Despite the money, Cary still feels insecure.
Because the money will be spent gradually, because the daily cost is not proportional to the salary, and because there are too many unknown factors in the future.
The rate of wage increase can never match the rate of house price increase. Even with the accumulated savings, we may still be unable to afford a house and travel at will.
"Poverty" has become our norm. We can't afford what we want, but how much effort have we made for the future?
Today, this article wants to inform you that life will not lose you, but the key is what you do and what you do.
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In our twenties, we are all poor;
Want to eat a good meal, or forget to pay the rent in a few days.
Take a fancy to a favorite lipstick, think about the flowers that have not been returned, pick them up and put them down;
I want to get a new mobile phone. After saving money for a long time, I still dare not buy it casually.
We are all in our twenties, and it's really hard to survive;
Not long after graduation, I don't have much homework experience, and I don't have the face to ask my parents for money. I have a meager salary, but I am overloaded with homework every day. I am very tired and even overwhelmed.
So, we are poor.
In our twenties, we were really confused:
As a small fresh meat in society, I haven't found my own position, I haven't been able to invent value for the company, and I am forced to work only with my voice, and I can't even see the future clearly.
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Poverty is a common social problem. More and more people are used to throwing all the disappointments in their lives to the "poor".
Xiao Xuan and her boyfriend Dapeng broke up. They have been dating for 6 years.
Xiao Xuan said she broke up. I thought it was good for us to break up peacefully, but I didn't expect to end up a dead old man.
Xiao Xuan told Dapeng that she was tired and broke up.
In return, Dapeng Fire replied:
You broke up with me because I was poor, because I didn't earn as much money as you, because I couldn't give you a textured day. In the final analysis, it is still because of money.
Xiao Xuan was very sad, and no amount of explanations seemed feeble, but it also strengthened her belief that breaking up was an accurate decision.
Xiao Xuan said that they have graduated for more than a year, and their salary is average. They don't have much savings, but she never complains because she is poor.
There is no rose and candlelight dinner on Valentine's Day, so it is enough for two people to have a sweet hot pot. It is convenient to go to the supermarket with Dapeng to buy discounted things after work, and it can also make her feel happy; A five-dollar doll in the street can also cheer her up.
Because she always believes that it doesn't matter whether she is the right person or not.
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But the root cause of breaking up is not "poverty", but Dapeng's lack of enterprise.
Knowing that life is not easy, he has never made a little change for the present poverty.
Xiao Xuan asked Dapeng how to plan for the next few years. Dapeng always said cheekily, don't worry, we are still young. I really didn't think about the future. I will let you know when I think about it.
Dapeng always complains to Xiaoxuan that his homework is very stressful and his plan is always rejected. His colleagues are more experienced and have better grades than him, but he didn't reflect on his own shortcomings, just vented his dissatisfaction by playing games.
All the sufferings in love are not terrible, and the most terrible thing is that you can't see each other's future.
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I don't know when, "poverty" has become all the unpleasant shields in our days:
No object, because poor, who wants to live a hard life with a poor boy;
Lovelorn, because poor, can not give each other a textured day;
Brothers are drifting away. Because they are poor, who wants to talk about life with the poor?
Idle, because poor, rich is not afraid of being looked down upon by others;
I can't afford a house. Because I am poor, I can't afford the down payment for a lifetime.
I don't know when it started, but it is natural that we are poor.
Poverty is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you are content with the status quo. You treat depression as comfort, indulgence as freedom and escape as an excuse.
Choosing to escape is to choose to bow to reality.
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Kundera once said: Never think that we can escape, every step of us determines the final outcome, and our feet are moving towards the end of our own choice.
Let nature take its course, don't change, avoid responsibility, look relaxed, but this will only make you rot and live into the kind of person you used to be bored with.
Ang Lee was just a poor boy before he became a great director, but he didn't hang his head in the sky and insisted on irrigating his movie dream with excellent works.
Ma Yun didn't have it when he was young, but he had an indomitable spirit, so he had Alibaba, which is now famous all over the world.
There are many people around us:
Those students who just graduated with a salary of 3000 yuan have become the first-line talents in the industry through their own continuous exploration and efforts;
Students who are not valued by teachers in college should find their own position and direction after graduation and earn the first pot of gold in life smoothly.
We all hope that we can become the protagonist of the story of the rich counterattack, but blindly imagining, complaining and inaction will only get farther and farther away from the policy.
The shortcut to "getting rich" is to find the root of "poverty", face it squarely, overcome it, and never give up any opportunity to grow up.
Instead of shouting "poor" every day, complaining about rising house prices and hard work, it is better to work hard with your head down, so that you will not lament because you are not ready.
You can be poor, but your mind can't be poor.
You can be poor, but don't just cry poverty and do nothing.