Colleague A is a young man with quick thinking and many tricks. I have a problem at work. As long as WeChat consults him, I will immediately receive a bright view. He knew I was leaving, so he called me as soon as possible, trying to persuade me, because we were comrades-in-arms fighting together, and he didn't want me to suddenly fall behind.
I know his dream is to travel around the world and keep six-pack abdominal muscles, so I didn't say much, just told him: I am braver than you. You like more things than I do. You don't have the courage to do it, but I do. Hearing such naked words, he immediately "explained": A year ago, I was wandering outside, and my parents bought me a car and a house to support me. Now, I drive a car every day, live in a room, brainwash myself late at night, and continue to work, because I feel that I owe my parents a lot, and I am already "embarrassed" to do what I like. After listening to her words, I shared a little schadenfreude with him, grateful that my family was not so rich and my parents didn't have the financial strength to buy me a house and a car, which gave me the opportunity to go out of my hometown and continue to pursue what I thought was important.
It suddenly occurred to me that what you have is actually binding you. Your car, although it makes you more convenient to travel, will also make you miss the beautiful scenery on the roadside; Although your room gives you a warm home, it also makes you give up the possibility of trying another country because of such warmth; Your parents have given you a solid life, but they may also limit your ability to live independently.
Similarly, your money is actually binding you. Next, let's look at the story of friend B.
Friend B is the founder of a primary and secondary school training institution in a second-tier city. In recent years, he has changed from having nothing as a tutor to having a car, a house and a surplus. She asked me what financial freedom is, but I couldn't answer it, but in my eyes, he is a person with financial freedom. Last year, he didn't rest for three months in a row, and he fled until he was about to collapse. Every time he sees me, he says it's time to go out and relax after this busy period of time. After the Chinese New Year, I asked him where he went to play. It turned out that he was still on the move.
Yesterday, I saw him go to Beijing on business again. His words became: "I want to achieve financial freedom at the age of 30, then travel around the world, find the girl you love, get married and have children, and solve all the major events in my life during this time." I joked: What if I can't find my beloved girl? He said: I have many girls around me now, but I can't talk about "love".
I smiled. I wonder if you have found an interesting phenomenon. Most people who travel around the world are diaosi and rarely have financial freedom. Those rich people who talk about traveling around the world all day seldom go to see the world. The reason is, of course, because it is so simple to let go when you are unarmed, and when you have too much "comfort", "letting go" is as painful as cutting off your own flesh.
First of all, I know Miss C, a beautiful girl, who gave up a stable life at home and came to Beijing to work hard.
Every time I go out to play or go to other cities, she always says with special envy: I feel that the place you go is very interesting, and I will take time to find time to go. This sentence is really super familiar. Do you often say this to your friends? However, I have known her for more than a year and have never seen her go out. In my spare time, I stay at home and watch soap operas, Taobao and brush my circle of friends.
One night, she and her friends got drunk and cried, I feel sorry for myself. I feel wronged at work every day and broke up with my boyfriend. I really don't know what to do in the next day. After listening to this, I really don't know what to say. I know that all crying is to show my incompetence and lack of self-awareness.
Once, like her, I was a aimless and lifeless person, crying for my incompetence at night, but I never gave up on myself. I always dried my tears in the morning and continued to face a new life. Realizing that you are stupid and incompetent, in addition to crying, the next second is to start acting.
From July 2065438 to July 2002, it's almost four years now. In fact, something has been binding me. In the first year of work, I stopped many impulsive thoughts because I had no money; In the second year of work, a stable circle of friends and a stable life bound me and made me afraid to try; In the past two years, I am eager for success. In order to gain freedom and dignity in life, I spent all my time on the train to get rich online. Finally, as you can see, a lot of my growth and thinking come from my own self-exploration and "wild" growth.
What finally made me take this step and give up all this is actually the following passage:
Many nights, because I didn't have time to do what I like, I was scared, ashamed and even humiliated. This time, I was surprised to find that everyone has their own hobbies and dreams hidden in their hearts, but few people dare to take this step. Then why don't I try? I can't die anyway. I thought the same thing.
In this way, I figured it out and made an important decision. Although I don't know the future, I still firmly give up everything and let myself return to a state I have never had before. I just want to try. What can you do with your bare hands?