First, talk about the "color" in people's minds.
1, who likes black? Introversion, self-repression, do not like publicity and attention.
2. People who like white. Gentle personality, aggressive and practical.
3. People who like yellow. I like a free life, go my own way, and have a stubborn temper.
4. People who like pink. Elegant temperament and strong aesthetics.
5. People who like purple. Self-confident, lofty, like to hide their feelings.
Second, love interest and know people's hearts.
1. Reading shows that this person has good taste. In this era of Internet e-books, if you still read books, it is really interesting.
2, travel, people who like to travel have a particularly good mentality.
Third, look at dress ~ look at personality and temperament.
1, a person's taste can be seen from his clothes.
2, from the perfume, see through a woman's heart, different tastes, different psychology.
3. A person wearing makeup shows that she is carefully carving her own character.
Fourth, the change of inner world ~ behavior and action
1. "Spoken language" is particularly important. You can tell a person's quality by what he says casually.
When you ask a person to shake hands, you must pay attention to his movements, whether his left hand or his right hand is shaking hands, and the strength and time of shaking hands, and observe whether this person respects you.
When you are with people, you should learn to listen more and observe more, so that you can see if the other person has different opinions from what you say.
If a person is short, don't underestimate others. He may have strengths and is worth learning. If a person is tall, he must be in a state of complacency.
If a person is thin, he may be smart, and you can't take any credit for him. If you are fat, then this person is broad-minded and doesn't care about trifles.
The above 15 is for your reference only. In short, as long as you pay more attention to observation in your life, you can gradually see a person's heart and character.
First of all, it is completely feasible to know people with "mind reading" or psychological knowledge.
For example, the profiler of the Behavioral Analysis Class of the Federal Bureau of Investigation of the United States, his job is to judge the appearance, occupation and other information of the suspect through details such as the crime scene and modus operandi, so as to help the police narrow the search scope.
A person's background, education level and professional experience will penetrate into daily behavior. Everything you say and do is traceable.
So, how to observe the target person?
(1) Watch your hand.
The nail state of the hand can reflect people's physical condition. Finger dirt, such as chalk dust, paint, etc., can reflect this person's occupation.
(2) appearance.
The focus is on the face, waist, buttocks and feet, and the occupational scope can be inferred comprehensively. For example, if a woman is neatly dressed, but her eyes are Qing Wu, her hips are wide and her overall figure is pear-shaped, it can be preliminarily inferred that she is a white-collar worker in a sedentary office.
(3) Match words with deeds.
A person's overall temperament, demeanor and actions can best reflect a person's career and social status. For example, in the recent hit "Begonia on the Edge of Bones is Not Red", the characters in it can reveal the flavor of the industry with their gestures. This old eunuch, who used to be in charge of the Palace Theatre, used to give big gifts to adults, which is also one of the habits brought by his career.
Mind-reading knows people, mind-attacking does things.
Mind reading is used to attack the heart.
"Mind reading" is the first step in communication, and mastering "mind attack" can smoothly push things forward in the expected direction. We often face negotiation scenarios in the workplace, which often occur between sales and customers, employees and employees, employees and managers. Making good use of "offensive tactics" can make negotiations more effective.
(1) Limited commitments are more recognized.
Keeping promise can promote the trust relationship between the two sides, otherwise it will aggravate the breakdown of the relationship between the two sides and even lead to gossip. Therefore, in the process of negotiation, we should avoid saying yes at once. You can ask the other party to determine the appeal from time to time, so that the other party can feel that the promised party has carefully considered the conditions.
(2) shows that * * * also has the same purpose.
The negotiation process is actually a transaction. In fact, each party with negotiation needs has its own purpose. It is much more effective to express goodwill and stand and list favorable conditions for the other party than hard persuasion.
1. People often say: should, must (a person with strong self-confidence, reason and calmness)
I often say: I heard so (although I have a wide range of knowledge, I can't make up my mind)
3. Always say: Ah ah, this, um (slow thinking, slow response)
4. Always say: Seriously, indeed, I won't lie to you. I'm worried that others will misunderstand me and have a bad temper.
1. Hold your head high to show confidence and determination (read each other from small movements)
2. Walking means losing your temper or being depressed.
Lean forward to show concern or interest.
4. Hold hands tightly to show nervousness or fear
5. Squinting indicates disapproval, boredom and disapproval.
1. People who laugh show that they are generous and informal.
2. The expression of smiling mouth (from smiling expression) shows stubbornness and ideal.
When you laugh, your mouth will twitch upward, which shows that you are sociable and kind.
4. The two ends of the mouth droop slightly, and the slightly open expression shows that it is slightly introverted and pays attention to details.
Our language can deceive people, but "body language" can't!
For example, the faces of beautiful women, handsome men, babies and beautiful scenery;
We take a dismissive attitude towards people or things we don't like.
Look at the relationship between a pair of lovers or husband and wife, not how they express themselves, but only the distance between their bodies and the degree of close physical contact;
The same observation also exists in normal interpersonal communication. When you don't like someone, your body will unconsciously distance itself from the other person.
For example, I found that:
When I met a female tourist who looked "unruly" and asked me for advice, I would not lean forward as usual, but unconsciously put my arms around my chest or lean back in my chair.
My body language tells me:
"I hate this man!"
One more thing:
Each of us likes people who "like themselves";
Conversely, each of us hates people who "hate themselves".
Do all kinds of friends feel this way?
This point is very simple, and I don't need to repeat it.
As for what "mind reading"? I don't understand, I haven't heard of it, and I don't want to understand.
Thanks for the platform invitation!
First of all, you can look at his speaking speed. A person speaks very fast, which proves that few people usually listen to him and don't get enough emotion. They always like to talk about themselves.
Second, the content of the speech always likes to talk about yourself, exaggerating a certain level, indicating that there may be little material and emotion in your heart, so you must prove yourself to others through what you have.
Third, look at his expression, movements and the state of the whole person to judge whether what he said is sincere or guilty.
This is the most superficial thing between people. Of course, you can also ask him some questions. When you ask him a question, see if he answers calmly. If you show evasive eyes when answering questions or before answering questions, and show an explanation in language, he may have something he doesn't want to say in his heart, and he will cover up his guilty conscience through explanation.
1. Promote Mien and play Miqiu. Pay attention to the degree of kindness, don't be kind to others, and they will gradually take your kindness for granted.
2. Don't pursue low-key and hide your strength too much. If you can't attract others' attention, you will lose many potential opportunities to exchange advantages.
When communicating with others, don't bow your head naturally, which will make the other person feel that you have no energy and it is easy to despise you.
4. Refused his request to borrow 100 yuan from you. Don't forget to continue to refuse to borrow 50 yuan's request.
Unless it's a real prick, it's best to expose it face to face and show your attitude after seeing through other people's tricks. Otherwise, he will think you are easy to cheat, and will cheat you in different ways in the future, and we may not always see it.
6. Don't interrupt others. In other words, don't deliberately seize control in the conversation.
7. When communicating with ordinary friends, talk more about what he is interested in, instead of endlessly talking about his own interests. The listener will not say anything, and his heart will certainly feel uncomfortable.
8. Don't look for security in others except intimacy.
9. Don't forget the help of others. Those who help are fresh in their memory, and those who are helped often turn their heads and forget. This has produced many contradictions. So I always take a notebook and write down who helped me.
10. Don't think too much when communicating with people. An expression and a sentence mean nothing. Thinking is nothing but consuming your own efforts. The breakdown of many relationships begins with paranoia.
People tend to remember the first thing and the last thing I can't remember the things in the middle. So, if you want to introduce yourself, you'd better be the first or the last. During the interview, it's the same.
12. If you work in a bar or front desk, put a mirror behind you. In this way, when customers lose their temper, they can see their ugly faces in the mirror. Mirrors can greatly reduce the probability of their unreasonable troubles.
13. After the quotation, stop talking. If you are in sales, this skill is very useful. This technology is also very useful in other fields. I used to have a job selling membership cards in a gym. This is what an old guy taught me. He said that after you greeted the customer, you quoted the price. From now on, whoever speaks first will lose. It seems groundless, but it is. There is usually a long awkward silence, but in the end, customers will buy it.
14. If you ask someone a question and he only answers half of it, wait and he will finish. Just wait and keep eye contact. Eventually, they will talk.
15. Chew gum at nervous moments before public speaking or bungee jumping. Eating is safe because humans will automatically stop chewing (eating) when they are in danger. This is what the brain tells you. It works for me anyway.
16. What people will finally remember is not what you said, but how you made them feel.
Psychologist
What are the micro-actions that people like psychologically?
Happy. People's facial movements when they are happy include: upturned corners of the mouth, wrinkled cheeks, contracted eyelids and "crow's feet" at the end of eyes.
Sadness. Facial features include squinting, eyebrows tightening, corners of the mouth pulling down and chin lifting or tightening.
Fear. When you are afraid, your mouth and eyes are open, your eyebrows are raised and your nostrils are open.
Anger. At this time, the eyebrows droop, the forehead is wrinkled, and the eyelids and lips are tense.
Dislike. The expressions of disgust include sneer, upturned upper lip, drooping eyebrows and squinting.
Very surprised. When surprised, chin droops, lips and mouth relax, eyes open wide, eyelids and eyebrows slightly raised.
Contempt The famous feature of contempt is that one side of the mouth tilts up and makes a sneer or fake smile.
When you ask someone something, the shaking of his shoulder shows that he is not confident in what he says.
The inconsistency between body and language shows that he is lying.
The expression of surprise and fear on her face for more than a second means it is false.
The other person shows disdain for your question, and usually your question will be true.
When you recall, your eyes are facing down to the left, and lies don't need to be recalled.
When the other person lies to you, there will be more eye contact to judge whether you believe his lies.
Repeating your question bluntly is a typical way of lying, for example, "Have you been to his house?" "I haven't been to his house."
What is the purpose of putting your hand on your nose when talking or thinking?
It is a sign of nervousness to put your hands in your trouser pockets or cling to your thighs when you speak.
Describe a series of things that happened. If things are fabricated, he can say them in a fictional order, but he can't repeat them in flashback.
Nervousness, anger and sexual excitement can make people's pupils dilate.
Arms cling to legs and fingers stand up, which is a sign of anxiety.
Blinking when you laugh means that you really think of something happy. There are no wrinkles in the corner of your eyes when you giggle.
When people are afraid, they will have a physiological escape reaction: blood will flow back from the limbs to the legs, and their hands will be cold when they are ready to escape.
Micro-expression is the inner expression and cover-up, which usually occurs within one fifth of a second. You are wrong. The other person's mouth will rise slightly and recover. When you lie, you may nod your head for a moment and then shake your head to deny it.
Sad expression: drooping eyebrows. Shame expression: head down, hands touching forehead, sweating. Disdainful expression: the upper lip rises
Talking in a hurry and creating obstacles between yourself and the other person with your arms or objects are all manifestations of anxiety. Of course, everyone will have this reaction when they are suspected of being criminals.
A flat mouth is a classic manifestation of making mistakes. Have no confidence in what you say.
People touch their necks when they lie, which is a typical mechanical reaction.
A strong chin indicates that people are angry.
No expression is more important than expression.
When a person's facial expression is asymmetrical, he is likely to hide his feelings.
Touching hands is a gesture of self-consolation, which is used to try to dispel your doubts when you don't fully believe what you are saying.
If you are really angry, shouting and striking the table with your hand should happen at the same time. If you are first, then, you may be faking it.
Research shows that the more popular people are, the more likely they are to lie. They are good at hiding their feelings, so they are easily popular.
The real murderer will show contempt, disgust and even fear to the victim, not surprise.
1. People who really like you will raise their eyebrows (or arch them). On the contrary, people who are not very friendly will squint at you gently.
2. When people feel threatened and encounter things they don't like, when they want to protect their brains by avoiding "seeing" things they don't want to see, or when they want to show contempt for others, they may squint, close their eyes or cover their eyes. These are all visual blocking behaviors.
3. After a big accident, the brain will be controlled by the limbic system, and there will be trembling, disorientation, nervousness and discomfort.
When in trouble or something goes wrong, people sometimes close their lips (as if to hide).
Everyone will have their own actions to relieve stress when they are nervous. If you get along with a person for a long time, you will find that they will repeat the same action when they are nervous, because "past behavior is the best preview of future behavior."
6. Everyone has his own baseline behavior, which is the behavior in daily life. When their behavior violates the baseline behavior, it means something must have happened. So we should have a pair of keen eyes and find the difference.
7. When a person wants to do something he has planned for a long time, his nostrils will get bigger.
8. When people lie, they will sweat on their foreheads and get out of control. It is very useful in summer.
9. When a person is lying, when what you say attracts his attention, or when he thinks of something important, his body movements will suddenly stop.
10. When a person wants to do something secretly, he will deliberately reduce exposure, such as walking with his head down.
1 1. When things that people don't want to mention suddenly flash across their minds, they get upset and try to forget but can't.
12. When the threat is too close, people will have an evasive reaction, just as everyone will subconsciously avoid what they don't like. But the so-called escape reaction is not only avoidance, but also small movements. For example, turning your body to the other side may be accompanied by various blocking behaviors, such as closing your eyes, rubbing your eyes or covering your face with your hands.
13. When people feel uneasy, uncomfortable, scared or worried, people will cover their cervical fossa with their hands. Rubbing the forehead usually indicates that a person is hesitant or feels some kind of discomfort. When a person feels uncomfortable or unsafe, he usually touches his neck. Like when you're lying.
14. Faced with a difficult question, an embarrassing situation or something depressing to hear, see or think, men prefer to touch their faces, while women prefer to touch their necks, clothes, jewelry, arms and hair.
15. When we feel stressed, we usually gently touch our neck, touch our face or play with our hair, wipe our cheeks or lick our lips with our tongue, or bulge our cheeks, and then breathe gently.
★ Hesitation, repetition and stuttering when you speak indicate that you are lying; ☆ When people lie, they often look in one direction and gesture in another direction;
★ Shrugging one shoulder slightly indicates that you are uncomfortable with what you say, which can be regarded as lying under certain circumstances; ☆ When asking and answering questions, the shorter the time interval (≤ 1 second), it shows that the answer to this question may be a prepared lie;
★ When a person is insincere, his actions and language are often opposite, such as "yes" but slightly shaking his head; ☆ Squeeze your lips when you speak, indicating that you are not sure what you are saying and are ambiguous;
★ When people are lying, they will unconsciously tighten themselves, such as arching up; ☆ When people lie, they often unconsciously take a step back and make protective actions, such as putting their arms around their chests or putting other items on their chests;
★ When a person is laughing, there are no fine lines in the corner of his eyes, which may be a fake smile; When a person is frightened, the expression of surprise on his face can only last less than one second. If you see a person "surprised" for a long time, he is probably pretending;
Negative emotions:
◆ Eyebrows raised and crowded together, representing fear, worry and anxiety; Biting your lips and touching your ears shows that your desire for control is growing, indicating anxiety;
Nose turned out and lips closed, indicating uncontrollable anger; ◇ Holding the forehead indicates guilt and shame;
◆ Chin raised and mouth drooped to express regret; ◇ Eyebrows pulled up to show fear;
◆ Suddenly open your eyes to express surprise; ◇ Touching the side face or ears shows that you are controlling your emotions and showing nervousness;
◆ Pupils dilate under normal physiological conditions, indicating anger and fear; When a person is afraid and nervous, blood will gather from the upper body to the lower body. You can touch his hand, the skin temperature difference is greater than 5℃;
◆ One eye is slightly narrowed, and one corner of the mouth is slightly picked, indicating disdain and contempt; Turn up the upper lip to show disgust (disgust is hatred, more terrible than disgust and contempt).
Others:
▲ Eyebrows are wrinkled down, eyelids are lifted up, and bags under eyes are tight, indicating that this person has an aggressive tendency; △ Frequent blinking indicates joint psychological activities;
▲ When a person fondles the five senses with a slightly vertical middle finger, it shows that he is hostile to the present object; △ Hands clasped with ten fingers and two index fingers stretched out on his lips, indicating that he is telling himself that some words can't be said, which are contradictions and behavior control;
▲ When you see, hear or say someone, something or something, you swallow, indicating that you have strong feelings for it.
Read minds and know people.
To borrow a word: understanding human nature and human cultivation are two different things.
Therefore, there is no need to know people's hearts. Know yourself better than anything.
If you want to learn psychological knowledge, you'd better start with human nature and focus on consciousness. Psychology, behavior and linguistics are all kinds of knowledge, but most of them are just the application of consciousness.
Recognition of People with Color Eyes —— Character Color Mind Reading
Recognition of People with Color Eyes —— Character Color Mind Reading
Mind-reading is a skill to interpret people, including knowledge, theory, behavior, language, development research and many other contents in psychology. Through this technique, we can really understand the true side of people, mainly through the information provided by people's expressions, gestures, body distance, body movements, contact, posture, especially micro-expressions, to interpret this person's language. Is it consistent with what is expressed in your heart?
To put it more clearly, that is to say, through the comparative interpretation of human body movements and language, as an empirical standard, we can analyze the true or false side of this person. The main body is to communicate with this person face to face, without the need for this person to provide you with some auxiliary references, such as birthday, palm print, constellation and so on. And it is important to observe this person in detail.
In fact, the number of readers mainly interprets the thoughts and intentions of the other person through the information formed by his body movements, which can also be said to be the information told by his body or body language. Through this interpretation, you can communicate with them more smoothly and better understand the authenticity of each other, so that you don't have to get into some abnormal troubles (troubles) or some special units (interrogation, etc.). ) can understand someone (suspect, etc.). ) Find out the truth more accurately.
The principle of body language is nothing more than the principle between our consciousness and unconsciousness. When we express our language, we are conscious, while body movements are often unconscious. It is this kind of unconsciousness, that is, you can't completely control it and feel it, so it is embodied in the unconscious, but it is true.
On the other hand, some ancient man-eating trees usually rely on some information, that is, the appearance of reference objects. For example, China's ancient "four-pillar study" (deciphering eight characters) requires you to provide the date of birth. Dermatography or palmprint needs to look at the texture and face shape of your palm, and readers also need to look at the face, but look at the micro-expression of the face. Guiguzi's "bone-weighing algorithm" also needs you to provide the date and year. Algorithms such as image blood type also need your reference, but mind reading doesn't, just your careful observation and corresponding knowledge.
As a psychological counselor, it is very necessary to master the information ability to interpret body language, including those who want to be at home in social places, and those who often negotiate or deal with others are even more indispensable. Interested people can go to my column to read the article "Reading Body Language".
No ... this is a false proposition.
Can you judge what is in the food packaging bag according to the description?
All information is deceptive to some extent, and psychology is only an auxiliary means, which is empirical and has many counterexamples. Need to know each other's personality characteristics, life experience and even social status in detail.
Psychology is more about helping yourself or others to improve their mental health than evaluating others.
Share only three skills that you think are accurate:
1, the reason why you can see through some people is that they are like you before.
People often say, "The more others show off, the less they want." In fact, the more you feel that others are showing off, the more you lack.
3. What kind of people will say what kind of words, and what kind of people will see the true colors of the world.