First, consciousness.
Consciousness is the first and most important step. I realize that I lack love in my childhood, that I am full of longing and anxiety about intimate relationships, that I am always worried about being abandoned, and that I always think that I am bad, unworthy of love and not good enough. ...
In short, I am aware of my true state, only aware of not judging. I don't think it's my fault, but I saw it and confirmed it.
Second, self-cultivation.
The lack of the past has caused you to be an injured child in your childhood. Maybe your parents don't realize or can't provide you with care, guidance and security, but as an adult, you can.
You can take good care of yourself, let yourself do what you like, nourish your mind with good books, movies and music, broaden your horizons with travel, and share your troubles and happiness with friendship. In short, you need a patient hug to cultivate the injured child and give ta a sense of care and security.
Third, treat yourself in a loving way.
How do you want your parents, partners or close friends to treat you? If you want them to love you, be gentle, patient, tolerant and generous, please treat yourself in the same way.
Kindness, be kind with love and gentleness. Listen to your body language. When it is tired, say to it: thank you for your hard work. I hope you have a good rest.
When you are frustrated and in a bad mood because of work mistakes, please forgive your mistakes and tell yourself that even saints can make mistakes and don't need to punish themselves severely. You just need to sum up your own experience and lessons, and pay attention next time. Also, calm down your emotions. Remember to say to yourself, I love you
The lack of childhood is not a defect or a regret, but a reason to grow up better and love yourself more.