If a person can shrink his legs between the legs of another person, he will open his heart to another person without reservation and pour out his heart.
Of course, the distance within one meter of face-to-face also has a good effect.
When you talk to another person, you must let your guard down first. When you are in your own safety zone, you can't hide anything from another person.
When you take the initiative to enter another person's field, the distance is shortened and face to face, you will slowly let down your guard and open your heart.
They don't feel nonverbal information when they meet face to face, but this information is very important to them.
They need an atmosphere of support, and they have no conditions to create such an atmosphere.
..... There are many more, but this is just a personal guess, which is not helpful for practical consultation.
It can be judged according to the actual situation.
This phenomenon is representative in our consultation, but the reasons vary from person to person.
First of all, face-to-face consultation has a "field" power compared with WeChat video consultation. We say that the real consultation doesn't start from sitting in the consultation room with the visitors, but from the first contact between the consultants and the visitors. For example, if we have family therapy, we may invite other family members to join this interview. Then some members may be unwilling to come, or some family members may have concerns. Face-to-face consultation will be much more formal and detailed than WeChat video in the early stage. Your input is different, and you get different.
And in face-to-face consultation, consultation is in a relatively quiet and private space. This space also has a certain healing effect on visitors, just like the mother's uterus, which is very safe. In the process of consultation, both visitors and counselors have verbal and non-verbal communication, especially non-verbal communication, such as the counselor's own state, eye contact, like eye encouragement, which has a healing effect on visitors. In the WeChat video, because everyone is not in the same space, if you don't know the visitor well, maybe his space is not quiet enough and private enough, and you lose some of the power of the field. Then because of some technical interference, you have to debug and be distracted. Maybe your nonverbal communication skills are weak and you won't pay attention to some details. Of course, this will also have an impact on counselors because of good treatment.
There are also some good therapies used by psychological counselors, such as sandplay therapy, which will greatly weaken its role if it is carried out through WeChat video. For example, when we are doing the actual sandbox game operation, the psychological counselor will introduce the visitor to his sensory level through his own guidance language and the visitor's sense of touch, and then help the visitor subconsciously realize, and then sort out the relationship with the visitor step by step to see the crux of the problem.
As a professional consultant, Teacher Sand Table does not recommend using WeChat video for consultation. Of course, some visitors think that there is not much difference between the two consultation methods, so we can't generalize them.
First of all, I think this is a wrong understanding. Secondly, this problem is related to the professional skills of consultants. Up to now, I have mostly communicated through WeChat, and the cure rate has reached 100%. People have this view because they are unfamiliar with this industry. It is normal for everyone to have such a view.
In fact, psychological counseling can also be summarized as "looking, listening and asking" in traditional Chinese medicine. Video chat can only observe its appearance, but can't deeply understand people's inner world;
Another key point is that video chat may reveal privacy, and most psychological counselors do not want others to know their secrets;
Everyone is always willing to put the contents of true feelings into reality, and you will feel that they really exist when you sit face to face, and many visitors are more willing to have feelings with you, and the basis of feelings is that you can see their eyes, body language and waiting eyes, and you will feel that you can be closer to believing like a talkative family. I hope you live a happy life ... @ Northeast Slant Daniel Wu
Just like you know each other, you will never know each other's authenticity until you face the real person! Wechat wechat can only believe a little! The reason is the same.
There is no such exchange and flow of energy in the video. Face-to-face healing is the giving and releasing of energy, and talent can heal.
Not real enough, not safe enough, not warm enough, not honest enough.