I am 32 years old, single and unmarried. In this society that is not friendly to singles, I am so tenacious, I still yearn for love, believe in love, and talk about love tirelessly.
Young people in this era are actually quite funny. If you observe them carefully, you will find that the love view of contemporary young people fluctuates with the network events. Today, whoever announces that they want to be together, everyone will wow. Which star will cheat tomorrow, and everyone will wow that they will not love again.
I feel that people on the whole social network are old-fashioned.
There are two things these days that have a great influence on people's views on marriage and love. The first thing is Yulin maternal jumping off a building; The second is the news that Joker Xue announced her remarriage.
Let's talk first thing today. After Yulin's parturient jumped off the building, nine of the ten women with official WeChat accounts I followed were writing related topics. Most bloggers point the finger at the husband and family of the parturient. The popular saying is that you don't know whether you are married to a man or a dog until you have a child.
Female friends and mothers in my circle of friends also feel the same way and have forwarded their support. Some single women list this incident as their daily fear of marriage series.
In recent days, things have reversed. First, the hospital released a video of my mother kneeling in the early morning. Later, the family said that it was because the mother was too painful to kneel down, instead of kneeling down to let the family sign the caesarean section.
Then the two sides began to wrangle and hold their own words.
What shocked me was that people on both sides didn't seem to care about the pain of the parturient, and they didn't take her seriously, as if they were dead, leaving their responsibilities behind and moving on with their lives.
Yesterday morning, I saw Han Songluo say something, and I thought it was right.
He said that I have lived in a small place for many years and have a deep understanding of the character of people in small places. People in small places are not so active, enthusiastic, sober and active. They all seem to be half asleep, like their own shortcomings, and never believe that they can be masters in some ways and live a better life. They can take the initiative to intervene in this world and their lives.
But does this happen only in small places? Only a cowardly husband and a confused doctor?
We all know that there is a famous saying that there is no real empathy in this world, and you won't feel the pain of others unless you stick a needle in yourself.
Therefore, when people are looking for a partner, in addition to the ability of wealth, IQ and EQ, they should also add an "emotional ability" survey.
What is * * * emotional ability?
According to psychological explanation, empathy refers to the ability to put yourself in others' shoes, so as to feel and understand others' emotions.
To put it more bluntly, you should find a partner who can explore your emotions and give you an answer on your own initiative. When you are happy, you will be happy together, when you are sad, you will be sad together. If you put yourself in your shoes, you will be sad and happy, not just cooking together, but not on the same channel.
Sadly, finding a partner without emotional ability is actually no different from a widow.
Nowadays, many men, if they marry, find a free nanny, have reproductive tools and have legal and stable mating rights. They go home for dinner, watch TV and play games. They are totally shopkeepers who cut and turn.
Teacher Wu Zhihong said: An anxious mother, a bound child and a lifeless father are basically normal in China families.
Something happened to my friend the other day, which made me feel very sad.
A friend has been with her boyfriend for 6 years and just got pregnant. Because it was an accident, they planned to get married on the 11th holiday.
But suddenly told me to break up and not have this baby. I was shocked and asked her what was going on. Were they all fine before?
She said that when she was pregnant, she found us really unsuitable. My friend is going to get married and get pregnant these days, so I have been thinking about making the wedding better and letting my friend find a private hospital, but my boyfriend doesn't think it is necessary, and public hospitals can still give birth. This is their first physical examination. Friends go to get the number and queue up to pay. The man sometimes plays mobile games, and sometimes stands aside coldly, as if it had nothing to do with himself.
Every time she proposes to improve the quality of life, or imagine how to live after having children, men will think that she is too materialistic and vain, or say it is unnecessary while playing with her mobile phone.
My friend is disheartened, and I'm not going to persuade him any more.
Marrying a partner who has no emotional ability is like a time bomb in marriage. For him, your happiness and pursuit have become a burden, and your pain and sadness have become irrelevant to me. When you work hard in life, the other half stands by as if the future is your own business.
Such a marriage is not so much widowhood as widowhood.
At least being widowed doesn't have to face a living dead person every day, which increases my troubles.
I believe many friends will have questions when they see this. Although some people don't know until they use it, especially after they get married and have children, they can especially see a person's personality. So, if you judge whether a person has emotional ability from the beginning?
First of all, I think it depends on the topic and tone of his chat with you. A person who has no ability to love * * * mostly lives on his own, and no matter what he says, he can successfully guide himself into the topic in three sentences. They say everything is for me, regardless of other people's feelings. Sometimes you turn your eyes to the back of your head and he's still talking and talking.
The second is to look at each other's tone when two people have disputes and contradictions. Some people can put themselves in others' shoes, analyze the reasons why they are unhappy, and then think about how to comfort them. Others start with self-defense, excuse themselves, find out the reasons, and then blame others for their mistakes.
Finally, I think it depends on his attitude towards strangers, small animals and nature.
If your other half, strangers and small animals all have love and respect for nature, then this person should not be too bad.
Like me.
I was really angry when I saw someone killing whale sharks in Sansha Town, Xiapu, Fujian in Weibo the other day. August 30th is World Whale Shark Day. Everyone is calling for the protection of the ocean and sharks. Some people, because of their greed and selfishness, kill whales at will and put sharks on trucks to parade in the city.
As the dominant player in the marine environment, the extinction rate of sharks in the past 50 years is shocking. Marine ecological experts predict that sharks that once dominated the marine environment are likely to become extinct in the next 40 years.
Recently, ORIS, a Swiss independent watchmaking brand with a history of 100 years, held the official flagship store of TAMLL in Shanghai Ocean Aquarium, and held a shark adoption activity on the spot, calling on people to pay attention to the marine environment and care about the survival of sharks.
The arrival of ORIS marks the official establishment of the world's first official e-commerce flagship store in the history of ORIS brand. At the event site, an online live auction was conducted through Alibaba's idle fish auction platform, Hollysys yellow bathometer and Hollysys hammerhead shark limited edition watch. Finally, a father bid for the naming rights of sharks for his 4-year-old daughter, that is, the sharks adopted by Tmall and Hollysys.
Hollysys originated in Switzerland 1904. As the leader of entry-level mechanical watches, Hollysys has been adhering to the traditional Swiss watchmaking technology for more than a century, focusing on the production of calm, restrained and low-key watches.
Since the 1960s, Hollysys has been committed to the manufacture of professional diving watches. For Hollysys, protecting the marine environment and caring for endangered marine life has also become a glorious corporate mission that has been practiced for a long time, and it has been cast in the cultural genes of the brand.
At the event site, classic diving watches such as AQUIS and 65-year replica edition were also unveiled.
Mr Rolf Studer, global co-CEO of Hollysys, said, "The trend of younger consumption is increasingly becoming the mainstream, and the China mainland market will be the focus of Hollysys future market layout. The official flagship store of Hollysys Tmall, as the first official flagship store opened by Hollysys in the world, will provide a more convenient and fast young consumption experience for many consumers and watch lovers in China. "
With more and more luxury brands, Tmall has become the main position for the world's big-name watches to embrace young people.
This charity event of adopting sharks is just a good start for marine protection. I hope you can follow the footsteps of Hollysys, Tmall and Shanghai Ocean Aquarium, and turn your love for the marine environment and marine life into long-term practical actions, so that the concept of marine environmental protection can be spread and continued in a wider social group.