What kind of temperament is your baby? In fact, every baby has its own unique temperament, and babies with different temperaments also need different parenting styles, some of which are easy to raise and some are difficult to raise. Next, let's see what kind of temperament your baby is.
What is the temperament type of your baby? 1 1, the temperament type of your baby.
1. When does your baby cry?
A, only crying under normal circumstances such as hunger and thirst.
B, I often cry, but it's easy to coax.
C, it's easy to cry, and I don't know why, but I just can't.
Conclusion: Easy-to-raise babies can control their emotions well and cry when necessary to attract their parents' attention. Difficult-to-raise babies are unpredictable and often make parents unprepared.
2. Does your baby suck his fingers?
A, occasionally suck your fingers and take them out if you don't make trouble.
B, often suck your fingers and take them out to make trouble.
C. never suck your fingers.
Conclusion: Finger sucking is a baby's activity to explore the world and a positive way to deal with emotions. 1 year-old does not need strong intervention, but the baby who is difficult to raise may not like or be too paranoid about this behavior.
3. Can the baby play by himself?
A, you can play by yourself for a while, but not for too long.
B, you can play well without company for a long time.
C, you must accompany him, or you will make trouble if you don't accompany him.
Conclusion: Easy-to-raise baby is good at dealing with "time alone", and he will find ways to make himself happy and fully explore the fun of the game. Difficult-to-raise babies are sticky and it is difficult to get rid of their dependence on their parents.
4. Does your baby like to laugh?
Answer, laugh very loudly.
B, smile but be shy.
C, seldom laugh.
Conclusion: Love to laugh means that the baby is good at externalizing his inner emotions, and the easy-to-raise baby is good at laughing and easy to be teased. Difficult-to-raise babies are not good at expressing their inner emotions and feel a little "cold".
5. Is your baby brave?
A: Generally speaking, some things will make him afraid.
B, it's big and easy to deal with strangers.
C, very young, always scared to cry by something.
Conclusion: At a certain age, babies will have fear of the outside world, and easy-to-raise babies can overcome strangeness and pay attention to interesting things. Difficult-to-raise babies are more defensive and afraid to try new things.
Second, see what mom says:
1, "I think Xixi is difficult to raise, because compared with other babies, he is more difficult to take care of: poor sleep quality, easy to wake up; If you are not very concerned about breastfeeding, you must eat it; I often have diarrhea. I have to spend more time and thought to take care of him than other mothers. I am always worried that my baby will fall behind. "
-Sissy's mother
2. "My Haozi is a mixed type. What is difficult to raise is that the baby is naughty, stubborn and particularly fond of sticking to his mother; Yi Yang's performance is that he loves to eat everything, and he loves to laugh when he cries. No matter what type he is, I won't feel unhappy. The baby is a godsend and needs us to take good care of it and accompany him to grow up. "
-Jia Hao's mother
3. "I think Cheng is an easy-to-raise type. His life is very regular. I don't have to work too hard and worry too much about his various development indicators. So far, he is seldom sick and doesn't like to cry. After crying, a hug can make him better. I am really lucky to meet such a treasure, such a rookie mother. "
-Chengcheng Mom
What is the temperament type of your baby? Modern psychological research and experiments show that the temperament characteristics of the baby itself restrict the attitude and way of parents to treat the baby to a great extent. There are three kinds of baby's temperament: easy, difficult and slow.
1, easy baby
Regular life, cheerful mood, easy to accept new things, adapt to the new environment, meet new requirements, so it is easier to care about him, parents are more willing to provide him with more care and care, and their attitude towards their children is more positive. All these will have a positive impact on the parent-child relationship and enhance the feelings between parents and children.
2. Difficult babies
It's hard to take care of them. Their lives are irregular and their emotions are negative. It is difficult for them to be satisfied with the environment and their parents. Therefore, parents often feel helpless, even think they are incompetent parents, or have negative emotions such as disgust and hatred for their babies. All these will make children impatient, confused and even hostile to their parents, thus forming a negative cycle, and these children will be more "difficult" to take care of.
3. Delayed babies
Similar to children with difficulties, they will also have negative reactions to bathing, new things and strangers, but because their negative reactions are not as strong as those of children with difficulties, their parents are more patient with them. However, parents' tolerance and patience will not last long if they are still slow to respond or even retreat in those aspects that parents think are important. They will think that children are "incompetent" and "timid", so they often take coercive measures, but this coercion can only aggravate children's escape reaction. The greater the pressure, the stronger the sense of escape, leading to a negative cycle, and the parent-child relationship is becoming more and more tense, which affects the baby's psychological development in many ways.
In daily life, there are only a few children who belong to a certain temperament type, and most of them are dominated by a certain temperament type with some characteristics of other temperament types. Therefore, there are two types of temperament, namely, it is difficult to raise in China and easy to raise in China, plus the first three types, there are five types of temperament.
Temperament, as a psychological feature of personality, has the characteristics of strong stability and is not easy to change, which is quite difficult to change. As the saying goes, "Temper is hard to change, temperament is hard to move". As a growing child, the innate temperament type is certain, but his development tendency and result depend on the acquired education, training, environmental factors and self-exercise, and the child is plastic. According to children's temperament characteristics, through various educational means, we can give full play to the advantages of their temperament types, overcome unfavorable factors, make children develop physically and mentally healthily, and avoid abnormal behavior and emotional disorders.
It is worth mentioning that temperament is innate, related to heredity, and there is no difference between good and bad. Temperament does not determine the social value and achievements of a person's activities. In the same field, people with different temperament types have outstanding representatives.
What is the temperament type of your baby? Children's temperament is mainly evaluated from nine dimensions, such as activity, regularity and avoidance. Finally, according to the evaluation results of these nine dimensions, children's temperament is divided into three types:
1, simple type
Such children have regular physiological functions such as diet and sleep, are easy to accept new people or things, adapt to the new environment, have a happy mood, respond positively, and are easy to get the care and love of adults. Such children account for about 40%.
2. Difficult type
Contrary to the "easy-type" children, these children often cry loudly, their emotions are always unstable, their lives are irregular, they are slow to accept new things and new environments, they are very troublesome to raise, and they are easy to alienate their parents and children. These children account for about 10%.
3. Slow type
This kind of children have low activity level, weak behavioral response intensity and negative emotions, but they don't always cry loudly like children with difficulties. They retreated quietly, avoiding new things. In the absence of stress, "slow-type" children will gradually become interested in new external stimuli and then gradually become active. This kind of children account for about 15%.
In addition, 35% of children can't simply fall into any of the above temperament types. They often have the characteristics of mixing the above two or three temperament types, belonging to "intermediate type" or "transitional type"
Some young parents always like to mold an "ideal child" in their hearts, but when the child is born, they find that all the behaviors of this lively little life are far from what they imagined, which requires parents to adjust their mentality in time. If you still insist on your own wishes and take coercive measures to force children to rely on their own "ideal model", it may lead to opposition and rebellion between parents and children.
The temperament of a child is determined by nature, and it is difficult to change, but it will change slightly because of the influence of the acquired environment. As parents, they can exert influence on children with different temperaments, make up for their surplus and deficiency, so as to achieve the goal of healthy growth. However, we should avoid overcorrection and forcibly make the "slow type" flexible and the "difficult type" easy to raise, which will only make the educational effect worse and worse.
Many parents ask: Is there a difference between a child's temperament and that of a child? What should I do to change my temperament type?
In fact, children's temperament is innate, there is no difference between good and bad, and it is not easy to change. What we can do is to choose the appropriate education method according to different temperament. No matter what kind of temperament, there are both positive and negative aspects. Some parents literally think that "easy-to-raise" children have an advantage over "difficult-to-raise" children. But practice shows that "difficult-to-raise" children also have many unique advantages: for example, they are sensitive, and their parents can know their physical condition in time and take necessary medical measures at the early stage of the disease.
The research also shows that the preschool intelligence development of "difficult-to-raise" children is better than that of "easy-to-raise" children, because parents will spend more energy on active education of such children. In addition, children with "slow fever" look a little weak temporarily, but they are more stable when they grow up.