Xiao Yong's parents often quarrel for many reasons.
? Xiao Yong's father is a playboy. Before marrying Xiao Yong's mother, he met a woman while wandering in the society. After talking for a while, their relationship became better and better. Finally, they developed towards marriage, but when it was time to exchange rings, Xiao Yong's mother suddenly stepped in.
? When Xiao Yong came home, his father met Xiao Yong's mother on the train. On the train, Xiao Yong's father accosted Xiao Yong's mother. During the conversation, Xiao Yong's father was very satisfied with Xiao Yong's mother's family background and appearance, much better than his predecessor. After a period of contact, because he wanted to get it quickly, he cut the gordian knot and broke up with his ex-woman. Finally, they left together.
? After marriage, because Xiao Yong's father didn't like to take responsibility and playboy, and Xiao Yong's mother had a bad temper, the war between them was always fierce, and they almost divorced many times, but they managed to maintain their son's life.
? Besides marriage, the way they educate their children is also very problematic. They were very fond of Xiao Yong since childhood, and Xiao Yong basically didn't criticize him when he made a mistake. In terms of spending money, Xiao Yong had four or five brand-name mobile phones when he was very young. On the other hand, however, they are very cruel to Xiao Yong. If they are in a bad mood or Xiao Yong makes a big mistake, they will punish Xiao Yong with corporal punishment, severely beat him and scold him with very sharp words.
? This extreme way of education made Xiao Yong overbearing since he was a child and was denied by six parents, which brought countless troubles to relatives at home.
? In the first five years of primary school, Xiao Yong's academic performance was basically average. Although I have made up a lot of classes since I was a child, my grades have not improved much. Every time Xiao Yong goes back to his hometown for the New Year, he will go crazy. Winter vacation homework, who was assigned by the school, completely forgot and played until the last few days of winter vacation.
? Xiao Yong's performance in school is also very poor, and his classmates and teachers hate him. Once, Xiao Yong took a handful of dog food to school and lied to his classmates that it was French fries. The students didn't find it after eating it. Xiao Yong said it himself. The deceived students were very angry when they learned the truth, and they had a conflict with Xiao Yong, so they kept calling the teacher.
? Because of this, Xiao Yong was criticized by the teacher in front of the whole class, but Xiao Yong didn't give up. He threatened the teacher that his father had a strong relationship and knew the leader. If the teacher dares to treat him like this, there will be no good fruit to eat, so he goes against the teacher.
? Xiao Yong was always like this before his parents divorced.
? The good times didn't last long. Xiao Yong's parents finally got divorced after their quarrel reached its climax. In the summer vacation of the year of divorce, Xiao Yong was very uncomfortable. He suddenly realized that everyone around him had left and could not accept the fact.
? In terms of support, Xiao Yong's father is responsible for supporting Xiao Yong. Although Xiao Yong's father is nominally a guardian, Xiao Yong actually lives with his mother. Xiao Yong's father is only responsible for support, because Xiao Yong hated his father's family atmosphere since he was a child, so he chose to stay with his mother.
? Xiao Yong has a cousin Xiao Jing of the same age. She is the daughter of Aunt Xiao Yong. Xiao Yong's aunt compared Xiao Yong's grades with those of her daughter since she was a child. Because living in a big city, basically parents will make up lessons with their children, so they often make up lessons together. Although he has made up more lessons since childhood, Xiao Yong's playful personality has little influence on him, and Xiaojing Primary School has always been the top three in the class and the top 50 in the grade. As for Xiao Yong, it goes without saying that she is far from Xiao Jing's achievements, which makes Xiao Yong's aunt always proud, thinking that Xiao Yong can never surpass her daughter and never be better than her daughter.
? However, shortly after his parents divorced, Xiao Yong began to change himself.
? In the last year of primary school, he seems to be a different person. He resolutely gave up his mobile phone and began to concentrate on his studies. He works hard at school every day and stays up late when he gets home. Xiao Yong's grades in these six months have risen from the middle level in his class to the middle and upper level in his class. In the last few months, Xiao Yong achieved the first place, which gave Xiao Yong great confidence. One week before the junior high school exam, Xiao Yong took the foreign school as the goal, ruled out everything except study, persisted for seven days, and finally achieved excellent results. Xiao Yong's father got rid of the relationship and sent Xiao Yong in to make his future bright, even though his score was worse than that of foreign schools.
? In the past few years after entering junior high school, the competition between Xiao Yong and Xiaojing has become more intense. Both of them stepped up their studies and desperately reported to cram schools to make up lessons. However, because Xiao Jing's foundation is much better than Xiao Yong's, there is still a certain learning gap between Xiao Yong and Xiao Jing in Grade One. However, in the second day of junior high school, Xiao Jing, like Xiao Yong in that year, was fascinated with mobile phones, even more serious than Xiao Yong before, and played mobile phones endlessly every day.
? Because of Xiao Jing's stubborn personality, she asked her parents to reduce cram schools. It was at this time that her academic performance began to decline, and Xiao Yong rose at this time. He studied harder and worked hard all the way, and his grades soared. More than 900 students in the whole grade soared to the top 100, so that he left dozens of Xiao Jing behind, but Xiao Jing made no progress at all. It's about not advancing or retreating.
? In the third grade, Xiao Yong also forgot to eat and sleep and joined a cram school. By the end of last semester in grade three, his grades had reached the peak, and he became the first boy in the class and the top 50 in the whole grade.
? Half a year before graduation from junior high school, all schools organized online classes because of pneumonia. During this period, students' self-control is the most tested, and they can't control their performance, but Xiao Yong is more and more excited. He swore to himself that he must be admitted to No.1 Middle School, the best high school in the city! During the whole period of pneumonia, he stayed in his room and studied almost all the time except eating and sleeping. Because he sat in the same position for a long time and he was overweight, both benches were broken.
? In the end, as expected, he was admitted to his ideal high school in the senior high school entrance examination half a year later. Although he was a little short of entering the middle school class he requested, his father helped him enter the small class for his son's goal.
? Xiao Yong is very satisfied.
? I once asked him: when you were a child, you were so naughty and disobedient, you didn't like learning, and your grades were not good. How did you work hard later? Is it because your parents' divorce changed you?
? He replied: when I was a child, I always lived under the protection of my parents, thinking that the whole world revolved around me and I didn't need to worry about all my troubles. But after their divorce, the shelter around them disappeared, and I suddenly realized that I was alone, without the protection and dependence of my parents. At first, I was in pain and cried for a long time, feeling unfair. Until finally, I figured it out that it was impossible to restore my previous life. If I want a better life to reappear and I don't want others to look down on me, I have to struggle on my own, so I look at my previous mistakes and correct them all. Then I stuck to my faith and made unremitting efforts, and finally achieved amazing results.
? I often think that he didn't really do well in the exam, but tried to regain his self-esteem and status at home, because only by making himself excellent will his divorced parents understand that he is a useful person and is valued and needed by his family. His later efforts stemmed from his inner dissatisfaction and fear of being abandoned. He desperately wants to save the good old days, so this gives him an extremely stubborn and serious attitude. It is because of this enthusiasm that he finally achieved impressive results.
? The above is the impact of family changes on children. Fortunately, Xiao Yong didn't give up on himself, but his parents' divorce made him stronger. If it were another child, it might not be much better.
? But then again, I still hope that there are fewer single-parent families in the world, and a complete family is the happiest.