I know my own pain, my own sadness and my own happiness. Maybe the hell in my own eyes is the existence in the eyes of others; Maybe the heaven in your own eyes is the hell in others' eyes. Life is so funny. Don't always doubt that spring scenery is in others, the key lies in the adjustment of your own mentality. Living well is the most important thing.
The second comfort: don't be a slave to desire.
People always sigh "moths put out the fire", people always ridicule "fish take the bait" and people always laugh at "falling into the mire", but think about it carefully, is there a tragedy of this desire around our lives? No one is satisfied. Those who indulge their souls will eventually lose their true freedom! We must always be on guard against bad desires. Get rid of bad desires and don't indulge yourself.
The third comfort: live a relaxed and happy life.
If you don't blindly compare with others, you will be carefree; If you don't set your life goals too high, you will always be happy; If you don't deliberately pursue perfection, you will stay away from pain; If you don't always demand yourself, you will live comfortably; If you don't always find fault, it will be easier. If you live too tired, you will be miserable and satisfied.
The fourth comfort: Only when you like yourself can you embrace life.
Blindly arrogant, arrogant, is a proud and ignorant life, blindly giving up on yourself, is a pessimistic and world-weary life. It is more difficult to know yourself than to know others, and it is more difficult to like yourself than to like others. Have a healthy and appropriate self-esteem psychology, and will be particularly strong in the face of setbacks. Don't lose yourself for the temptation of the outside world, and don't deny yourself for a temporary setback. Always evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and always praise yourself optimistically and to the point. Can you love others if you don't love yourself? Like yourself.
The fifth comfort: See the world with more kindness.
Clear water makes no fish, while people look at it without friends. The shortcomings of others can't be tolerated everywhere, so everyone becomes a "bad guy" and can't live in peace. Look at the world with "evil" eyes, and the world is broken everywhere; Looking at the world with a "good" eye, there is always something lovely in the world. The more you look at other people's merits, the cuter you will look. All saints should "save myself three times a day" and be tolerant of each other.
Comfort 6: Don't chase worldly honor.
Looking for the so-called things recognized by others all your life will always lose your happiness and happiness. Vulgar comments will annihilate your personality, and secular suggestions will leave you at a loss. Money for money will make you disown your six relatives, power for power will make you bold, and fame for name will make you unprepared. In the deliberate pursuit, the real me will become fragments fluttering in the wind, and the secular me will become disgusting. Get kitsch, lose truth, strengthen confidence and own yourself.
The seventh comfort: extremely undesirable.
Some people often worry too much, leading to their mental disorders; Some people are indifferent to everything because they are insensitive. The former often suffers from being unable to find the reason, but dies because of being too smart. The root of stupidity lies in regretting everything. The latter doesn't know what regret is, and lives in a daze all day. There is no difference between life and death. Going to extremes always fails, looking for the wisdom of life.
Comfort 8: Don't care too much about other people's comments.
There is not a painting that is not evaluated by others, and there is not a person that is not discussed by others. If you are silent, someone will accuse you of being "shrewd"; If you are good at talking, someone will accuse you of "bragging"; If you praise others, someone will accuse you of "ulterior motives"; If you criticize yourself in good faith, some people will be furious and think they are "meddling". Just look at other people's faces, you can't live, you have yourself, you are not limited to yourself.
Comfort 9: The more evil thoughts, the deeper the pain.
Why can't we live in peace? The key is not to drive away the demons in time. Because you have evil thoughts, you will not restrain yourself rationally, and you will often do stupid things that you regret. Because the dust of the soul is not cleaned up in time, weak-willed people will fall into deep pools from time to time. Because you are often possessed by ghosts, you will be blinded by stupidity and unconsciously enter the wrong fork. If there is evil in your heart, you will be uneasy and you will get rid of evil thoughts.
Comfort 10: Be careful not to live too tired.
People often sigh that living is really tiring. Tired, it is mental stress; Being tired is a heavy psychological burden. Tired and not tired are always relative. If you want not to be tired, you must learn to relax. Life is to relax. Mental fatigue makes people fall into sub-health state for a long time; A tired heart will make you depressed. Don't be too tired, learn to release yourself.
Comfort 1 1: The most important thing is today's heart.
Why lose your present mood for painful regret, and why worry about inexplicable troubles all the time. The past is gone forever, and it's no use regretting. The future is still out of reach, no matter how worried you are, you will be sad. Today's thoughts, today's events, and today's people are all real and feel good. Of course, it is wise to sum up the past and guard against future risks. Yesterday has passed, but tomorrow hasn't come yet. Today is real.
Comfort 12: Heartache can only be treated by itself.
Why do you want to lose your present mood for painful regret? It is also necessary to vent your grievances once in a while. But endless complaining will only increase troubles and let others see their incompetence. Complaining is a fatal negative state of mind. Once one's complaining becomes a bad habit, one's life will be dark, not only one's good mood will be gone, but others will also be unlucky. It's no use complaining, optimism is the most important thing.
Comfort 13: Good mood is created by yourself.
We often can't change other people's opinions, but only we can. The bad life lies not in the sins of others, but in our bad mood. The golden key to a better life is not in the hands of others. Give up our resentment and sigh, and a better life will be within reach. Subjectively, we want to live a good life, objectively, we have not lived a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives. Don't expect to change others and be the master of your own life.
Comfort 14: Do what you should do with your heart.
Life is too short to waste. A wise philosopher once said, "when someone scolds me in the street, I won't even look back." I don't want to know this boring person at all! " "We should neither hurt others nor be influenced by others' criticism, but should learn our skills in a down-to-earth manner according to our own wishes. Especially when you are a teenager, you should go all out to learn your skills and don't be distracted.
Comfort 15: Don't always give yourself a hard time.
Learning to appreciate yourself means having the golden key to happiness. Appreciating yourself is not narcissism, xenophobia, narcissism, nor complacency ... give yourself a little confidence, give yourself a little happiness and give yourself a smile. Why worry about unhappy life? ! Always give yourself a vacation and learn to find a happy mood.