Let's start with the first one. Now is not the time to talk, it interferes with his work. My husband is a code farmer and will do some private work at home on weekends. When he is working, his attention needs to be highly concentrated, because a series of expressions are interlocking. It is easy to distract his work attention at will, which leads to the program bug not running normally, which not only affects her husband's work efficiency, but also compresses his rest time.
I didn't take this into account when I talked to him before. I always tell him something interesting at any time. He either didn't respond or angrily coaxed me out of the study, leaving me sulking with him all the time. Later, I put myself in the other's shoes. If my work is interrupted by my colleagues at any time, I will be very angry, so I will choose the opportunity to share interesting things with my husband in the future, and my husband will be willing to interact with me.
Besides the second, it is nothing new to say the same thing several times. I used to buy new clothes, shoes or bags, or change my hairstyle, etc., and I would show them endlessly in front of my husband and ask him if he looked good. At the first few times, he will still make serious comments, then he will simply perfunctory and finally get impatient. It makes me uncomfortable to see him like this naturally.
Later, I tried to change my mind, instead of focusing on my appearance changes, I improved my self-awareness by reading more meaningful books or watching videos that can increase my knowledge, so that I could have more topics to talk to my husband, and the content of the chat was new, which also changed my impatient attitude when my husband spoke to me.
Finally, talk about the possibility of my brain going to someone else. My cousin recently divorced. She told me that before she divorced her ex-husband, her ex-husband's attitude towards her had changed significantly. When she first got married, her ex-husband took care of her almost in every way, treating her as a delicate little princess, but a few months before the divorce, her ex-husband was completely different from her and always impatient. No matter what my cousin says to her ex-husband, her ex-husband is always perfunctory, saying that the reason for doing so is because of work pressure and bad mood. It was not until the cousin divorced her ex-husband that she discovered that her ex-husband didn't say anything well, but gave all the tenderness to other girls.
If you encounter such a situation, you should still carefully consider whether to separate. Increasing mutual communication may help to ease the relationship between the two people and try to save each other's hearts with tolerance and care; If you have to separate, pay attention to safeguarding your own interests.
The above is my personal opinion on the topic, hoping to help the subject.