It should be two years ago that Xiao Juan began to confide in me the evidence of her husband's alleged infidelity. Since then, this suspicion has never stopped.
Last Spring Festival, she said that she boarded her husband's Taobao and saw that he bought 99 roses and gave a box of chocolates to a girl. Then she had a big fight with her husband. She questioned him, but he denied it and repeated it back and forth. Finally, he (he, not her) angrily dropped his mobile phone!
When Xiao Juan told me, his expression was cold. He seemed to have accepted the fact, perhaps because he was ashamed. But that's not what I care about, but that she specifically emphasized that "that's his new mobile phone." Hearing this sentence, I actually think she deserves it.
He dropped his mobile phone, he doesn't feel bad, you feel bad; He buys things for other girls, he doesn't feel bad, you feel bad; You buy a pair of shoes for your child for 20 yuan, and he sends a rose for more than ten yuan to other girls; You cook for children at home, help them with their homework, take a bath, tell stories and put them to sleep. He eats and drinks, sings, washes his feet and hooks up with girls outside. How ironic!
I have no choice. I just said, "You should pick it up again, run to the second floor and fall hard." You can't afford to lose your mobile phone, your long-lost love and your real marriage. Only your ruined life can muddle along!
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Xiao Juan's husband used to do business in partnership with others. First, he opened an electric car shop and agreed that they would take turns to look after the shop. Business stopped, so he asked Xiao Juan to take turns with others for himself. He used the money earned by the tram shop to open an electrical appliance store with others and borrowed some money.
At the end of last year, he completely withdrew his shares from the electrical appliance company, and the other party gave him the last 10 thousand yuan he owed him, even. But he still didn't leave any money and quit at a loss. In fact, this store has long since stopped making money. On the one hand, it was impacted by the internet, on the other hand, the partner's mind was no longer in the store.
Without making any money, the other party entrusted his wife to look after the store for him, but his wife didn't know anything and wouldn't introduce him. He went to find a part-time job himself. Only Xiao Juan's husband is paying to make money to replenish the stock, but the income should be distributed between the two families, and finally they can only break up.
We don't know how much money we can earn a year, but I always think it's ok to save a little money a month, but Xiao Juan's husband doesn't, because he has an addictive hobby-eating and drinking out.
It doesn't matter once or twice occasionally, but he doesn't. He eats out for more than 26 days a month. He may not be able to go home when he goes to work in the morning and at noon, nor at night. It was especially rampant at night, and I didn't come back until the children and Xiao Juan fell asleep.
Xiao Juan's husband has no life plan at all. Now they live on the homestead in the village. Their parents chipped in to build a house and a sofa a long time ago. It all collapsed and was covered with a layer of cloth. Xiao Juan had long wanted to buy a fully automatic washing machine, but her husband refused to buy it. The wing is still the original stove.
I wonder, as a young man, shouldn't you think about how to decorate your home, save money to buy furniture from time to time, and make your home look like it? But he's not. He seems to be fine after eating, drinking and having fun every night. A normal person should have replaced the sofa that he can't see at home long ago, but he has no idea at all.
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Let's talk about Xiao Juan. First, I work in a supermarket, and then I help look after the tram shop. After the store closed, I went to work in an optical shop. I felt that the working hours in the optical shop were too long, so I took out insurance. Now all the people who can pull are finished, and there is no list. Insurance companies don't go much. I pick up children at home full-time.
I think it is understandable that Xiao Juan has been working for people, but she still has two most important problems. First, after graduating from junior high school for so many years, she has never studied again.
When watching the tram shop, I suggest that she learn computer in her spare time, instead of just watching some mindless TV dramas and brushing her mobile phone. People always have to learn something for a rainy day, but she didn't. A few years passed like this.
When working in an optical shop, the basic salary was very low, basically relying on commission, but her family wanted her to learn how to optometry and glasses and other technical things, but she said there was no shortage of people in technology. At that time, her basic salary was around 1500, and her commission was not much more than 2,000. The optometrist can get 3500-4000 a month.
The working hours in the optical shop are really long. At that time, there was no time to go home for dinner at noon, but these were not the most critical. The most important thing is that no matter what I have done in these years, Xiao Juan has not learned anything. Chatting with her every day, the most common conversation is to show me her circle of friends with her mobile phone. "Where do you think everyone else went to play?" "others bought it and made it", and then I envied it. Once I went out, I didn't delve into anything, just wanted to make friends.
Xiao Juan also has a problem, that is, he has done a lot of work over the years, but he didn't get anything, swinging around, and no one can get anything.
She said that she envied her friend who sold children's clothes. They worked together in the supermarket for the first time. After resigning, people opened a shop, and she has been wandering around the job-hopping, so that there is no job to change now. She said it's ok to open the shop early, but in fact, I want to say that it's not too late for you to open it now. The point is that you won't last long.
One more thing, Xiao Juan signed up for driving school four years ago, and now he doesn't even take any exams. I've always said I don't have time, I'm busy, and I have to pick up my children at work. Then she complained that her husband didn't drive with her on a business trip. what can I say? I want to say that most of the time your mother-in-law comes to pick up your children.
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Xiao Juan sent me a screenshot the day before yesterday:
I see the three of you.
This place is too small to live in.
I will find you.
Where do you live?
I sleep on you.
Stop joking.
I want to fuck you.
This is the chat record of her husband and a girl on WeChat.
I really want to throw up, I want to throw up. Xiao Juan asked me what to do, and I said take a knife. She never came back.
When I asked again the next day, she said they had recovered. She cooks at home and her husband goes home for dinner!
I want to say something. What can I say? Every time is a casual past, there will be a casual beginning.
My understanding of the problem of men's confusion is this: what kind of attitude you have, what kind of understanding and lessons he has; How much capital you have, how much courage he has; How confident you are about your marriage, he won't dare to mess with you.
So it's embarrassing. Even if Xiao Juan's husband really cheated, what can Xiao Juan do? She has no savings and doesn't know how to live at all; She lives in the countryside and can't consciously accept divorced women; She has two children and left them to the man, but she is unwilling to take them away, unable to support herself and unable to remarry. If she cries and makes noise, people will ignore her. You can cry and make fun. If I go out, I will drink and I won't go home. Whatever you want. If you say divorce, you divorce, and you dare not mention it for the second time.
Sorrow, sorrow, great sorrow. I have no education, no thoughts, no ability to support myself independently, no higher understanding of marriage than secular people, no right to speak, no capital and self-confidence in their relationship, and nothing but sadness.
Find once, cry once, and meet again. Sadness. The point is that there are many unproductive women like Xiao Juan who are facing the same situation. Sadness.