nanhai.com. CCTV, Luyu have an appointment, and Love Rubik's Cube are all scrambling to follow up. Nanhai. com also sent reporters to participate in program recording. In this way, Qiu Yanhua's infatuation with Wei Qinglong spread all over Qionggui, and was also blessed by hundreds of millions of viewers.
Once upon a time, the couple in trouble lived in the hospital and lived in 200 yuan every week.
I thought this fairy tale had a happy ending. After six years of ups and downs, the couple who used to be in conflict suddenly announced their divorce.
On April 2, 20 15, the reporter from Nanhai. com came to Sanya Hospital of Traditional Chinese Medicine and met the couple. They still love each other very much. Qiu Yanhua is bigger than two years ago. Wei Qinglong gained weight, but recovered slowly. In the morning, Qiu Yanhua went through the discharge formalities for Wei Qinglong, and then went back to the ward to pack all the luggage. Wei Qinglong sat in a wheelchair and kept looking at his wife. "Love your wife, don't want to get into trouble, wife." Because he can't express himself well (with normal thinking), Wei Qinglong said word by word, and his eyes were full of gratitude and disappointment.
Because there was no time to cook, at noon, Qiu Yanhua sent a box lunch from the hospital cafeteria and carefully fed it to Wei Qinglong's mouth. Wei Qinglong is very satisfied and happy. After her husband finished eating, Qiu Yanhua ate it herself, and the rest was vegetables. "Qinglong loves fish, so I eat vegetables. Two people's living expenses for a week are fixed in 200 yuan. If you overspend, you have to starve. "
In the rehabilitation department, all patients and their families have become "family" because of similar experiences. Fu Yanqi in the next bed is over 50 years old, and it was also a car accident that caused serious brain stem damage. He has been in hospital for half a year. He regards Wei Qinglong as his own son. When he heard the news of their divorce, he cried because he was very moved and sad.
Fu Yanqi's wife Chen told reporters that after getting along with Qiu Yanhua for half a year, they were very loving. Yanhua takes good care of Qinglong. She massages him, feeds him, takes a bath and wipes his urine every day, and works as a cleaner in the hospital twice. It's too difficult. Now I suddenly heard that I want to divorce, and I feel very sorry.
Head nurse Wang takes care of Qiu Yanhua and his wife on weekdays. Her eyes were red when she was interviewed by a reporter. She said that Yan Hua is really a strong girl and her health is not good. She was so tired that she fainted in the ward several times. A small body of 90 kg often needs to help her husband do 150 kg rehabilitation treatment, which makes people feel distressed.
"There is nothing wrong with Qinglong (husband), but the reality is too cruel, and we can't resist it after all." This is the first sentence Qiu Yanhua said when meeting with reporters.
There are unspeakable pains in real life, and love is defeated by reality.
Before the reporter could speak, Qiu Yanhua burst into tears and cried with Wei Qinglong in her arms. She said, "I can't bear to part with him, but I can't help it. I used to think that there would be hope as long as I worked hard, but now I can't see hope. "
Qiu Yanhua has a habit. She keeps accounts every day and has written four or five notebooks. There is clearly a record of buying toilet paper, leeks, etc. And Wei Qinglong's monthly hospitalization expenses. Every donation made by every good-hearted person received more than 75,000 yuan. In recent years, Wei Qinglong's medical expenses have reached 1.5 million yuan, excluding 60% of medical reimbursement, minimum living allowance (monthly 360 yuan) and disability medical assistance (65,438).
"Qinglong's mother always thought I swallowed the donation. I have to remember things clearly and don't want to be misunderstood." Qiu Yanhua said that she thought love was a matter for two people, but her mother-in-law always made things difficult for her. She is alone in Sanya, and the man's family doesn't understand at all. They never ask about Qinglong's illness in recent years. Her mother-in-law comes to the hospital two or three times a year and quarrels every time. All the medical expenses are borne by her alone.
Qiu Yanhua cried as he spoke, and it took a long time to calm down a little. She told reporters that although they love each other, the reality is too cruel. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn't give him a home. She has been wandering outside for six years. She longs for a home and doesn't want to live in a ward all her life. Last year, after numerous trips, she was still unable to obtain a residence permit in Sanya, so she could not apply for public rental housing. First she had the idea of divorce, but Qinglong didn't get better, so she gave up the idea.
Grandpa's death gave her a great blow, and the idea of divorce came out again. She grew up with her grandparents, who have a very good relationship. She came to Hainan to take care of her boyfriend and even get married. Her 80-year-old grandfather never knew. After his death, she began to suspect that it was wrong to abandon her family. "My parents are old, so I think I should be filial and my father is in poor health. When I was sick, I was not around for several times, which was embarrassing, but the palms of my hands were covered with meat. I also love Qinglong. He can't live without me, so I often fall into contradictions. " Qiu Yanhua said.
"I have suffered all the hardships, but I still don't understand." Until the Spring Festival this year, I had another conflict with Wei Qinglong's mother, which completely overwhelmed her and strengthened my idea of divorce. Qiu Yanhua said that life is stressful and her mother-in-law doesn't trust her. She has no reason to insist. Maybe it's time to let go.
She carefully communicated this idea with her husband, but Qinglong nodded without hesitation. He said,' I don't want to implicate my wife'.
Both parties donated RMB 20,000.00 to Wei Qinglong for the peaceful dissolution of the engagement.
On the afternoon of the 2nd, the reporter followed Qiu Yanhua and Wei Qinglong to the Sixth Team of Ledong Leguang Farm, found Wei Qinglong's parents, got the household registration book, and prepared to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce. However, it didn't go as smoothly as expected. At about 4 pm that day, I arrived at Wei Qinglong's house. Two low bungalows are dilapidated. Only my mother is at home, and my father is still doing odd jobs in mango fields.
"I can't find the account book, don't push me." Wei Qinglong's mother was so excited that she dropped all her luggage on the ground. It is difficult for her to accept the fact of divorce. Her mouth has been chanting that Qiu Yanhua is here to cheat marriage, using her son as a shield and gaining sympathy from others everywhere. She hurt our family on purpose and won't forgive her.
After nearly an hour of stalemate, Wei Qinglong's mother calmed down. She told reporters: "It's not that I don't care about Qinglong. My family is really burdened. The eldest son spent all his family's money because of tumor surgery. My father and I also had a lot of physical problems and owed others a lot of debts, so Qiu Yanhua took care of Qinglong, but every time I went to Sanya to see Qinglong, she was very mean to me. As soon as I speak, I will quarrel. I said to give up treatment, she must insist. "
For her son's married life in recent years, mother Lu Xiannv has always been very pessimistic. She said that when she didn't agree to their marriage, she expected that one day, how could a good girl fall in love with a vegetable? "I'm not making things difficult for her, I just don't believe it. She didn't kneel on the show and said it would take her whole life. I won't agree to get married. She never treated me as a mother, and I don't recognize such a daughter-in-law. "
One more thing, it is also difficult for the fairy Lu to say. She said that Qinglong had only been married for more than two years, and her daughter-in-law was going to ask for a divorce. This is ridiculous in the eyes of rural people and is looked down upon by neighbors. The family is also unable to take care of her son. She hoped that they would postpone their divorce for a year and pay off their debts.
If you can't get the hukou book, you can't get divorced. It was not until 7 o'clock in the evening that Wei Qinglong's father came home from work and saw his son in a wheelchair. His tears are spinning. He used to hold his son's trembling arm, and tears finally fell. "Just like three years ago, the condition has not improved."
"I agree to divorce. Xiaoqiu has no credit and hard work. If the account is clear, go through the formalities. " Enlightened Wei Guofeng buried his head and wiped his tears. Just then, Qiu Yanhua burst into tears and suddenly knelt in front of him, knocking his head three times and saying, "Dad, I'm sorry."
On the morning of April 3, Wei Qinglong and Qiu Yanhua formally went through the divorce formalities in Ledong Civil Affairs Bureau and signed a divorce agreement. The remaining 20,000 yuan was donated to Wei Qinglong, and this six-year relationship ended in regret. For the future, Qiu Yanhua doesn't have much planning. She said, "I just want to live a good life, honor my parents and hope Qinglong will get better."
Although this troubled couple didn't come to the end, their six-year persistence has brought enough warmth and touch to this impetuous society.
It is embarrassing to comment on the distressed couples who have been shattered by reality in Hainan.
20 1 1, a girl from Guangxi bravely walked to Sanya to "wake up" the immortal love of her vegetative boyfriend and touched the land of Qionggui. This movie-like love fairy tale has become the focus of national media attention. In everyone's blessing, the couple in trouble tied the knot as they wished, but the fairy tale did not have a happy ending. At the beginning of this year, the girl Qiu Yanhua suddenly filed for divorce with the man's family. On the morning of April 3, the two formally went through the divorce formalities in Ledong Civil Affairs Bureau, and their six-year relationship came to an end. (April 3, Nanhai Net)
Once upon a time, this marriage was full of beautiful expectations for love. Now, this initially enviable and blessed marriage has come to an end, which is undoubtedly a sigh, and it also makes people worry about the current marriage and love: how long can love last in a marriage that is easily shattered by reality? Judging from the report, all parties have their own reasons, which seem so reasonable. For example, Qiu Yanhua, unable to bear the suspicion of the man's family and the increasingly heavy reality, had to give up her initial insistence.
The arguments put forward by the man's family, such as the woman's pursuit of wealth and profit, are undoubtedly the most cynical and realistic views at present. In this way of thinking, it is difficult to explain why you insist on taking care of a vegetable, not for money. It is precisely because of this idea that I have all kinds of doubts and cold eyes about Qiu Yanhua, and I have the straw to crush Qiu Yanhua. Of course, we can't and can't judge who is right or wrong, or it is reasonable in our own opinion.
But through the failure of this marriage, it is inevitable that people will lose their love and marriage. The so-called reality is becoming a life creed that some people talk to comfort and believe in. Under this secular vision and concept, marriage and love are no longer simple, but are mixed with many material desires and many vulgar labels. We have reason to believe that Qiu Yanhua is caring for this relationship with true feelings, not for the so-called fame and fortune. Besides her great efforts, it can also be seen from the division of property after her divorce. If she really wants profit, why not donate a penny?
A beautiful love story, because the reality is shattered, left endless regrets and thoughts. However, we hope that people can abandon their materialistic desires and break away from vulgar ideas, so that pure love and marriage will not be broken by reality and leave a beautiful world. (Xiao Shiping)