The first time I saw my in-laws bring fruit, my mother-in-law gave me fruit as a gift. What's wrong with it?

Marriage is a gamble for a woman's life, and she gambles on her happiness for the rest of her life, but meeting her in-laws is this marriage. When I meet my in-laws for the first time, women will be particularly nervous, afraid that they are not dignified enough, afraid that they feel not lively enough, afraid that they don't respect themselves enough, and afraid that they dislike themselves heartlessly. It is because they care too much that they are worried about it. Generally speaking, women meet for the first time. You don't need to take anything expensive, just show your mind a little. This is a strategy and tactics, but if your in-laws only return a little fruit, people will feel dissatisfied with this daughter-in-law. So what's wrong with this? Xiao Wang has experienced such a thing personally and doesn't know what to do.

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Xiao Wang and Xiao Li were introduced by friends. Because Xiao Wang is a typical good girl, they have never made any progress on their emotional path. Others looked worried, so they offered help. Xiao Wang and Xiao Li began to get along as friends and occasionally went to the movies to eat together. Later, under Xiao Li's gentle offensive, Xiao Wang agreed to his confession, and the two officially became lovers. Xiao Wang's parents knew Xiao Li before. I'm relieved to let my daughter associate with him. After nearly four years together, Xiao Li proposed to take Xiao Wang home, meet his parents and discuss marriage. Xiao Wang thought it was natural and agreed.

After returning home, because he was inexperienced and didn't know what to prepare, Xiao Wang discussed with his parents what to do. Both her parents said that it is better to dress gently and dignified, put on some light makeup and bring only fruit as a gift. She said that girls don't need to bring too many things when they meet their in-laws, or they will look down on their in-laws if they bring too expensive things. So when Xiao Wang came to the door, he only brought three Jin of red Fuji apples. Of course, these apples are also carefully selected.

When I arrived at my parents-in-law's house, my prospective parents-in-law were very happy to see Xiao Wang and welcomed her warmly. They took the initiative to chat with her and prepared a lot of snacks for her. When eating, they also took the initiative to help Xiao Wang with food, which seemed to get along well. The only thing that Xiao Wang cares about is that the meeting gift for Xiao Wang is not a red envelope, but a basket of bananas with red paper on it. Although it looks very formal, Xiao Wang always feels that something is wrong. In Xiao Wang's own cognition, if his in-laws like his daughter-in-law, they will definitely give tens of thousands of gifts, at least two thousand gifts, or at least one red envelope. But his in-laws only gave a basket of bananas, and there was nothing left. What is this? You are worth a basket of bananas? How can she tell her parents? My parents will definitely tell me when I go back.

In order to find out what happened, she asked Xiao Li privately why his parents only gave him bananas, but they didn't even give him money for the meeting. Xiao Li didn't like this. He just said, Never mind how much you want, just tell me and I'll supply you. My parents are old and may not understand those customs, so don't take it to heart. They all like you very much, so don't think so much.

Xiao Wang thought her boyfriend was changing the subject. When she is old, she should pay more attention to customs, rather than being ignorant of them. However, any old man who knows something about this kind of thing will not be so cold to his daughter-in-law. Then they will be bananas themselves. Although they are happy on the surface, is it a deliberate hint that they don't recognize this daughter-in-law?

After returning home, Xiao Wang told his parents about it. Both parents felt very strange and did not agree to this marriage as before.

【 Conclusion 】 The meeting between the prospective daughter-in-law and the prospective in-laws plays a decisive role in the future marriage situation and whether the marriage can really be settled. Through this meeting, women want to see what they like about themselves and their blessings for this marriage, so women still value returns. Twenty thousand dollars is a bit much, but a basket of bananas is beyond the understanding of normal people. No one will believe that the other party will do such a thing because they don't understand this etiquette. They will only think that they are dissatisfied, and they are embarrassed to say that they deliberately imply that this marriage cannot be reached in this way.

Even if the in-laws really don't understand such things, won't they ask others? It is too arbitrary to ask others for advice on such an important matter. No daughter-in-law knows that she doesn't understand and doesn't take it to heart to prepare.

From the price of things, apples and bananas are equivalent, but because of different objects, women give this to express their humble but respectful attitude, while the other parents return bananas, which only conveys one meaning, that is, they are not satisfied with this meeting. What is wrong is not the gift, but the meaning it represents. It is this ambiguity that makes others feel uncertain.