How children behave needs to see a psychologist. Children's personality and thoughts are greatly influenced by their families. Children's stress may come from parents' high demands. Early childhood is a critical moment to cultivate their abilities. Parents and children can't ignore every problem when they grow up. Sharing children's behavior now requires seeing a psychiatrist.
How children behave depends on psychologists 1 1. The baby is a little older and still likes to suck his fingers.
Performance: Some older babies often suck their fingers or toes, especially their thumbs. In severe cases, their thumbs will be deformed, and some children can't sleep without sucking their fingers.
The main reason:/kloc-It is normal for babies under 0 to suck their fingers. This is because the baby knows the world through his mouth, and the hand is just an external thing to the baby whose brain is not fully developed, not an organ of his own body. This is called self-differentiation.
With the improvement of brain development, most babies will gradually change their finger sucking behavior, but it is a psychological problem that older babies are still sucking. If they have suffered great psychological trauma, sucking their fingers can play a soothing role. Cha Caihui cited a case: a mother left her baby at home in order to wean her 6-month-old baby, and the baby cried for several days. Later, the child had a serious sucking behavior.
Intervention skills: distract the baby's attention
Parents should communicate with their children more and find out their psychological problems. In addition, we can take the method of diverting attention, play with children more, amuse children with interesting toys, or let children do some small things for themselves, increase hand activities and gradually correct the habit of eating fingers.
I like biting my nails and tearing my hands.
Performance: Some children like biting their nails so much that they tear the nail bed or bite bleeding from their fingertips, and know that biting their nails is wrong or out of control. Some children also like to tear their hands, as long as they see a little skin.
The main reasons: children love to bite their nails, which may be due to the lack of trace elements and other physiological reasons, but more psychological reasons, including parents' lack of care, disharmony in family relations, children's depression and nervousness, parents' high expectations or great pressure on learning.
Intervention skills: find the causes of psychological anxiety and divert attention. Parents should pay more attention to children who love biting their nails. They can play games with children or go out to play, which is good for reducing children's anxiety and correcting nail biting. In addition, we should pay attention to positively guiding children to correct nail biting behavior. For example, a parent-child contract can be concluded to avoid reprimanding children for their bad behavior, otherwise it may aggravate psychological problems.
In addition to psychotherapy, for children who love to tear their hands, parents can let their children eat more fruits and vegetables, supplement vitamins and reduce peeling, which is conducive to reducing the chances of children tearing their hands.
3. It is easy to lose your temper or get angry.
Performance: Some children are impulsive and irritable, and they lose their temper when they are slightly unhappy, which is very aggressive. Some parents think that this is a sign of natural personality or low emotional intelligence, but in fact it is often a psychological problem.
The main reason: Although some babies are impulsive and angry easily due to the innate nervous system reaction, most children with big temper are still related to the acquired education and environment. Dr Cha Cai Hui cited a case: 1 a 7-year-old child had psychological counseling because of his bad temper. As a result, Dr. Cha found that the child's mother was very stubborn and arbitrary, always interrupting her father's speech, and even deliberately making excuses not to let her children see her grandparents in the countryside.
Intervention skills: temporary isolation+parents lead by example
If the child loses his temper, he can be isolated in a monotonous place for a few minutes under the premise of ensuring environmental safety, while avoiding anyone's comfort. This cold treatment is more effective for angry children. In addition, parents must reflect on themselves, try not to set a bad example in front of their children, especially not to quarrel in front of their children, and pay attention to controlling their temper.
4. Babies over three years old are excessively dependent on their parents or family members.
Performance: Children over 3 years old are still very dependent on their parents or family. One of the patients who consulted the doctor was a 3-year-old child who had been lying on his father's shoulder like a koala. Even if you play with the most interesting toys, you should have your father with you.
The main reason: Generally speaking, it is normal for babies under 2 years old to be attached to their families, and they will gradually adapt to the separation from adults as they grow older. Some older children have serious dependence, which may be related to their inseparable from adults since childhood. For example, too much care and protection for children makes children feel that everything needs adults to complete. In addition, children who lose their mother's care at an early age (especially between 3 months and 1 year) may be more prone to attachment problems.
Intervention skills: let children do one thing independently.
For dependent children, parents should gradually cultivate their children to do one thing independently, especially to let them feel the sense of accomplishment in completing one thing independently. Slowly, children will find that there are many interesting things without parents. Secondly, when parents leave their children, don't sneak away without saying a word. They must tell their children that they will come back.
5. Excessive fear
Performance: It is normal for children to have fear, but they should pay attention to those beyond the normal range, such as being afraid of the dark, thinking that they need an injection when they see a doctor, or "school phobia".
The main reason: people's fear is almost directly proportional to the development of physical skills and personal growth experience. With more and more things and activities, the fear experienced by the baby will increase accordingly. Generally speaking, the fear of disease, death, loneliness, darkness and imaginary monsters peaked at the age of 4, and began to decline after the age of 6. Whether the fear can be overcome in time is closely related to the sense of security that children get from their parents.
Intervention skills: understand children's fears, appease+tell the truth.
Children's imagination is extremely rich, and they often confuse imagination with reality. Adults should understand and comfort him from the child's point of view, don't ignore him, and don't scare the child. For children who can't express themselves, they can cuddle, pat and comfort softly to reduce their fears; For children who can express themselves, parents should encourage them to speak out, and explain the truth to them appropriately while comforting them, such as why they are black.
6. Withdrawal behavior
Performance: Some children seem withdrawn and unsociable, especially after kindergarten, they often sit alone, don't play with other children, don't even participate in group activities such as doing exercises, don't talk to people, and don't answer teachers' questions.
The main reason: withdrawal behavior generally appears when children face unfamiliar environment. Psychology shows that they think they can't overcome the difficulties and obstacles they face, and they are worried about making a fool of themselves in front of their peers, teachers or parents, which is a kind of self-protection behavior. Withdrawal behavior may be caused by poor innate adaptability, but it is also related to improper parenting style. Some parents refuse to let their children associate with other children from an early age, or take care of and accommodate them too much, which will cause their children's poor adaptability.
Intervention skills: Take more children to participate in social activities.
Parents should create conditions for their children to play and play games with other children, and participate in social activities with their children more often, so that their children can adapt to activities in public places. Parents and teachers should help shrinking children overcome loneliness, adapt to the external environment and establish harmonious interpersonal relationships among friends.
7, anorexia and partial eclipse
Performance: Some children have poor appetite for a long time, or are seriously picky eaters and partial eclipse. Such children are usually thin and prone to colds, diarrhea and malnutrition.
Main reasons: Many parents believe that children's anorexia is mainly caused by diseases and physical reasons. In fact, psychology is also one of the three major factors that lead to anorexia in children. Picky eaters and partial eclipse are typical manifestations of children's psychological disorders. If children have nervousness, anxiety, depression, lack of sleep or fatigue before or during meals, and the bad stimulation of food sensory traits, they will also have anorexia.
Intervention skills: create a pleasant dining atmosphere
In addition to taking children for a comprehensive examination and treating physical diseases, we should also pay attention to intervening children's psychology. When children don't want to eat, they must not beat, scold, force, punish or cajole. They should carefully analyze the psychological factors of children's anorexia, adopt the methods of induction, suggestion and encouragement, and must create a pleasant eating environment.
8, 6 months to two years old baby hold your breath.
Performance: Some babies will suddenly cry when they are angry, afraid or unhappy until they stop breathing. In severe cases, you may even vomit and cramp, and then return to the original state. This phenomenon is called breath-holding attack, also known as apnea. The general attack time is between half a minute and three minutes, which can be once every few months or several times a day. It is usually seen from June to 2 years old.
The main reasons are: the babies in this period have not learned to speak, and they can't express their anger, dissatisfaction and other emotions in words; Some parents spoil their children too much, but they don't know their babies. Willfulness is cultivated from childhood.
Intervention skills: appease children in time
Parents should carry out correct education and guidance at ordinary times, not only be strict with them, but also keep abreast of their children's emotional changes and try to avoid emotional stimulation to reduce the number of baby's breath-holding attacks. Once the baby has an attack, you should comfort the child in time, or take the child outdoors. A change of environment may ease the baby's mood.
9, depilation addiction
Performance: Some children like to pull out their own hair, such as eyebrows, eyelashes and hair. And it can't be improved after repeated persuasion by adults.
The main reasons: Children's trichotillomania is mostly caused by psychological conflicts between children and their families or at school, such as poor parent-child relationship, poor educational methods, poor interpersonal communication and great learning pressure. , produce emotional anxiety and depression.
Intervention skills: find out the causes of anxiety and improve it.
First of all, we must find out the problem of children's anxiety and tension. Parents should communicate with their children more, improve the parent-child relationship, change the educational methods that cause children's problems, chat with their children like friends, encourage their children to talk to their parents, organize more parent-child activities, and distract their attention while promoting parent-child relationship.
10, children's leg pinch syndrome
Performance: Children can put their legs together or cross each other to fold in or rub the vulva with the corners of tables and chairs, while girls often rub their legs up and down, resulting in blushing, staring eyes, forehead or sweating all over. Children often sleep, just wake up or play alone. Every time it lasts for a few minutes, the number of attacks varies, which can be several times a day or once a few days.
The main reason is that some children are not satisfied emotionally because of family tension, lack of maternal love and discrimination. And there are no toys to play with, so I seek to vent through my own stimulation, resulting in leg-clamping action; There are also habits formed after accidental friction produces pleasure.
Intervention skills: divert attention
Parents should not let their children wear tight clothes to avoid rubbing their genitals; Because many children with leg pinch syndrome occur before bedtime, parents can arrange some activities before bedtime, such as parent-child reading, to accompany their children to sleep. In addition, try to take children to outdoor activities, don't give them the opportunity to be alone, and divert their attention through rich activities and games. Be careful not to abuse and humiliate children.
1 1, head bump, rolling, etc.
Performance: Some younger children will bump their heads when their demands are not met. For example, kneeling and kowtowing is hitting the wall. In addition, common abused actions include shaking your head, shaking your head, rolling, pinching yourself, scratching your hair, pulling your ears and so on.
The main reason: when children are emotionally stimulated, their demands are not met, or they are stimulated by painful factors, there will be self-abuse behavior quirks. Self-abuse is actually an expression of children's demands, which may be a lack of security or a manifestation that some demands are not met.
Intervention skills: find out the causes of self-abuse. Most children only take self-abuse behavior when they are not satisfied, so it is more likely to be caused by psychological factors. Parents should find out the reasons for their children's self-abuse and make corrections, such as examining their parents' marital relationship. If necessary, you should consult a psychologist.
How children behave needs to see a psychologist. When children have psychological problems, as parents, they should first communicate with their children in language and psychology, and pay more attention to their children in life. When parents communicate with their children, they should not talk to them as elders, but as friends.
When you decide to take your child to see a psychiatrist, let your child know what a psychiatrist is. In general, children's counseling is developmental counseling, and there is generally no mental illness. Parents should start with their children's current situation, help them analyze the current situation, change the factors that are not conducive to their children, and let them feel psychologically that their parents are really helping themselves.
When children have psychological problems, if parents want to mobilize their children to see a psychologist, don't tell them that they are sick or have many problems, but tell them through discussion with their children: Mom and Dad will always love you and always hope that you will be healthy and happy every day. Your current situation worries us. Maybe there is something wrong with your education. Let's talk to the experts together, shall we?
When parents advise their children to see a psychiatrist, they must emphasize that there is something wrong with their parents' education methods. The purpose of talking with experts is to make parents make some changes, educate their children in a better way, make the parent-child relationship better, and let the children learn and grow up happily.
If parents can't persuade their children to see a psychiatrist, it's best not to force them, because forcing their children to receive psychological counseling usually won't get satisfactory results. Parents can go to a psychologist first, and provide enough information to the doctor, so that the psychologist can analyze the current situation and causes of the child and provide parents with correct suggestions for educating their children.
If the child resolutely refuses to see a psychiatrist, parents can consult themselves, and don't think that consultation is meaningless. Because family is like a piece of land, children are like seedlings growing on the land. Only when the land is fertile can the seedlings in the land grow stronger.
The process of parents consulting psychologists is also a process of learning knowledge. Parents can get more information about how to treat their children correctly through their own study. When getting along with children, children can be educated in a correct and appropriate way, and children will slowly get out of the psychological shadow.
How children behave needs to see a psychologist. Children should not think that they don't have many ideas. Children think much more and are more sensitive than adults. Once a child has psychological problems, he must seek the help of a psychologist at the first time. Don't think that they can give professional treatment. The best thing parents can do is to accompany them.
Once upon a time, a colleague's child got autism because his parents had been busy with work. He just doesn't like to communicate with anyone and doesn't even smile at his parents. He took the child to the hospital for psychotherapy at the first time, and the doctor will give some more professional guidance, which can also judge the severity of the child for you more accurately.
At first, he was also confused about whether to go to see it, thinking that if he let his children go to kindergarten, he would be more lively when he got along with other children and his condition would improve. But the facts tell him that this is impossible. When he arrived at the kindergarten, he just sat there alone and didn't want to play with other children at all. They didn't realize the seriousness of the problem until the teacher gave them all feedback.
Now, after the doctor's treatment, and parents reduce their workload and spend more time with their children, the children will recover slowly. Mental illness is also a disease. Without treatment, it will never be cured, and some emotional and psychological management of children will not be at all.
A child's psychological problems will affect his life. It can't be said that he has been neglected since he was a child. In this case, his problems will continue to increase. When he becomes more and more sensible, something that you can't regret will happen: inferiority, self-harm, suicide and so on.