Life after retirement is the beginning of our real enjoyment of life.
In the first half of our lives, we have to live, and more for our families, children and the elderly. We forbear the pressure and try to be a good daughter, mother and wife, but forget to be kind to ourselves.
After retiring, I experienced the indifference of the world, saw more changes in the world, understood the hardships and fragility of life, and understood that life will always be live high.
Sigh that life is in a hurry, try to make yourself look like you have high expectations, learn to look at trivial things in the world coldly, and feel the "cold" of life, so that you can calm down and really enjoy life.
It is said that women should live warmer, warmer to their families, warmer to their children, warmer to their lovers and warmer to the people around them. But after half a lifetime, I found that my warmth was exhausted by this world.
After retirement, I finally understand that women are better off living "cold". Live high looks quiet and indifferent, so we don't have to care about anyone anymore. Maybe this is what we women really want.
Mei Jie, 56, in the community, has been retired for six years. She divorced her ex-husband for many years, and her only daughter has married and had children in other places.
Good sisters around her and Mei Jie's parents always advise her to find another wife, so that when she is old, she will not be lonely and sad.
But Sister Mei didn't want to. She is willing to take time to take care of her elderly parents, help her nephew take care of her baby, and be a good daughter and sister who is warm to her family.
However, Mei Jie's starting point is good, but her heart is complicated.
When Mei Jie just retired, she often went back to her parents' home to help her clean up, cook all kinds of delicious food and help her nephew take care of the children.
In Mei Jie's mind, family is the pillar of her life.
Perhaps, it is Mei Jie who thinks too simply; Perhaps because Mei Jie cares too much about her family, her sister-in-law thinks that she will take the initiative to go back to her parents' home after retirement and compete with them for their parents' property.
A few abusive words made Mei Jie suddenly understand that people should live more for themselves and live a "cold" life. Too enthusiastic, others will "eat and drink".
Mei Jie simply packed his things and left his family. My parents didn't stay actively, and my sister-in-law and nephew both thought that Mei Jie left late and should leave early, which disturbed their happy days.
Mei Jie lamented the impermanence of life, the sadness of life and the indifference of family. It turns out that not all enthusiasm and warmth can be exchanged for corresponding returns.
Sister Mei has changed since her family came back. Do what you like silently and stop participating in small group activities after retirement. Just be as happy as possible.
Mei Jie believes that being an "indifferent" person will lead a quieter and more leisurely life, whether for family or friendship. Don't put other people's happiness first. Comfortable living is the most important thing.
Be a "cold" woman, know what kind of life you want, know what you like to do, and know who you can rely on in this life.
Don't think of others everywhere, let alone everything. You should learn to refuse what you don't want.
Being a "cold" woman is not because of selfishness and indifference, but because she really learned to live for herself. Only by learning to love yourself can you have extra energy to love others.
Montaigne once said: "As long as you lose your health, life will be full of pain and depression. Without it, happiness, wisdom, knowledge and virtue will be eclipsed and destroyed. "
We are retired, and the most important thing is of course a healthy body and a happy mood. Be a healthy and happy retired woman and live a happy retirement life without worrying about trivial matters.
Originally, retirement was to let us have a good rest, but some people lamented that their life tasks were not completed and they still needed to help their children. Especially when I see so many mortgages and car loans for my children, I really hope I am younger and "suffer" for my children for several years.
However, we are all retired, and our ability to earn money is getting weaker and weaker, and we can earn very little money. For the sake of children's smooth life and comfortable work, our first task now is to take the initiative to keep healthy.
Therefore, to be a person who is "indifferent" to children after retirement, you don't have to worry about all the things of children, let alone devote yourself wholeheartedly to yourself.
Mei Jie's daughter wants to change a big house. She also discussed with her about selling the house in Mei Jie, sponsoring them with money, and then asked Mei Jie to live with them for the elderly.
Mei Jie said that she wouldn't do anything, because the house was her support for the rest of her life. Without a place to live, it is unrealistic to want to live with my daughter.
Mei Jie told her daughter that if you change houses, I can sponsor some, which is within my power and will not exceed tens of thousands of dollars.
At first, Mei Jie's daughter couldn't understand why Mei Jie was just a daughter, and it would be a good thing to retire with her daughter in the future. Why doesn't she want to?
Mei Jie said, just look at your mother-in-law. Why doesn't she want to sell the house to support her old age with you? You are still sons. Supposedly, we should "raise children to protect our old age", but if two generations can live together for a short time, there will inevitably be differences for a long time.
Mei Jie's daughter seems to understand, but she is not as enthusiastic as before. Every time Mei Jie doesn't take the initiative to call, it takes a long time for her daughter to think of her.
Mei Jie thinks it doesn't matter. After all, children will leave their parents. Parents who are too "enthusiastic" about their children will affect their life. They should be "cold" parents and treat the parent-child relationship calmly, so that the family can be really warm.
A good friend of Mei Jie sold her old house in advance and gave all the money she had saved to her son. She can live in his son's house, not only help to take care of the baby, but also spend her own pension and be rejected by all kinds.
Have a home far away from children, just be a parent who is not enthusiastic about anything. Just make yourself at home. If you treat your children too warmly and warmly, you will make them take it for granted.
Zhou Zeng said: "The best state of life is abundance and tranquility. Instead of enduring the emptiness after the excitement, it is better to enjoy enrichment in the cold and cheerless. "
After retirement, many people are keen to participate in various collective activities and performances in society, and find this retirement life lively and colorful.
I like lively days, chasing applause and fame, but the feast will eventually end, and the carnival is just the loneliness of a group of people.
Too busy life often leads people to lose themselves and find the life they really want. It is better to live your real life quietly and enjoy the beautiful and barren days in life quietly. Although lonely, it is true and stable.
Busy without chaos, quiet without worry. Only by enduring loneliness can we maintain prosperity. Live a cold life and stay awake.
Stay away from the wind and rain outside, let yourself be alone quietly during your recent visit, keep your heart, be a cold person and live the rest of your life.
When a woman retires, she doesn't have to live like a group of "fire" and be a "cold" person. You don't have to be so enthusiastic about anyone. It's really good to be a likable cold woman.
Not only can you reduce a lot of unnecessary troubles, but you can also live your life in a down-to-earth and quiet way. I don't look at anyone's face, and I don't have to compromise myself to maintain my so-called feelings, so I can live clearly.
Let nature take its course is a carefree lifestyle and an open-minded survival rule to protect yourself; Indifference and tranquility is an attitude towards life and a criterion for doing things.
We will lead an extraordinary life after retirement. We should stay away from it, give up what we should give up, put down what we should put down, and stick to what we should stick to. There is nothing wrong with being a cold person!