This may be a common manifestation of social anxiety and social phobia. Patients with social phobia are often naive, timid, shy, sensitive, insecure, dependent and highly introverted before they get sick. So it will lead to nervousness, avoidance, timidity and fear in front of people. Symptoms such as sweating, palpitation and palpitation will appear on the body, and some patients will be accompanied by whole body trembling. The treatment of social phobia is generally based on psychotherapy. Especially serious phobia needs a small amount of auxiliary drugs, but the effect of simple drug treatment is not good.
Psychotherapy commonly used methods are:
(1) Behavioral therapy, including systematic desensitization therapy and exposure therapy, is the most important method to treat specific phobia. Its principles include: one is to eliminate the conditional connection between the object of fear and the anxiety and fear response, and the other is to resist the avoidance response.
(2) Cognitive behavioral therapy Cognitive behavioral therapy is the first choice to treat phobia. In the past, behavioral therapy emphasized observable behaviors and actions, but the long-term effect was not satisfactory. Cognitive behavioral therapy emphasizes the adjustment of patients' unreasonable cognition while adjusting patients' behavior, and the effect is good. Especially for patients with social phobia, their distorted beliefs and information processing process make the symptoms persist, and correcting these distorted cognitive patterns is a very key content in the treatment.
(3) Social skills training Social phobia patients often have social skills defects or underestimate their social skills, so they can improve their symptoms through training for a certain period of time. Including: the demonstration role of therapists, social reinforcement, exposure exercise, self-affirmation training, etc.
Anxiety and fear, if temporary. Stay in one place and try not to communicate and contact with others. After a while, don't be anxious. You must be very lost and confused, because people in life can't make progress with society and get in touch with the external environment. No one can live independently. Then your anxiety and fear must be influenced by the environment, or stimulated by the outside world, and there will be short-term confusion in your brain and short-term fear in your heart! After living alone for a while, you will return to your normal life. At that time, you won't be afraid of anxiety, because you want this society and your brain needs a good mood. If you are anxious and afraid for a long time, you'd better go to the hospital to check your physical reasons, whether you have depression or something, and whether everything is normal. Change the living environment, people who live in depression for a long time will be a little autistic, communicate more with others, talk more with their families, travel more and think more about happy things. If you want to overcome yourself, you can't lose to your mood. Suffering will eventually pass, and a better life is waiting for us to return!
I'm happy to answer questions.
In response to your question, my suggestion is:
First, adjust your mood and make yourself happy. Appropriate outdoor activities, running, playing ball and shouting in open places are all good ways to adjust your mood.
Second, strengthen yourself. Experience and enjoy the joy and sense of accomplishment of doing things well from the little things you have done. Thereby enhancing self-confidence and strengthening the heart. Be yourself, live high's characteristics and personality. Live yourself well and don't always care about other people's feelings. If you don't feel good yourself, others may not feel good. I wish you happiness!
Third, more activities can relax the mood. Develop good living habits, go to bed early and get up early, and keep your body and mind happy.
When there is anxiety and fear. I stay at home every day and don't want to go out. I don't want to see anyone. I'm afraid of meeting people. Later, I developed into a communication barrier. I don't know how to get along with people. Talk to people and feel inferior. Everyone is depressed. Later, I was afraid of depression, so I went to play chess, cards, mahjong, and took the initiative to contact people, and finally came out.
The truth of all the so-called mental diseases such as depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, mania and bipolar disorder.
Psychological problems are a very serious social phenomenon at present, especially among children, which makes people feel sad. How many people are in despair, how many families are on the verge of collapse, and most people are still in the dark and don't know the truth and the way out. That's terrible!
What I want to tell you is that all the so-called psychological problems, no matter what type, no matter how serious, no matter how complicated the symptoms are, actually do not exist at all. Why are these so-called mental diseases so difficult to cure? Because we have been solving a non-existent problem, how to solve it? The result will only cause more and more serious problems. Obviously, all negative emotions are normal emotions that everyone has, just like breathing. If you have to solve it, you can only solve your life, which is why many people finally choose to go to a dead end. Most people will let go of negative emotions quickly, but we can't. We must solve it, even if the larger foe breaks through, the result will be more and more serious. As we all know, there is no need to solve the problem unless it is solved. No matter how hard life is, there is nothing to let go of. When you leave this world, you can't take anything away.
Life is a drama, so why be so serious and bother yourself.
In fact, there are many people worse off than you in reality. Most people don't take it seriously or answer it. We not only pick it up, but also don't want to put it down. As long as you put it down, there will be no pain. If we can't let go, there's nothing anyone can do. But there is a way to suffer. If you wait enough, you will naturally let go, and your words are not rough.
I want to tell you that it is a very wrong choice to choose to end your life. Ending life is not the end of pain, but just the beginning of another endless pain. Life will never end, and every life has its meaning.
Anyway, what is the essence and truth of these so-called psychological problems? Knowing this, all the so-called psychological problems will be solved. Because it doesn't actually exist, of course, there is nothing to solve.
Some people say, how can it not exist? The problems we face in reality are as real as the pain we bear in our hearts. We just can't sleep, our symptoms and diseases are real, I just can't see any hope of life, and so on. These pains obviously exist. Isn't it self-deception to say that it doesn't exist?
Yes, everything is so real to you. What I want to say is that these so-called real situations are only results, not causes, but also superficial phenomena, not essence. They are not static. To solve these so-called psychological problems, we must start from the root causes. Whether through psychological counseling or drug therapy, everyone is using phenomena to solve phenomena and problems to solve problems. Instead of solving the problem, it will continue to worsen.
All psychological problems, no matter what kind of negative emotions, will be manifested as uncontrollable thoughts, constant thinking, unable to eat, unable to sleep, physical and mental fatigue. They just want to understand that the more they think about it, the more uncontrollable the vicious circle will be until it collapses. This is because in this process, our energy will gradually run out and we will lose the ability to control our own thinking more and more. In the end, even our own lives will be given up, which is an illusion of low energy state. In that energy state, even a sesame seed will become a mountain and crush itself.
In this case, only by increasing energy can it be changed. This energy is not only eating and resting, but more importantly, it is to stop the erosion of negative energy (negative thinking) and constantly improve positive energy. To break the vicious circle, stop thinking (you will never think about it, and you will never think about the result) and turn to positive thinking to save energy. With positive energy, you can control your own thinking and everything in your life. With positive energy, the problem that bothered you in the past has changed from watermelon to sesame.
So how do you stop thinking? We just can't help thinking! In fact, we can't control our thoughts because negative energy (all negative emotions) is so powerful that we are controlled by negative energy. Because people with different negative energy express different negative emotions, physical symptoms are even more strange, and there are all kinds of so-called psychological problems, which are actually the same in essence.
As long as the essence is grasped, all the so-called psychological problems naturally do not exist and do not need to be solved at all, because there is nothing to solve. No matter what your situation is, no matter how serious it is, no matter how real and difficult the real problem is, no matter how serious your health is, even if you are terminally ill, there is only one root cause and one solution. Find the root cause, all the problems in life are soap bubbles.
What is the root cause? The fundamental reason lies in the wrong three views and the wrong pursuit of value. At present, it can be said that 99% people in the world are pursuing the wrong things. Pursue material things, all kinds of desires, pornography, unfilial, do not cherish life, only know to take but do not know the meaning of life is to give rather than take, and have pressure (have to pursue a specific goal or requirement). Because of these wrong views, every thought, every word and every action in our hearts are directed at desires and needs. There must be a desire behind every negative emotion. There are also many parents who impose these misconceptions on their children, blaming others for hurting their children and blaming themselves. All our desires and negative emotions are negative energy, which will be constantly entangled and amplified. In the end, positive energy will be less and less, and even we will be proud of negative energy and ashamed of positive energy. Isn't this a common phenomenon in modern society? Why do most people live in pain? This is the general source. Everyone's performance is different, some are physically ill, some are mentally ill, some encounter setbacks or disasters, and so on.
When we get the so-called mental illness, we begin to blame others, think that we are unlucky and think that heaven is unfair. In fact, God is the fairest. Every mistake you make, you have to bear it yourself. And everyone is choosing to avoid responsibility, but how can they escape? Some people want to talk to a psychological counselor, but actually talking is releasing negative energy, which will not only solve the problem, but also attract more negative energy. Some people hope to solve it through drugs. It's obviously a matter of heart. How to solve the drug? Isn't that ridiculous? Others want someone to help them. How does the other person in your heart make it work? How can others understand your whimsy under negative emotions?
You live in a dream and only wake up. Who can interpret dreams? Wake up. What's the problem?
To solve this problem, you must first understand where you are wrong and that no one is punishing you. It's all your own fault. The universe is the fairest. If you are still happy when you are wrong, it is really unreasonable. In fact, it's nobody's fault outside, it's all your own fault. Don't complain, just reflect on yourself. The theory of family origin simply doesn't exist. Are harmful. You decide your own destiny, so don't give yourself any reasons or excuses. Don't think that it is caused by all practical problems such as family environment, others bullying you, interpersonal tension, lack of money, stress, physical illness and so on. Wrong, these problems are also phenomena, the result of three wrong views, and the result of the same root as your psychological problems are all appearances and have the same root of mistakes. Even if these problems are solved, your psychological problems still exist and there will be bigger problems to remind you.
Every pain reminds you that you are wrong and makes you turn around quickly. Once you look back, pain loses its value of existence. The sea of misery is boundless, and turning back is the shore. As long as you don't look back, the pain will follow you. Behind every pain, there is a persistence and a desire. Only let go of persistence and desire. The past is the past, and everything is of my own making. No one has hurt you, and no one can hurt you. Accept what you are facing. This is the result of what you have done in the past and cannot be changed. What we can do now is to recognize our mistakes and correct them. From now on, keep positive thoughts, words and behaviors, stop spreading and releasing negative energy, including at home and on the Internet, starting from the side, starting from small things, starting from housework, helping others, dedicating yourself, letting go of selfishness, desire, material desire, honoring parents, cherishing all life and fearing nature. These are the true meaning of life, returning to humanity. Where can there be psychological problems? Where are the life problems to be solved? Where does it hurt? What's unfair?
Also, parents with children's problems, please let their children go, let them go, don't care too much, give them a correct outlook on life education, give them freedom, and don't give them too much pressure. Internet generation, less contact with video games, pornographic websites and other addictive things, stop killing children with drugs! ! !
Finally, I can tell you that I used to be a so-called serious mental patient for more than twenty years, no matter how desperate and helpless I was. Now, I have been born again. I hope to share my experience gained with blood and tears with you, and I hope to help more people who are still trapped in the bottomless abyss of pain come out. I hope to save more families and children on the verge of collapse.
Thinking that you have so-called psychological problems and trying to solve them are the real reasons and the beginning of all the pain. With the process of solving, the pain is getting bigger and bigger. This is the fundamental difference between normal people and so-called mental patients. All real problems in life are the same, and not solving them is the best solution. Do nothing. Do nothing. Most people have done it backwards, so it's miserable.
Many people say they can't let go. Nothing can't be let go. People have to put it down when they die. No one can take it away. If you don't put it down, you will continue to suffer on your back. There is no choice, and no one can help you put it down. The only way to let go is to accept, accept what others and yourself have experienced, and accept everything that may happen!
Friends with feelings, I hope everyone will forward more. Helping others is helping yourself.
Me too. I haven't been out for a long time. The farthest place I have been is my grandmother's house. I didn't want to see anyone, so I disappeared. There is nothing to be afraid of.
All because I stayed at home for too long and didn't see anyone. I saw a small method before, and I imagined what it would be like to meet someone. Suppose the worst is the case, and record your fears in a notebook. When you go out, you will find it is different from what you imagined.
Okay, I don't know what to say.
Two people are walking in the street, and you are scared. You can't tell whether the other person is in the same mood as you. What is there to be afraid of? Born as a human for the first time.
The essence of anxiety is the fear of potential loss of control. When you gain a sense of control, you will have stronger internal motivation.
Psychologist Freeston and others put forward the concept of "intolerable degree of uncertainty", arguing that this affects the relationship between "uncertainty" and "anxiety". The greater the uncertainty, the higher our anxiety.
When the situation we face is unknown and uncertain, it will bring us a feeling of being out of control and make us feel unsafe.
Faced with a potential loss of control or insecurity, the anxiety we feel is actually a subconscious fear, even a fear that endangers our survival.
Then, working from the level of fear or out of control can alleviate anxiety.
1. Coping with fear
(1) Regulate fear
We can try to adjust our fears from the aspect of autonomic nerves through exercise and mindfulness.
For example, jogging and yoga can increase dopamine and endorphins in the brain and make us calm and relaxed. Through exercise, the circuits of positive emotions in the brain will also increase, helping us to resist fear.
Mindfulness comes from the awareness brought by purposeful, present and non-judgmental attention.
Research data show that mindfulness for more than 2 weeks can increase inner peace and happiness, improve people's sleep quality, and mindfulness for 8 weeks can also significantly change people's brain function.
(2) System desensitization: enhancing the tolerance to fear.
We can eliminate fear by gradually increasing our tolerance for the object of fear.
However, if we can't do it ourselves, don't be forced. We can seek the help of consultants and complete this training with the protection and help of consultants.
Regain control
Regaining a sense of control is also an effective way to help us relieve anxiety. Here are three specific ways to tell you:
(1) concretization
When we are afraid, the objects we fear are often vague and chaotic.
Specifically, you described this vague thing clearly and clearly.
Through these specific ways, let Ta reflect on and perceive the whole event, so that the whole thing is no longer chaotic.
When you become more and more familiar with yourself and your anxious objects, Ta will feel more and more in control and eliminate anxiety.
Therefore, through specific description, you can be more familiar with and understand the object of your anxiety and yourself, and thus be more in control of the overall situation.
(2) focusing
Generally, anxious people are full of all kinds of things in their minds and think a lot of things at the same time. When everything is thought and done together, it often becomes at a loss.
At this time, you need to prioritize all the things you want to do. Focus on one thing before doing something else.
At work, we often encounter multitasking.
We should ensure that "important things come first". Choose a task with the highest priority, concentrate on completing this task first, and then do the next one. Do it one by one.
This will not only give you a sense of accomplishment when you finish the task, but also positively motivate yourself and help you greatly relieve your anxiety.
(3) Make a plan and break down the objectives.
When we face some long-term and arduous tasks, our anxiety will be stronger.
Then, the way to relieve anxiety is to make a plan and disassemble the goal.
When making a plan, you should split it from top to bottom. First set the big goal of the whole project, and then split the big goal into small goals. Clear measurement indicators, deadlines, and how to achieve each big goal and small goal.
Breaking down a big goal into small goals can make the goal clearer and more executable, and make the whole task feel more controllable, thus alleviating anxiety.
Leave some spare time between small goals and set aside time for emergencies. Otherwise, when unexpected events happen at an inappropriate time, you will become flustered and even more anxious.
Give yourself a reward after completing each small goal, such as taking a vacation, eating a delicious meal and getting together with friends. Doing so, on the one hand, can alleviate the staged pressure and anxiety, on the other hand, it is also a positive incentive for yourself. Encourage yourself to meet the next stage of work with a more positive mood and state.
May you be healed by the warmth of love [to your heart] [to your heart]
I've lived too much and don't want to see anyone. Why? Did you do something wrong? No ability? I don't think so! You think life is not what you want! Then you can try to change. ! Why not? !
Find out the reasons for your anxiety and fear. If it is inexplicable anxiety and fear, then you should find something meaningful to do. Enjoy success, enjoy happiness, and let happiness fill your brain. When you are in a good mood, anxiety will naturally disappear. It doesn't matter if you meet people, because without anxiety and fear, you won't care about meeting people anymore.