In real life, many boys have a series of bad habits, such as smoking and drinking, such as indulging in games, even fooling around without making progress, and life is in a mess, but girls still choose to ignore or endure because they are "good to me". Obviously, this is a very naive love value, which usually ends badly.
In fact, deciding whether a man is suitable for marriage is a very complicated project. Not only to be "good to me", but also to analyze this itself from the inside out, from subjective to objective. Although the workload is not small, but in the love stage, if you can pay a little attention, you can basically see some clues.
Of course, the premise is that you should learn to use your head and keep yourself objective and calm.
Now, let's first look at how to analyze men from their appearance.
The so-called "external" actually refers to external conditions, such as education, work, social circle, family background, emotional history and so on.
Generally speaking, a college degree or above is basically enough. As long as it is continuous academic education. Whether it is necessary to pursue further studies in the future is another matter.
Why should we emphasize continuing education? Suppose you go to primary school in this place today and change to another place tomorrow, then you often change schools. Do you still belong to your family? There is no doubt that this is how prodigals or travelers are made.
Let's talk about work again. This standard is actually very clear-stability and seriousness. For the former, there is no need to go into details. As for the latter, the main investigation is whether you have been hanging out in some messy companies for a long time, because this is the guarantee of safety.
Then there is the social circle. We all know that birds of a feather flock together, so it is basically impossible for serious people to mix with people in society all day. On the contrary, he may have some bad problems himself.
And family, family harmony is a very important factor. Because psychologists have long proved that when we grow up, we will imitate the way our parents get along, so we can basically predict what you will look like after marriage by looking at your parents' feelings. In addition, it depends on whether parents get along well, whether there are contradictions between close relatives and so on.
There is no clear standard for love history. After all, you can't rule out the factor of encountering bad luck. Generally speaking, the more you talk, the less you care about feelings. After all, people who can speak so much are probably not afraid of not finding a wife. Also, don't trust the emotional history told by the other party too much, because most people don't fully explain it. Just like the joke in the previous raiders: I said it twice, which means I only said it once. If I said it more than three times, I only said it three times.
Next, we analyze it from the inside.
This mainly refers to people's cognitive factors, such as three views, personality and personality. Because these factors are mainly subjective thinking, it is really difficult for men to hide.
First of all, three views, don't pursue heights, as long as it meets the standards of ordinary people. Some people are naturally tolerant of others. No matter what you do, you will find fault with others, then you will make mistakes and be tolerant. This kind of person, if you are together, it is estimated that every day you will fight to the death for some small things. Even if you want to jump off a building one day, he will be the first to shush you.
Second, look at personality. It can be said that personality is the most important and difficult factor to measure. However, I think kindness is the most important criterion. Kindness means that he will know how to be grateful and generally won't have the heart to hurt others. Of course, we should pay special attention to that kind of "hypocritical" villain. For example, some people deliberately give bad reviews every time they order takeout, but they deliberately pretend to understand the hard work of the takeaway brother in front of the lady. In fact, there are not a few such people.
There is also personality. Frankly speaking, there is no good or bad personality. Because there is no way to choose the growth environment, and the cultivation of character mainly depends on the environment. Although some people with bad personalities are difficult to get along with and can't control things well, if you can accept it, it won't be a problem.
Finally, let's talk about objective and subjective issues.
In junior middle school politics class, we already know that people's objective behavior is the mapping of subjective consciousness and is dominated by subjective consciousness. Therefore, we can observe its actions and know its significance.
For example, when sending messages, he always says that he is busy, so he won't reply to you. It may be true, but you can't always be out of place. If you send a message ten times, it will take a long time for him to reply nine times, or he will not reply at all, which is very unscientific! With my limited knowledge, this is generally impossible except for S-level confidential work or senior spies. However, if he really does this kind of work, it's probably not your turn to fall in love with him. Therefore, from the objective reality, it can be analyzed that you don't care, don't care, don't worry, and there is no other reason. Other reasons are excuses.
For example, when X draws a pie, I tell you every day that he works very hard and will definitely let you live a happy life in the future. However, I do nothing but beer, barbecue, games and bragging every day. This kind of buddy is actually more suitable to be the CEO of a cake painting startup. In the end, you can't see anything except watching his stomach get round day by day. Can you marry such a man? Dare you get married?
Therefore, looking for a man to get married depends on his objective actions, not subjective reasons. There is nothing that does not exist objectively; Objectively, there is, and that is true.
Just like a man and a woman traveling together, when they came to live, they suddenly said that they didn't have enough money and didn't want to share. Don't believe a word of these words, just look at objective facts.
In short, marriage is not a child's play, whether it is marriage or divorce, we should be cautious, especially marriage.
Everyone's life is different, and it is impossible for everyone to ask others from a completely different perspective. Therefore, the content of the article is for reference only.
No relationship will start easily, and no relationship will end easily. We will understand this truth gradually, so we should think twice before doing anything.
I'm Nemo @ counselor. I hope my article can help you.
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