There is a story in ancient Arabia. A businessman passed by a village and saw a man sitting leisurely in the shade of a tree. He asked him inexplicably, "How can you not do business?" The businessman said, "If you have more money, you can enjoy it at home." The man smiled. "What do you think I'm doing now?" Suddenly I feel how happy and carefree a person is to accept himself and not compare with others. "
However, some people's inferiority and troubles come from comparison, and comparison is so unfair and objective. Xiao Song is a nurse. Graduated from technical secondary school, the monthly income is above the local average. Not long ago, she was happy to get a new wedding room. This is a very enviable thing, but the problem was born at the moment she got the house. She found that her house was not as good as her colleague Xiao Zhang, so she began to feel depressed. She feels useless, even the house is inferior to others. In fact, Xiao Zhang is not as good as her except for the structure of her house. But this is also the reason why Xiao Song thinks he is inferior to others. There are really many people who make such inappropriate comparisons. They constantly compare their own shortcomings with the advantages of different people, which leads them to feel inferior to others everywhere, or they always don't compare their own advantages with others, but just regard their own advantages as insignificant things that everyone will have. So, they are not completely inferior.
Therefore, comparison means a fair, objective and comprehensive comparison. Because people often lose themselves when comparing with single or popular sizes and standards, they feel that "one mountain is higher than another" and it is difficult to experience the sense of success.
Not long ago, introduced by a friend, the president of a local group in Wenzhou came to my office for consultation. The president was depressed for a month and handed over his daily work to his wife. In the process of negotiation with me, he told me: "I am not bankrupt, and my enterprise is developing very well now, but you know, a company has actually got the brand of' Zhejiang Province …'. These bosses used to fight the world with me, and now I am."
According to our eyes and logic, he must be very happy. His wealth is growing, and so is his business. Unfortunately, it is inversely proportional. I think he lost his happiness not because he had more wealth, but because he used his happiness in the position of "being richer than others and always taking the first place". Imagine, according to their personality, even if he wins the local boss, how can he win the national manager? In fact, he has more reason to be confident and happy. For example, he can proudly tell others that he is strong and has no weak soldiers. The miracle here is inseparable from him. He made a fortune earlier than others. It's a pity that he won't think about it or compare it. He is just "fighting for wealth" in a narrow sense.
After reading inspirational stories, we should know that comparison can be compared with inferiority, which is the result of narrow comparison, and comparison is also compared with self-confidence, which is a fair and objective result. If you set a reasonable goal in life, your self-confidence and optimism will be built within the range of possible connections.