Give priority to moral education and cultivate correct values. It's your fault not to teach. The way to teach, morality first. Jiao always regards moral education as the primary task and main content of family education, and helps children to establish correct values through words and deeds.
Teach children not to be privileged or special. Jiao pays special attention to preventing his children from breeding privileged thoughts. One night soon after working in lankao county, Jiao Guoqing, the eldest son, watched a play in the auditorium without buying a ticket. After learning this, Jiao severely criticized his son: "You can't get into the habit of taking advantage from an early age. Watching' white play' is an act of exploitation and the fruit of labor that exploits others. " The next day, he led Jiao Guoqing to the auditorium to make up a 20-cent ticket and asked his son to go to the ticket inspector to check the ticket.
Educate children not to take advantage of the public. Jiao Youlu pays attention to cultivating children's collective concept, and often educates children to make more contributions to the collective and not to take advantage of the collective in vain. When he first arrived in Lankao, he suggested that Chengguan Town transform the pond into a fish pond. During Jiao's serious illness, the comrades in the fishing ground thanked him for his concern and sent more than a dozen live fish to his home for him to mend his body. The children were very happy to see the fish, but he said to them, "This fish is collective property. If our family doesn't go to work, how can we eat for free? " If everyone takes advantage of the collective, can the collective work be done well? "The words made the children understand the truth and immediately sent the fish back to the fishing ground.
To educate children, it is better to learn, to make progress, and to have food and clothing. The eldest daughter, Jiao Shoufeng, was still wearing an old cloth coat made by her father when she was seven years old in grade three. She was once laughed at by her classmates. After returning home, she said to her father, "People say that you are the secretary of the county party committee. Isn't it shameful for me to wear such rags?" After hearing this, Jiao Youlu pointed to his patched clothes and said, "Where is the county party secretary? What do you think I'm wearing as a county party secretary? Who are you kidding? When you are with your classmates, you should love learning, work, unity and friendship, live a hard and simple life and dress neatly. It is shameful to be lazy and greedy. " In his spare time, Jiao often takes his children to participate in productive labor, and goes to the fields where the autumn harvest has been completed nearby to pick up beans and cut flowers, so that children can develop the habit of loving labor, cherishing food and being thrifty.
Teach students in accordance with their aptitude and pay attention to methods. Jiao Shoufeng was unemployed at home after graduating from junior high school. Several government agencies in lankao county offered to arrange work for her, including telephone operators, teachers and county officials. When Jiao knew it, he said to her, "You can't sit in the office as soon as you leave school, and it's no good missing a labor class. Young people should do some dirty work and exercise hard. If they don't work, they will forget their roots. " Finally, he arranged for Jiao Shoufeng to work as a worker in a small workshop-style food processing factory and began to pickle and brew soy sauce. Working as a worker in a food processing factory is not only hard and labor-intensive, but also carries the burden to sell soy sauce and pickles. Lankao county is small, and many people know the daughter of the county party secretary, which makes Jiao Shoufeng hard to accept. One day, Jiao personally took her daughter to the streets to sell soy sauce, teaching her how to carry the burden without rubbing her shoulders and how to sell soy sauce and pickles quickly. She also said to her: "Dad sold oil when he was a child, and Grandpa used to run an oil mill. When I was a child, I would run all over the street with oil ... "This incident completely changed Jiao Shoufeng's view on labor, and she was no longer in the mood. The tempering in the kimchi factory has made her more optimistic about life and benefited her for life.
Be strict with yourself and teach by example. Confucius said, "It's just and not ordered; His body is not right, although he does not obey. " Parents are their children's first teachers, so they should be their role models and give them the first lesson in life. That's what Jiao did. Once, Jiao came home and saw a bowl of rice, which was rare at that time, so he asked his wife where the rice came from. The wife said that the county party Committee took care of a few pounds considering his poor health. Jiao resolutely refused after listening, and gave the rice to the college students studying Paulownia in lankao county. Although this is just an ordinary trivial matter in Jiao's family, after a long time, children will realize that it is more effective to not enjoy privileges and not engage in special things than to talk about how many truths.
(The author is an associate professor and deputy director of the Scientific Socialism Teaching and Research Department of the Party School of Henan Provincial Party Committee. )
China Education News, 6th edition, 202 1,10,21.
Author: Li Tao