It has been reported in the news before that because her son is a doctor, I hope the woman can marry her house and car to her son to "get married and start a career". Perhaps in the eyes of this mother-in-law, her son condescended to be expensive. If such a family has prepared a wedding room for their son, it is impossible to marry them unless they are "royalty".
Married, the house and career can only be regarded as icing on the cake. What really matters is that both men and women are congenial and have the determination to enter marriage. Having a stable income doesn't mean that you don't have to bear the pressure of supporting your family in the future. Having a house does not mean that you can have a ready-made family directly in the future. House is not equal to home, and money can't buy happiness.
What do you value? What are the points in your eyes that deserve attention? If you care about money and value the house, you can only see these, but you can't see a person's personality and advantages. If you care about the inner nature of people, then these external conditions will not be the factors that affect your decision.
Xiao Li's mother is the kind of person who wants her son to pursue stability. After failing in the college entrance examination, Xiao Li missed the ideal medical university and did not enter the track set by her mother. But in his junior year, his mother began to urge him to review and take the public exam. Xiao Li actually agrees with his mother's point of view that boys must have a stable job in order to realize other ideals in life.
Juanjuan and Xiao Li are college classmates. They met while exchanging information in a post bar. They shared the same ideals and pursuits, and soon became boyfriend and girlfriend. Xiao Li's mother doesn't agree with their relationship, for fear of delaying their studies. Moreover, Juanjuan has a married elder sister above and a senior high school elder sister below. Her parents are ordinary working-class people. But seeing two people interacting, encouraging each other and promoting each other's study, Xiao Li's mother was relieved. If two people can be admitted to the civil service together, they will agree to be together.
However, I don't know what went wrong. Juanjuan was eliminated in the second round because he was nervous during the interview. Only Xiao Li was admitted. When Xiao Li's mother knew about it, she asked Xiao Li to break up with Juanjuan quickly on the grounds that her feelings were not deep, and arranged many relatives to introduce Xiao Li to her. After seeing two primary school teachers and two nurses again, Xiao Li finally realized that her mother was not joking with herself, but really wanted to separate Xiao Li from Juanjuan.
Love on campus, because it is not polluted by desire, is always associated with innocence and beauty. At this point, Xiao Li felt that he could not live without Juanjuan, so he took away the household registration book and the marriage certificate with Juanjuan without telling his family. Raw rice is cooked into mature rice, and his mother doesn't agree.
One day, my mother suddenly took Xiao Li to the city center and booked a small apartment of 80 square meters in full, saying that it was to celebrate that he could have a stable job in the future, and that the little nurse on the last blind date could marry him a 60 square meter apartment, hoping that the man would better buy a house before marriage. Xiao Li heard that her mother was already planning her future, but there was no Juanjuan in this future. Xiao Li doesn't want to hide any more. She told her that he and Juanjuan had obtained the license and were legally married. I hope her mother won't plan a blind date for herself in the future. He will be embarrassed.
Xiao Li's mother is always an experienced person. Hearing Xiao Li say this, she was not angry. Instead, she asked Xiao Li to call Juanjuan's parents here to discuss their marriage. Xiao Li was very happy when she saw her mother promise to marry Juanjuan. "But usually when parents meet, the man goes to the woman's house. How does it make sense for them to come over? Mom, you are wrong ... "
"I didn't say anything wrong, I just called them over. When a man goes to a woman's house, he proposes. You all got the certificates. What kind of proposal? Since you don't care about these manners, let her parents come. Doesn't she have a sister and a younger sister? At that time, you can also let the two families know each other. "
Knowing that her mother-in-law would meet her family in the future, Juanjuan immediately bought tickets for her parents to bring her sister over at the weekend. When I met my sister's brother-in-law at the gate of the hotel after receiving my parents and sisters, I found that the place to eat was a high-end five-star hotel in the city.
Juanjuan was very moved and felt that Xiao Li's family valued themselves. Before stepping into the door of the private room, she never imagined that she was about to face the Hongmen banquet and parted ways with Xiao Li.
After the daily greetings, everyone sat down one after another. According to the rules on the wine table, Xiao Li's mother did not let Juanjuan's parents sit in the main seat, but arranged them near the vegetable room. "I bought a suite for Xiao Li in full, just last week, and I will make a wedding room for the young couple in the future!"
Juanjuan didn't expect such a big surprise. "Xiao Li hasn't told me yet, maybe he wants to give me a surprise." Juanjuan's parents were very happy, and her sister and brother-in-law also cast envious eyes on Juanjuan. "We have been married for four or five years, and the down payment is still confiscated. Juanjuan, you should thank your mother-in-law well and make a toast soon. " My sister has been there before. She is busy reminding Juanjuan what she should pay attention to, so she can't lose her dignity.
"Wait, I'm not finished. Wait until I finish drinking, then drink! " Xiao Li quickly took Juanjuan and sat down. "After listening to my mother, there may be surprises." Xiao Li didn't know what her mother-in-law meant when she announced buying a house, because she kept telling Xiao Li not to tell Juanjuan that there was a suite in her name.
"In-laws, you see Xiao Li is admitted to the civil service now, but it hasn't started working yet, and there is no income, let alone savings. Juanjuan, I failed the exam. I heard that I am worried about finding a job now.
We parents must help our younger brothers and sisters. You see, I've already bought a suite, and it's the full amount, so I don't have to ask them to repay the mortgage. But I really can't afford this decoration. Why don't you go out and turn it into Juanjuan's dowry? Before the other party could speak, Xiao Li's mother suddenly took out a contract from her bag. "I've shown it, and all the furniture is included."
"Xiao Li, what does your mother mean?" Xiao Li didn't know his mother would do this. "My mother may be trying to lighten our burden, so both parents have to take full responsibility for the house ..." Xiao Li looked at her smiling mother and surprised wife. "That my daughter's dowry is used for decoration. Is it necessary to add her name to this room? "
Juanjuan's mother knew that her daughter couldn't talk, so she stopped beating around the bush and asked the key question directly. "That's impossible. You want to add a name when you pay 200 thousand! " "Mom, let's discuss this matter slowly after dinner. Look, the dishes are getting cold. " Xiao Li saw the strong smell on the wine table and wanted to eat something to ease the atmosphere first. "This matter is not negotiable. My son is so excellent that he has suffered. My son is still a civil servant. It's a blessing to get married at your ancestral grave. "
Juanjuan heard her mother-in-law boast that her son would belittle herself in the future, and she didn't want to put up with it any longer. "I made 200,000 renovations. In case of divorce, I can't take the wall away. Then my parents are not all playing Shui Piao! " "Your name is added to the real estate license. If you divorce my son, you can't take half of the property. Then my money didn't reach Shui Piao ... "
Xiao Li heard her mother say this, and when she saw Juanjuan just getting married, she considered divorce. "Then we won't have these problems if we don't get divorced!" Juanjuan, you can't think of everything as bad! ""That was when I first got married, and I wanted to share our property with my in-laws. Will you sign this contract or not? I brought all my pens. It can't be money! "
Xiao Li's mother disagrees with Juanjuan's parents. "You are not really rich? You want to come into my house empty-handed. Not so cheap! " When Juanjuan saw each other, she began to humiliate her parents. "First of all, I entered a listed company and signed a contract, which is more than enough for your son. Second, our family doesn't have much money, but we won't be unable to come up with this 200,000! " Xiao Li saw Juanjuan start arguing with her mother, so she began to encourage her: "Juanjuan, my mother didn't mean that. Don't get me wrong, she bought us a house. How could she think that you are not good enough for me! Then our family buys a house, is it inappropriate for your family to decorate? I know many people, I marry my daughter and marry a house! "
"Is that the house you bought me? This is for you. Your mother thinks I don't deserve to marry you! " "Juanjuan, I said my mother didn't mean it. What's the point of your importuning! My mother emptied the family's money and bought me a suite. What else do you want her to do? " Juanjuan saw that Xiao Li was bent on protecting his mother and didn't mean to speak for himself at all. "Aunt, you are really something. I used to think that love is indestructible, but now it has been broken.
I don't want your son back. "Juanjuan left the box to her family. Xiao Li wanted to go out and explain, but her mother stopped her. " Son, you are too young to see through many things. I can see this girl clearly at a glance. If I can find a husband like you, she should try her best to grasp you, but look at her attitude just now. My mother just did a little test. Who knows?
Regardless of whether Xiao Li's mother's behavior is right or not, Xiao Li's practice is definitely wrong. She is what her mother said, and Juanjuan is husband and wife. He should protect Juanjuan's face in front of her parents, especially her family. Even if the last two people didn't get divorced, Juanjuan's parents would be very sad to see their daughter being calculated by her mother-in-law. After a long time, the relationship between in-laws will definitely be disharmonious.
For people who value money too much, they think marriage has something to do with house and money. There are always people on the Internet who attack the material things of modern women, and refuse to get married without a house, but in fact, not everyone cares so much about the house. I think Juanjuan doesn't want to pay this decoration money because her mother-in-law imagines herself as a greedy woman and thinks that she married Xiao Li because she is a civil servant, has an 80-square-meter house and has no mortgage.
House is not equal to home, and money can't buy happiness. Jiang Xun once said in "Four Interesting Lectures", "Actually, a house is not equal to a home. The house is a piece of hardware, and someone must take care of it, manage it and decorate it. This is called home. Some people only have houses and no homes. "