In many people's minds, marriage not only means that two people live together, but also means that two people are integrated, but the reality is often that yours is mine and mine is not necessarily yours. Marriage should be a warm and loving life, but now many people regard marriage as a calculation.
Everyone says that women want a bride price as a transaction, because women are often at a disadvantage in marriage. As long as the bride price is finally returned to the young couple, it is only formalism to reassure the other parents. As long as this amount is not beyond the tolerance of the other party, then there is nothing wrong with it.
But men, some men are more ruthless than women. In their eyes, marriage is a transaction, but they are good at packaging themselves with "true love" so that women can't notice it. Women are often easily moved by "true love" and even resist their parents for it.
What women fear most is not to marry a man without money, but to marry a man with no money and malicious intentions. In a woman's mate selection condition, the man's personality is very important, otherwise, if you get married and the man and her parents are combined, you will only suffer, from loss to divorce.
Axiu, the second generation, is not worried about food and clothing, but he has a crush on "Phoenix Man".
I met Liu through the introduction of a friend. At that time, Axiu had just fallen in love. They met at a friend's birthday party. At first, Axiu was not interested in Zheng Liu, but Zheng Liu was very good at pleasing Axiu. Over time, they came together. Soon, Liu Zheng proposed to get married and said that he would be responsible for Axiu. Axiu was very moved and readily agreed.
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Axiu is the only daughter in the family. Her mother was in poor health in her early years, and her father gave up having a second child for her health. Axiu admitted that she didn't want to leave her parents, fearing that they wouldn't have any support in the future, while Liu Zheng had a younger brother to accompany her parents in her hometown. Liu Zheng had no worries and offered to be a son-in-law at home.
Although Axiu's parents only have one daughter, they still hope to have a son. Liu Zheng's idea satisfied the wishes of the two old people. They were naturally happy, but they also felt that they could not treat Liu Zheng badly, so they didn't ask for a bride price, and they also subsidized a dowry of 200,000 yuan to lay a good foundation for the young couple's married life.
However, the old couple also saw it in their eyes and bought their daughter a premarital room for a rainy day. Liu knows this and can understand it.
Liu Zheng's family conditions are not very good, and he has a younger brother. Liu Zheng has always paid a lot for his family, especially in terms of money. In addition to sending money home on holidays, he usually gives it to his family every month. Axiu thinks that Liu Zheng is filial and self-motivated, and he is a good man who deserves to be entrusted for life.
During their love, Zheng Liu never sent a gift to Axiu, but she always said something sweet. Axiu doesn't think the gift is important, as long as Zheng Liu has her in her heart. Women who fall in love often have an IQ of only 3 years old, and it is easy to lose their correct judgment. Axiu is such a woman.
And Axiu's parents, they just want their daughter to find a man who can really treat her well. As for the son-in-law's family conditions, the old couple don't care much. After all, there is no shortage of money at home.
Their wedding was also organized by Axiu's parents. They mainly do not want their daughter to suffer. After all, to make it look good in life, Zheng Liu also vowed to treat Axiu well for life at the wedding. It's just that Zheng Liu's parents don't look well and think their family lost. They let their son be a door-to-door son-in-law for a dowry of 200 thousand, but they were helpless After all, 200,000 is a big sum for my family.
Although Liu Zheng became a son-in-law, Axiu's parents never regarded him as an outsider. Instead, I often stand on Liu Zheng's side and let my daughter change. Axiu sometimes complains that his parents don't treat him as a daughter, but some people, no matter how good you are to him, can't warm his heart. Liu Zheng is always worried about the identity of his son-in-law.
Originally, the young couple lived with the old man and should take care of him, but Liu Zheng never worked, saying that he was busy and went out early and returned late every day. In fact, he just doesn't want to go back to that home. The better his mother-in-law treats him, the more he feels that others look down on him.
And in his heart, he always misses his family, gives it to his parents every month, and is also responsible for his brother's tuition. He didn't make trouble because Axiu didn't know it at all, because the money of the two men was taken separately.
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Axiu knew that Zheng Liu had been donating money to his hometown. Although he was not short of money, he felt uncomfortable. He felt that Liu Zheng didn't care about his little family at all, and he had given them a dowry of 200,000 yuan. He didn't have a penny in his hand, and their family didn't have the money for the bride price. Now she has to calculate her husband's salary, which makes her unacceptable.
Liu Zheng said that this is the filial piety that a child should do. Naturally, he won't feel that he has done something wrong, and there is Axiu at home. Axiu felt that Zheng Liu didn't consider the future of two people and didn't deserve to be a husband. Zheng Liu said that he had made such a big sacrifice for Axiu. If he didn't love Axiu, he wouldn't be a son-in-law. Now he just gives some money to his family.
Axiu suddenly felt sorry for Liu Zheng, and the matter went away.
Later, because Axiu's father was ill in hospital, the doctor asked Liu Zhengxian to pay the hospitalization fee. I didn't expect Liu Zhenglian to take out ten thousand dollars. At this moment, A Xiucai realized that Zheng Liu gave all his money to his parents and left no money for their small family. Such a man makes her feel insecure. To this end, she quarreled with Liu and finally paid for it herself.
However, since then, there has been a gap between husband and wife. Axiu no longer believed in Liu Zheng, but also asked Liu to pay for food, saying that she and Liu Zheng were both adults, and even the son-in-law was not qualified to be old.
Zheng Liu unwilling, but helpless, had to obediently pay meals every month. Axiu said that she didn't understand that she had paid so much for Zheng Liu. She didn't even want a bride price, and she didn't have a house or a car. After marriage, she always lived on her laurels. Why is Liu Zheng still devoted to her husband's family? She felt that Liu Zheng didn't treat himself as a wife at all. Sometimes, she will think, if there is no money at home, will Zheng Liu still marry herself?
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What eventually led to the breakdown of their marriage was that Liu Zheng showed his true colors.
Liu Zheng's younger brother wants to find a job in Liu Zheng after graduating from college and needs a place to live. In order to save money, his parents don't want to spend money on renting a house, so they pay attention to Axiu's premarital house.
In the eyes of Liu Zheng and his parents, as long as two people get married, whether before or after marriage, they belong to two people, and their son has already suffered. There are so many houses in Xiu's house, so what if he gives them to his son? They take it for granted.
Liu Zheng naturally proposed to Axiu: "Give me the key to your prenuptial suite, where my brother lives." Axiu didn't expect Liu Zheng to go so far and said, "You can live, but you have to charge rent." Liu Zhengdao: "Don't go too far. That's my brother. " Axiu said, "I didn't marry you to help your family!" Liu Zheng also said that if it weren't for Axiu, he wouldn't have become a son-in-law. He also said that Axiu didn't agree, and his brother wanted to live. Axiu couldn't bear it, and said directly: "Dream, divorce!"
In this way, their marriage came to an end, and Zheng Liu was beaten back to her original shape. She used to have nothing, and now she still has nothing, even adding a layer of identity, that is, divorce. It's really hard for such a man to find a wife. It's been two years now. During this time, Liu regretted all kinds of things and tried his best to save them, but he remained unmoved. Not long ago, Axiu finally found her own happiness, and the other party was very kind to her.
Don't cherish when a woman is kind to you. Once her heart is broken, she will leave you without hesitation.
Whether you are a son-in-law or a married husband-in-law, as long as the other person is kind to you, you should be grateful and return the same kindness to the other person. If not, why did you choose such a path in the first place? You chose your own marriage. Don't try to threaten others with your so-called "sacrifice" Such a person deserves no sympathy.
Even if the woman's family environment is good, it belongs to her parents, and it has nothing to do with you. You should be grateful, not give it to you. This is also reasonable. It's not a man's job to calculate each other.
Many people try to use marriage as a springboard to change the fate of their families, but the consequences of doing so are often not worth the candle. Marriage should be a small family for husband and wife, but sacrificing the small family to fulfill everyone will only be useless in the end. A good marriage needs to be paid, not taken constantly!