Ceng Zi's principles of educating children.
First, we should have the habit of self-demand. Some parents love their children too much. The progress of study and the neatness of life are all urged by their parents, and even done by their parents. Without parents, children's study and even life will be a mess. This kind of education is not love, but let children develop a sense of dependence and be taken care of by others forever. Therefore, to make children form the habit of self-demand, it is to make children responsible for themselves, cultivate their independence and know how to take care of themselves.
Second, we should have the character of respect and acceptance. This is especially important in modern society with close interpersonal relationship. With the character of acceptance, we can humbly accept the teaching and suggestions of teachers, tutors and peers, respect others, accept their opinions and respect their existence, instead of doing whatever we want. Only with this harmonious and receptive personality can we deal with people. Goodwin? Tolerance is the first way to do things? The character of respect and acceptance is the cultivation of tolerance.
Third, we must have the knowledge of knowing the cause and effect. With such knowledge, children can always pay attention to their own good and evil behaviors. If you know the fruit clearly, children will know that all words and deeds must be borne by yourself. If you know fruit clearly, will he understand it? Not evil, not good? Know how to change from evil to good. Parents don't have to worry about their children going in the wrong direction on the road of life after being trained.
Fourth, we should have the virtue of gratitude and saying yes. Cultivate children to express gratitude, always say good in their mouths and always be grateful in their hearts. Only those who know how to be grateful can appreciate the efforts of others; Only those who know how to be grateful can know how to repay kindness. A person who knows how to be grateful and can say yes must be a contented person.
When educating their children, parents should pay attention to their own words, attitudes and methods, be kind and strict, and be patient. If children are not bound to a framework, they can do their best to develop themselves. Children know how to be modest, kind, grateful and correct their body and mind. This is the way of education.
? Kill Bi? Enlightenment to Family Education in China
Speaking of Ceng Zi, some people may know that he is one of the seventy-two sages of Confucius. This classic story records an incident that happened in his home: one day, Ceng Zi's wife was going to the street, and the child left crying. His wife told the child not to make trouble and promised to kill the pig for him when she came back. It seems that she is not going to keep her promise. Because when she came home, she saw that Zeng Zi really wanted to kill pigs, and immediately stopped it: just to tease the baby. ? Ceng Zi said? Today's son deceives him, but also teaches him to bully him. A mother deceives her son and distrusts her mother instead of becoming an adult. ? Finished? And cook it? .
Although this story is not long, it shows the character of ancient sages and dragon sons who are sincere and demonstrate with their hands. This is associated with modern parents' honesty education for minors. The child's young mind is pure and innocent. A blank sheet of paper can draw a better and more beautiful picture. Honesty starts with dolls, that is, never taking other people's things, not telling lies, being polite to others, returning borrowed things, helping others and other trivial things. Three generations of gentlemen. Today's children will enter the society in a few years, and their credit awareness will directly affect the living conditions of our nation. Therefore, honesty begins with children, just like laying a solid foundation before Gai Lou.
So how to do a good job in children's honesty education, I think we should start with family education first. Parents are the children's first teachers, and whether parents are honest or not is very important to children. Children's imitation ability is very strong, and they will imitate adults' words and deeds consciously or unconsciously. Therefore, parents should consider whether they are honest, edify and guide their children with good words and deeds, and set a good example. However, according to a survey, 77% of primary school students? Most dissatisfied with parents' behavior? what's up Keep your word? Many children think that their parents are not doing well in honesty. Parents' behavior plays an important role in teenagers' honesty. Once parents don't talk about honesty in life, their words and deeds are different, which will greatly affect their children's sense of honesty.
At present, many parents of children unilaterally pursue the improvement of their children's academic performance, while ignoring the ideological and moral education of their children, especially the education of honesty. Some parents even mistakenly believe that their children's temperament is innate and unchangeable, so they don't care, just go with the flow and do whatever they want; What's more, some parents themselves lack honesty and think that their children are sleek and sophisticated, so that they will not suffer in society, so that they deliberately teach their children to be cynical and sophisticated. These misunderstandings are very unfavorable to children who are growing up and seeking knowledge. Some students stress honesty and keep their promises at school, but no one cares at home, even? Do as the Romans do? Leaving the honesty education received at school behind, some students have a good time with their parents? Induction? Under it, it becomes smooth step by step; More often, some parents personally? Demonstration? Make promises to children casually and talk nonsense, so that children gradually learn to break their promises in repeated disappointments, and at the same time lose their innocent and lovely childlike innocence.
To ask children to be honest, parents should be honest first. As parents, everyone wants their children to develop morally, intellectually and physically in an all-round way and become useful talents in society when they grow up. However, some people don't set an example. This is like what the ancients said: if the son doesn't teach, the father is guilty. Parents' example plays an important role in children's moral cultivation. Some children learn to lie because of the bad influence of adults. If parents cheat, children will not be loyal and honest. It is hard to imagine that a have it both ways, flattering parents can cultivate a sincere child who is consistent with his words and deeds.
In view of the present situation of family education, I think it is necessary for some parents to review and understand it now? Kill Bi? This story. I remember Spencer, a British educator, said: barbarism produces barbarism, and goodness produces goodness. ? It is an important quality that parents must have, and it is also an important principle of honesty education. Parents don't keep their words and deeds, and even if they say it beautifully in the future, the children will not be convinced. In particular, parents must think twice before making a commitment to their children, and they must make a commitment to their children. If you can't fulfill it, you should explain it to your child in time, apologize to your child, make self-criticism, let your child understand and forgive from the heart, and you should try to fulfill your promise afterwards. If parents don't keep their promises, time and time again, children will distrust their parents and think that what their parents say can't count, and gradually this will happen. Ceng Zi didn't cheat children, but also cultivated their character of keeping promises. That's the reason.
Since ancient times, our Chinese nation is a nation that stresses honesty. Confucius has a saying: if you don't keep your word, you will be at a loss. Honesty is the foundation of our country and our life. This fine tradition cannot be lost.
Young students are at the crossroads of life, and their outlook on life and world has not yet been realized. They are eager for knowledge, imitative and plastic, and the knowledge and education they receive at this time often affect their lives. Therefore, ideological and moral education should start with dolls. Not only parents and teachers, every adult citizen should always pay attention to his words and deeds, be honest and trustworthy, set a good example for minors, create an atmosphere of honesty and build our spiritual home.