Parents' Classroom: How should parents communicate well between home and school?

"How can I understand the situation of my child at school? How to maintain good communication with teachers? " "As soon as the child comes home, he locks himself up and asks nothing. I was so worried. What should I do? " "What do children say if they like to hear it?" The beginning of school is not long, and the topic of how to communicate between home and school has aroused heated discussion among all the friends in the group. Experts say that the best way to communicate between home and school is for parents to learn to listen and understand the situation before they can "prescribe the right medicine". Teacher, how are the children at school? How to communicate effectively between home and school? Atao: The new semester has begun. Do friends feel that communication with teachers is smooth and effective? In the Mood for Love: 80 students in my children's class called the teacher to communicate on a small matter. Is the teacher bored? Atao: If parents don't contact the teacher, the teacher will be very annoyed. In the Mood for Love: When you meet something important, you must communicate with your contacts. If it's not important, it's better to disturb the teacher less. Lehaha: Although communication between home and school is very important, it is better to spend time getting to know children than teachers. Tianlan: Build a class group and communicate with the teacher online if there is anything, so that no one will disturb you. Teachers can also notify in the group if they have something, and some good books and courses can be shared among parents, teachers and students. Sometimes children forget their homework and can't even do it, so they can ask questions on it. Lehaha: When parents go in, they can change their names, calling them so-and-so's father and so-and-so's mother. In the Mood for Love: Can you establish a class group for a long time by changing teachers frequently? Lehaha: I communicate with the teacher to find out what problems the child still needs to solve. The people who can solve these problems are the children's parents. Atao: Is there any other way to promote communication between parents and teachers? Tianlan: My parents are still those. Just change teachers. Still water runs deep: there is no need to dissolve the group when changing teachers, just pull the new teacher into the group. Tianlan: Parents can build and manage groups, and teachers just use them. Atao: Parents can also contact their teachers frequently and ask them about the progress of teaching in their school. Can the children keep up? Can you finish your homework actively? Which children do children usually like to play with? What are the personalities of these children? Imperfect children: going to school is a preview for children to enter the society in the future. What happens at school is just like the interpersonal relationship they will face when they enter the society in the future, such as colleagues, leaders, same sex and opposite sex. Therefore, to believe that they can and should learn their own coping styles is tantamount to giving children a chance to grow up. However, the excessive involvement of parents has actually taken a step in the past, but it has blocked the growth that children should have. We are really no match for children now. They are far stronger, smarter and more thoughtful than we thought. Atao: Building a group and making phone calls are all means. Teachers and parents should first learn to listen to children's voices, which is the core of the problem. 2 The premise of communication is to learn to listen to Atao first: In fact, no matter with children or teachers, communication is not what I say you listen to, nor what you say I listen to. Still water runs deep: I know what you want to say without telling me. Atao: Communication means that parents and teachers let their children finish their sentences and let them know the truth. More parents and teachers often take it for granted that they understand their children's meaning before they finish speaking and start giving them advice, or that you should do this and that. Imperfect children: In fact, teachers' children are very poor, and parents leave all their time to other people's children, especially now that the pressure of exams is great, many teachers simply have no time to take care of their children. Yang Yang: The teacher may not have time to sit down and talk to us. Tianlan: Teachers are high-risk occupations prone to psychological problems. Imperfect children: Some children are exhausted even if they have time, and they can't control their emotions at all, and the pressure is too great. Yang Yang: I am busy taking care of dozens of children at school, and I have to take care of my own children when I get home. Now one child at home is big enough, not to mention dozens of children in a class! Still water flows deep: parents build groups, teachers can post some problems in study and life, and everyone can solve them together. Imperfect children: In addition to busy work, parents should leave some blank time just to see their children, carefully observe their growth and see if we have missed anything, so that children will feel less stressed. Otherwise, in addition to dealing with the school, they should also deal with our "loving" parents. How tired it will be. Communicating with children on an equal footing will open their hearts: ask your children every day, so much the better if they are happy. If the child is a little depressed, ask. European War: It is important to learn to listen, and it is also important to treat children equally. Only in this way can children open their hearts and tell the truth. In the Mood for Love: I used to tell my children what to do, but now I have turned over a new leaf, thanks to our group. Zhao Zhe: When communicating with teachers, you can't be bossy and don't have to be afraid. Still water runs deep: the teacher's energy is really limited and it is impossible to take care of every child. Parents should help teachers solve problems between teachers and students at the right time and on the right questions. Atao: Communication is also an ability. Sometimes we want to communicate with our children, but people close the door and ignore our parents. Lehaha: I ignored you because you missed his heart. How can you say a child's heart? This is a question of ability. Lao Zhang: Read more books about educating children and think more. In the Mood for Love: communication should be cultivated from an early age. When I was a child, the child asked a question, and the adult said, "Go and go, can't you see that I am busy?" When I grow up, I want to communicate with my children again Children ignore their parents. Who is to blame? Lao Zhang: We should form the habit of communicating with children. In the Mood for Love: When children see us, they want to talk. Lao Zhang: Don't treat children as children, be friends. In the process of communicating with your child, tell him what you think, or influence him, and understand your child's thoughts at the same time. I tell my children everything, and my children tell me everything. I think we are good friends. Imperfect child: Teacher Zhang has paid a lot for the child. Lao Zhang: We talk to him about everything we see and think of every day. Atao: In a sense, how do we communicate with our children? Children will communicate with others in this way in the future. Lao Zhang: It is more acceptable to tell your child your expectations in a chat. I call teachers in all subjects every month to find out about the children. Let children grow up in a relaxed and happy environment. Imperfect children: Sometimes, parents are too worried that their children can't keep up, and they are afraid of losing at the starting line, which leads to confusion. In the Mood for Love: Children must have playmates. When playing with playmates, that is, when communicating, adults must not interfere. I grew up in an argument with my playmates, so that I can dare to go to society in the future. Lao Zhang: Parents should not blindly compare their children with others. Imperfect children: Parents' love for their children seems a little overconfident. No matter how much you love your child, you can't be a competent parent if you don't try to explore how this love should be conveyed, or if you just love your child and don't think about how the child views his behavior. Lao Zhang: Be willing to spend time with your children. Lehaha: Communicate with children calmly, and don't be emotional. Lao Zhang: It is most important to communicate with children on an equal footing. Don't be condescending.