First of all, why "everyone who comes in wants to go out"? ：
That's because psychology is a brand-new science, especially in China. Some people choose to study this subject, not out of interest, or from helping others, or their own ideals, but out of curiosity, or to help themselves solve some psychological problems, or to be optimistic about the prospects of this subject (mainly benefits), or even just to give themselves a promotion and salary increase as a stepping stone. .....
We don't reject the latter mentality, but if we enter the field of "psychology" because of different motives, the final result will definitely be different. Learning psychology is not a simple matter, and not everyone can learn it. To learn and use this science well, you must first have a certain correct cognition and three views, as well as a strong inner and good emotional ability, as well as self-repair ability and self-healing ability ... Some basic qualities and systematic knowledge are easy for ordinary people to do, but besides, if you want to help others and cure others better, there is a very important accumulation, that is, your experience (.
This also leads to why some "people who come in want to go out", because the deeper they learn, many things may not be understood because of lack of experience, or lack of sufficient cognitive and life experience, and even let the other person influence themselves ..... We should know that we are more studying human nature and have to solve more negative energy problems. If our psychology is not strong enough, we lack a correct outlook on life, and we have no ability to repair ourselves, it will be a very painful thing for such people to continue learning. When they can't bear it and can't release their career exhaustion, they will run away!
Let's talk about why "everyone who goes out wants to come in":
A more accurate expression should be "people outside the door want to come in"! Why, as I mentioned earlier:
1, like and love, want to help more people, want to study this young science;
2. Psychology is a very young science, and its professional life and needs are so great that it can even be a career for a lifetime, and it also has professional attributes, which is stable and long-term beneficial to personal development and job hunting;
3. In order to solve and cure their psychological problems;
4. curious;
5, for the benefit, or professional title, paving the way for their promotion and salary increase;
6, in order to transform: entering the career confusion period, there is no direction, you need to find new directions to help yourself survive better.
The biggest controversy in western psychology is not to study competition, just as western philosophy explores truth from appearance, but now these two disciplines are far from reaching truth. Looking at the eastern culture, we have Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, and investigate the truth of its world origin, so there is no psychology and philosophy. The reason is that many orientals throw away their treasures before picking up a piece of glass as a gem! Ha ha!
In fact, this is an uncertain statement, that is to say, if you stay in a field for a long time, you will be more or less bored. The so-called besieged city can refer to anything. We can also put it another way, that is, "some people say that love is like a besieged city, those who come in want to go out, and those who are outside want to come in." Do you know anything about this metaphor?
In my understanding, psychology is just a science, which is both theory and practice. It uses data and principles to analyze things, not for other purposes, such as solving human nature or using human nature. I thought it would lose its flavor, so I just became an extra subject. Many times, I didn't put it on both sides, so I wouldn't feel besieged.
In addition, there is a special feeling, like a besieged city. Many people think that people who study psychology generally have their own psychological problems, and even when teaching people out of trouble, they are trapped in them. Explain that if you want to learn psychology well, you need strong knowledge support, and you must have stronger thinking energy and psychological quality. Because what you face every day is psychological problems, which may involve people's cognition, emotion, will and other fields. If you can't control yourself, it's normal to be possessed easily.
But in the eyes of outsiders, psychology seems to be more mysterious and has become a so-called "knowing what you are thinking at a glance" discipline. I just want to say that you must not think so. Although there are various skills to recognize people, apart from analyzing psychology, personality and even fate, I generally understand them as derivatives of psychology, or some of them are deviant. Just like the book now in the hands of fortune tellers, it is also the product of copying the ancient Book of Changes many times. How can we guarantee its quality, but who can really understand the Book of Changes now? Or how many people can master some?
Of course, I still believe in science. Even if it turns out that science and religion are mutually assured destruction, at least so far I still believe in science, because it is analyzed by data and logical principles, and there are not many ability factors involved. So as not to give up halfway.
Why do some people say that psychology majors are besieged cities, and those who come in want to go out and those who go out want to come in?
The novel Fortress Besieged by Mr. Qian Zhongshu compares marriage to a besieged city. People in the city want to come out and people outside the city want to go in, which reflects people's complex psychological state.
If the psychology major, mainly refers to the personnel and systems engaged in psychological counseling, is compared to a besieged city, many people want to go in. Many people want to be psychological counselors and engage in psychological counseling through study, so as to improve themselves and help many people in need. But as soon as I entered, I found that this was not the case. I don't think I can help. I don't want to come out, but I can't help myself. So some psychological counselors gave up consulting and stayed away from this industry.
If you do well, people will often get help and return to their normal work and study life. These consultants will basically not come out and do not want to come out.
Psychology is like hide-and-seek, found in the search!
People's hearts are complicated. Peeping into a person's psychological world is very tiring.
A person's mental state in each period will be different because of different environmental conditions. Walking will change the original state of mind. Turn around when you're tired, Do not forget your initiative mind.
Personally understand that "everyone who comes in wants to go out",
(1) It is because there are many psychological factions and a hundred schools of thought contend. This is no less than learning from Tang Sheng. Go through eighty-one difficulties. In short, pay and gain are disproportionate!
(2) Psychology has not been accepted by the public, and it belongs to a relatively partial discipline, so it is difficult for heroes to play a role. In addition, the employment prospects are not optimistic. If you are high or low, you want to go out!
People who go out want to come in.
(1) is caused by the public's curiosity about psychology, because psychology can often be deeply rooted in people's hearts and find its roots! This is also why people are curious.
(2) Psychology, like medicine, can help people solve problems and is a highly practical subject. In addition, there are more and more people suffering from common mental diseases, which makes people want to come in!