1. Learn to be moderately indifferent.
(1) Give "* * * Love" a holiday.
② Recognize the rationality of emotions.
(3) Restrict their access to information.
(4) keep your own boundaries.
(5) Internal "status verification"
Give * * * a holiday.
Intermittent indifference only "loosens" our tense interpersonal line, but it doesn't mean that our contact is "cut off". In this process, we "charge" our energy, and at the same time release signals to the outside world, thus relieving our pressure.
This "intermittent indifference" allows us to "take a vacation" from overworked feelings. When we "resurrect with blood", we can even care for others better than in the past.
2. Recognize emotional rationality
Psychological counselor Zhang pointed out that the most important thing is to realize the rationality of one's emotions.
Teacher Zhang said that intermittent apathy is actually a bit (accepting and enjoying commitment therapy)
Dissociation in Commitment Therapy (ACT): "When we can't handle some emotions, thoughts and feelings for the time being, try to take a step back and keep a distance from them instead of pestering them, which can help us get a calm state."
3. Information with restricted access
We can make a timetable for ourselves and regularly limit our exposure to uncomfortable information every day. For example, if you are anxious after watching too much news, you can set an APP time limit in your mobile phone to urge yourself to receive negative information on social platforms for no more than 15 minutes and no more than 1 hour every day ...
4. Maintain your own borders
Shao, a psychological counselor, pointed out:
It is important for us to understand that I am not disrespecting you now, but defending my own boundaries. "At this time, it is necessary to distinguish between" what I want to do (meet each other's' needs') and "what I should do (protect my personal boundaries)"-after the distinction is clear, the middle part can be transitioned by daily social skills (such as fooling quotations).
5. Conduct "status verification"
Teacher Zhang believes that when we are worried that we will lose our relationship if we don't respond positively to our friends, we can make a realistic check in our hearts: Is there enough trust between my friends and me?
If you lose your relationship because you don't reply to the news once or twice, then your relationship is actually unequal. An equal relationship can accommodate some uncertainties, and can also bear our need to freely express "need to rest".