I dare not write, because the mountain stops at the teacher's character, knowledge, realm and feelings.
If I hadn't finished my homework, I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to write, and I always feel unprepared.
When I understand that being afraid of writing badly is narcissism, I will let myself go. For better or worse, the teacher is present and impartial. Good or bad, this is not my definition.
When you figure this out, your fingers will relax.
A few years ago, I talked to Ms. Zhang Wei, and she commented on the teacher like this: Master is a treasure.
Master, I envy you! Treasure, the wealth of the country! At that time, I thought how beautiful my heart would be if I had the opportunity to call my teacher "Master"!
At that time, the teachers were listed in the annual curriculum and labeled:
I remember the sentence "teacher is treasure" firmly and deeply. I wanted to verify it because I was surprised.
Of course, I remember the evaluation, not my own experience. At that time, I just followed the teacher from a distance and studied sporadic psychological knowledge superficially. Coincidentally, last year 10, I got up the courage to sign up for the teacher's "20 18 New Sunshine Primary School Training" class and began to systematically learn psychological knowledge from the teacher. Three months later, I signed up for the "20 19 New Sunshine Intermediate Training" class that I am still studying.
Only in this way can we have a chance to understand and prove the saying "a master is a treasure" step by step. It's getting clearer and clearer. When I sit more and more in real time, what I feel inside is shock.
Please listen to me carefully.
-"This man could have become a master of literature!"
When talking about the sense of hearing in psychological phenomena, in order to make people better understand that "the sense process involves transforming stimuli into forms that the brain can understand (nerve signals), just like a mobile phone transforms electronic signals into sound waves that you can hear." The teacher came to Su Shi's "If there is a piano sound on the piano, why not put it in the box?" If the sound is on your fingers, why not listen to it on your fingers? He also told us that long before Su Shi, the Tang Dynasty poet Wei wrote a poem "Listen to the voice of Jialing River": the water is calm and the stone is silent. Why are the two excited, and the thunder turns into an empty mountain?
At this point, the teacher is not satisfied with imparting professional knowledge, but "supporting the long pole and returning to the greener grass": although playing is concerned with the sound, it is not listening but attentively; My mind has been forgotten, and I don't think the world is gloomy. The beauty and noise of the piano come neither from the piano itself nor from the fingers, but from a person's state of mind!
This is the teacher's explanation of "psychology is the function of the brain", not an explanation. The difference between explanation and explanation is that explanation is a personal creation after understanding. It's made, not made.
Look at the explanation that "psychology is a response to objective reality".
Teacher: A blind friend's surname is Ding. One day, I suddenly got a call from Mr. Ding, who I hadn't seen for many years, asking him to preface his new book and claiming that he was in Hainan. Hainan, the place that teachers yearn for, has failed many times. How did the blind friend get there? The teacher was filled with emotion, and the story of Peng Duanshu in "For Learning" stirred in his mind:
Teacher's summary: Different world, same wonderful. Isn't this explanation just playing cards according to the routine? Such surprises abound in the classroom, such as: "One person can't understand another person for only one reason". As soon as the voice stopped, everyone's curiosity was raised and their eyes were focused on the teacher. "Because you are not him!" , reasonable, unexpected? Sometimes, for the sake of teaching effect, if you don't stop talking, just pick a few words: psychological counseling is more effective than correctness! It makes sense to subvert common sense. When pious students were preaching and showing off with this sword, the teacher began to knock on the blackboard: pay attention! Attention! The premise of this sentence is: on the basis of correctness, don't make mistakes, otherwise it will be the opposite! Another example: happiness and happiness are what we pursue, but what about pain and misfortune? It is necessary for happiness and happiness; There is no road on the ground, the students just instinctively walked the second sentence smoothly, but the teacher said that "the revolutionary road was found in the process of revolution"! These "differences" are often exciting, startled at the same time, or * * * enlightening, or inspiring, and more than seven scenes arouse students' thinking, thus achieving the teacher's goal. Therefore, every class, three hours is always not enough, nor is it enough. So students from Tai 'an come from Tai 'an by train every Sunday. A Dai of Pingdu and I are already on our way to Qingdao. We have classes at six o'clock every Sunday morning, rain or shine, tired but not bitter, painful and happy. Just for these three hours of face-to-face teaching and listening. As the teacher quoted: How can the canal be so clear? Only the source comes from running water.
One day, the teacher chatted with his mistress and asked: According to a survey, no matter how good the marriage is, couples have strangled each other 50 times and divorced 200 times in their lives. what do you think? Jenny answered this way: not only 50 times, 200 times, but 100 times, 400 times! If the number is wrong, I can't remember it clearly. ) In class, when the teacher said this, it is hard to hide the pride of the reality that "a real warrior dares to face dripping blood"! This is reminiscent of an interview with Qiao Yu's father that I saw on TV. The host asked the husband and wife to love each other for life. What is the secret? Joe always answers: forbearance! Endure! When the camera switches, the old lady appears and answers: I can't stand it, I can't stand it! How interesting and lovely!
At that time, the emotional program "Emotional Station" of Qingdao TV invited the teacher as a guest. At the recording scene, the rich woman who fought a battle for the cosmetics mall in the island city failed to pick up the topic designed by the host, and suddenly came up with spicy language, which shocked the world. Thanks to the teacher's great theory, she "surrendered". As a result, the rich woman called the TV station the next day and asked Mr. Li how to calculate the one-hour consultation fee. Afraid of causing trouble to the teachers, the staff offered high prices to keep the rich women from pestering them. Unexpectedly, the rich woman did not hesitate, domineering to "package" the teacher for one day! Psychological counseling, of course (there should be an expression pack here).
In life, teaching is his greatest hobby. The career has been integrated with him, and psychological elements flow in his blood, embedded in his bones and rubbed into his muscles. He once described himself like this: when he became a practicing psychologist, at the moment he found the source, he suddenly felt extremely excited, as if a wandering wanderer suddenly returned to his spiritual home.
He believes that mystery needs no explanation, because mystery comes from ignorance. He likes visiting temples or Taoist temples. But in the face of all kinds of clay sculptures, I never kneel down and beg for mercy, nor will I donate some incense money for my future. Because "I know in my heart that although I have done shameful things, even bad things, according to my simple conscience, I still can't reach the level of endangering the world." I have been scolded by my wife at most once, criticized by my leader once, or whispered behind my colleagues once, which has offset my sin. " Look, interesting and grounded! However, he believes in mystery and mystery. He said that mystery is a pseudonym, it is just an existence beyond our understanding.
In the article "There are no cars coming and going in the cat room", the teacher came back from morning exercise and met a cat that was seriously injured by a car. A group of people are watching. The kitten is two months old. "I know that such a big cat is like a child of seven or eight years old. It is extremely active and doesn't know the danger. I have a nosebleed in my mouth, I cry feebly when I twitch, and I have incontinence ... suddenly I feel that the softest place in my heart has been severely poked. I squatted down without hesitation and looked through it with my hands. I'm really dying. When my hand touched it, it had no instinctive defense. I picked up a plastic bag, carrying it in my right hand and breakfast in my left hand, and went home ... "Finally, the kitten was able to recover and return to nature. She" fell in love with the teacher and was so wet that she was forgotten in the Jianghu. "
Fireworks can't be separated from eating, which is the first need for people to live. The teacher especially likes to eat braised pork, but he can't keep his mouth shut. Two years ago, the teacher mainly meditated and practiced "double dishes" for one hour every day. For a while, the teacher's body was much stronger and more capable, and his whole face was completely new. Now, belly, look at belly again.
How deep and warm it is, how sharp it is. The following are some quotations from teachers for readers to "criticize": criticism is different from criticism, and criticism is the highest degree of respect; All reading is misreading; There is only one reason why a person can't understand another person, because you are not him; The reason why you think others are unattainable is because you are kneeling; Insomnia is because I want to sleep too much; Responsibility is an ability!
The teacher once said that philosophy is the mother of psychology and physiology is the father of psychology. Listening to the teacher, I didn't waste a word, it was all golden sentences. It is either psychological knowledge, philosophical principles or humanistic feelings. Looking up at the starry sky and stepping on the earth, we often go to Inner Mongolia to give lectures "thinking about the past" instead of "mourning for the present". On the grassland, he "clearly saw the slow flow of time" by "seeing the difference between what the ancients saw and what the present people saw.
On the grassland, the teacher didn't see the kind of "the sky is grey, the wild is boundless, and the wind blows the grassland to see cattle and sheep", nor did he see what Mr. Lao She saw "the sun is falling thousands of miles, not boundless." There are mountains on all sides, the ground is green and the mountains are green. "I can't understand" the lines of those hills are so soft, just like Chinese paintings that are only rendered in green without pen and ink. Green is dripping everywhere and flowing gently into the clouds. "But it is by seeing what our predecessors didn't see that we realized that" people can't step into the same river twice "in Herakrit. Only in this way, the teacher explained Confucius' lament that "the deceased is like a husband, not giving up day and night" and firmly believed that Confucius and Heraclitus saw the passage of time like themselves. At the same time, the teacher no longer agrees with the French philosopher Bergson's point of view: the external world has only space, but no time, because there we can't see the continuation of objects in time, but only the extension of objects in space; On the contrary, in our inner psychological world, only time has no space ... "。
Also said "time", when the children are immersed in love, the teacher described "time is an unspeakable nostalgia". This statement comes from an old man's consultation. The old man is white-haired and counts a few days every year until his daughter comes home. Compared with the description of the famous psychotherapist Lolo May in Being: A New Direction of Psychiatry and Psychology, the mental age of the elderly is clearly visible:
1 year-old children live in the present, 3-year-old children realize that there is a regular time sequence of the day, 4-year-old children have the concept of "today", 5-year-old children have the concept of yesterday and tomorrow, and 8-year-old children begin to calculate the time by week, and every day seems so long. /kloc-At the age of 0/5, the time unit becomes a month, around the age of 20, and the time unit is a year. At the age of 40, people begin to calculate time according to years and decades.
It's not too late. Facing a girl who tried to commit suicide because she lost her mother, the teacher said: Time will change everything. A few years later, the girl is already a white-collar worker in the enterprise, repeating what the teacher said in those days. The repetition of the girl made the teacher sigh at the passage of time and Kant's sentence, "Time is the innate form of human feelings, and people project it to the outside world." With the help of this projection mechanism, the teacher saw the time again.
Yes, I saw it again.
"Being is perceived", "knowledge is right", "politics is right" and so on. These philosophical sayings are used by teachers to explain postmodern psychology's concept of "construction", which is very subtle and makes people suddenly enlightened. All psychological problems are constructed. As soon as visitors hear this self-healing function, the "original sin" of psychological problems is immediately reduced by more than half.
Calling a teacher a "psychologist" won't make me feel honored at all. If you don't understand, it's because my eyes are farther than yours at this point.
The teacher told us earnestly: we must remember that all good helpers have nothing to do with you and all bad consultations are your responsibility to establish such a thinking mode; A good counselor never talks about how many people with psychological problems I have cured, only talks about his own failure experience and lessons, and only shares the process and experience; Counselors never know what they say is right, but they always know what they say is wrong. For a counselor, knowing what you shouldn't do is more important than knowing what you should do. This is what the consultant asks of himself, so you must remember it.
Once I attended a "hypnosis sharing" meeting, at that time, Dr. Ma Chunshu concluded that "the effect everyone said is only a side effect of hypnosis!" The teacher is very appreciative of this. "This statement hit the nail on the head, and it was shocking and revealed the scientific essence of hypnosis." "And with an intuitive live demonstration, I tore off the heads of sheep hung by grandstanding people and revealed that I was actually selling dog meat."
The intermediate training is coming to an end, and the two phases of study have made me feel complete. Teachers' teaching establishes the connection between eastern and western cultures, philosophy, psychology and students in time and space. It seems to be a painting, perfect and self-consistent, rich and exquisite. Because it is of great significance and vast content, we look forward to it. Follow the teacher and be baptized again and again. The metaphor of frog in the well, three-season man and mushroom in North Korea undoubtedly reminds us of the phenomenon of "blind people touching elephants" and "ponies crossing the river". Maybe we can never get out of the trap of thinking, but constant awareness itself is on the way out of the trap, isn't it?
Limited by my own writing skills, I only choose a few dimensions of "interpretation" teachers here. The teacher is undoubtedly a dictionary to me, with endless connotations. Every sentence of his lecture is a cross-cutting connection between science, art and humanities, and finally ends up in the theory and practice of psychology.
Readers will find that the teacher's original text is quoted in large paragraphs, and there is no way. The teacher's language is wonderful. I said I couldn't write such good words, so I could only quote them. Because I learn the original flavor over and over again, the teacher also said that learning begins with imitation.
I often regret my age, and I will inevitably feel frustrated and sigh that I have no chance to reach the level of a teacher in my life. However, what comes to mind more often is a sentence from Mr. Hu Shi:
Who cares? Every inch is an inch of happiness.