When we were together, Ann couldn't say anything wrong, except that her boyfriend didn't have a strong affection for her and didn't have a strong feeling of wanting to spend the rest of her life with her. She just likes it a little, just like two adults who are clearly thinking about paying.
Xiao An thinks that she is probably just her boyfriend's choice after weighing the pros and cons, rather than wanting to be with her because she loves her.
Coincidentally, Xiao An's first two relationships broke down because her boyfriend didn't love her enough.
The first boyfriend was a campus romance, which was quite sweet at first. Later, Xiao 'an's boyfriend offered to open a house, but Xiao 'an simply could not accept premarital sex.
The boyfriend said that he was puzzled. "There are still men and women who don't go to bed in love!"
Ann insisted: "I am an antique!" "
No one can convince anyone about this matter, so it will go away.
When they travel together, they live in the same room Xiao An feels that her boyfriend should respect her wishes and not force her.
But I didn't expect her boyfriend to touch her hand in the middle of the night, which scared Xiao An out of her wits. They had a quarrel and then broke up.
The two still have some feelings, and they have been on and off several times, and each time they broke up for this reason.
Ann thinks that if he really loves me, why can't he respect me and have sex after marriage? He still doesn't love me enough.
The boy in the second relationship has good conditions in all aspects, and Xiao An is also very satisfied.
When we first got together, we said good night to each other every day, often giving Xiao An some surprises, caring about Xiao An's life and being a polite gentleman.
But after a long time, Xiao An felt that the boys didn't care so much. Even a few days after she went to other places, her boyfriend didn't ask her if she arrived safely, and even didn't take the initiative to contact Xiao An in those days.
Xiao Anxin is a little cold, and girlfriends know to ask her if she is safe, but her boyfriend doesn't care about her life or death at all.
Ann still thinks that her boyfriend doesn't love her enough.
Not only Xiao An, but also his best friend Xiao Nan.
Xiao Nan and her boyfriend are junior high school classmates. After graduating from junior high school, they lost contact. It was not until their junior year that they got each other's contact information by chance.
Both of them have a crush on each other. A few months later, her boyfriend confessed, and Xiaonan was glad that they were happily together.
At that time, boyfriends were usually very busy, but they took time to chat or video with Xiao Nan every day, but even so, the invisible long-distance love was still a huge obstacle between them.
When quarreling, the two often ignore each other. Even if the boyfriend takes the initiative to apologize, they chat on WeChat or video for a long time, and the problem can't be solved. After a long time, both of them were a little tired.
Xiao Nan often feels that if it is face to face, all the problems will disappear with a hug. And every time I quarrel, my boyfriend is always unwilling to bow his head first. Xiao Nan thinks he probably doesn't love me enough.
Holding the idea that "he doesn't love me enough", Xiao Nan thought about it and still felt that the future of the two was slim and simply broke up.
It seems that many girls are like this. No matter what the breakup is, it can be inferred from these reasons that "he doesn't love me" or "he doesn't love me enough".
Because if he loves me, he will bow his head first. If he loves me, he won't let me go. If he loves me, he will always take me to heart. If he loved me, he wouldn't see me so miserable and indifferent. Look, he still doesn't love me enough.
So, why do boyfriends never love you enough?
1. Different thinking, different ways of love between men and women.
There is a scene in Ex-3, in which Meng Yun and Jia Lin quarrel, and Jia Lin runs out of the living room several times to get a box and threatens to move out. But badon min thinks she won't really move out. Jia Lin thinks badon min will leave her when she moves out. But as a result, Jia Lin had to really move out.
Boys always think that if you love me, you won't leave; Girls will not leave me alone if they think you love me.
As a result, such differences in thinking lead both sides to feel that the other side is not loving enough, resulting in many illusions of not loving, but in fact it is extremely uncomfortable behind the scenes.
Moreover, men and women love each other in different ways. What girls want is romantic love, while what boys often give is plain love.
But he may not give you roses and flowers, but he will make you breakfast every day; He may not be sweet-talking, but he will take care of you when you are sick. He may not bow his head to apologize to you every time, but in fact he has foreseen how to bow to you 10 thousand times in his heart.
Sometimes, just because he doesn't meet your expectations doesn't mean he really doesn't love you.
You are so insecure.
I believe that every relationship begins with love, which brings two strange men and women together and establishes the most intimate relationship in the world.
However, if girls are insecure, they will easily be swayed by considerations of gain and loss in their feelings.
At first, I wanted my boyfriend to say "I love you" to myself 10,000 times a day, and I didn't know my whereabouts all the time. I hoped that I couldn't be connected with my boyfriend like conjoined twins, and my boyfriend would regard this as a sweet bondage, which is normal.
But after a long time, most people can't stand it, feel suffocated and have no space of their own.
So when he is drinking with his buddy, in order not to let you think too much, he will tell you that he is working overtime. Unfortunately, when you know that he is actually drinking, you will be hurt and feel cheated. What was cheated was that he didn't love me enough, so he lied to me.
But it's not that he doesn't love you, he also needs personal space.
"Why does home hurt people" says: The main meaning of love is not to let us find a partner who can persist for a lifetime, but to let us know that we are an independent person, and a partner is as independent and important as us. Moreover, these two independent people can get along very closely.
Therefore, the best love is to be independent and interdependent, instead of clinging to each other like dodder flowers and relying on each other to survive.
Love is not once and for all.
It has been studied that the life span of love is only 18 months, and it will return to dullness after 18 months. Some people get married before love disappears, some people choose to be separated from each other in a chicken feather, while others turn a trivial life into a poem.
In the past, when watching celebrity interviews, I often saw the host ask how your feelings were kept fresh. At that time, I didn't understand why the host was so keen to ask this question and why the feelings needed to be preserved. If you like me and I like you, that would be great.
Now I understand that love is never once and for all. Unless there is a strong and deep love at this moment, it will last forever.
On the contrary, if love is not managed, it will be consumed bit by bit until it disappears.
So, in the beginning, when you were in love, you didn't manage with your heart, didn't make the plain life interesting, but ate tasteless day after day. Then, you may gradually feel that he doesn't love you enough.
Forget it, he just doesn't love you enough.