But, fortunately, time let me slowly put down.
Put it down. What is this?
Letting go means not thinking about him in the dead of night, but focusing on what you want to do tonight and then sleeping peacefully.
To let go is to meet something you drank at the beginning, a person who is similar to him, a place where you have been, and there is no wave in your heart, so you no longer label him.
Letting go means that when you mention him to a friend, you have no resentment or regret. He is just someone in your past memory, and you don't need to avoid it or mention it often.
After breaking up, a person's life is still very good. I was admitted, got a job and talked about a better boyfriend.
The time when I was alone was the most splendid time in my life. Give up all the discomfort, and there is no need to shed tears for the entanglement with his feelings.
A person can really live better.
What is the real letting go? Maybe two people are chatting together, and the language is different. Sometimes I don't hear from you for a long time, and my heart will be lost. Sometimes they know each other online, but send the message to others!
I used to show off your name to others, but now I don't say a word!
Write down your name. It used to be my mantra, but now it's forbidden!
Let go, that is, I can sleep without you saying good night every day, and I won't sleep because I didn't have your good night greetings in the past!
Putting it down means that I don't pester you every day, send you messages from time to time, check whether your circle of friends has been updated every day, and pick up my mobile phone to watch your news every morning! Not here. . . No longer expect to have a better life with you!
In fact, sometimes really letting go doesn't necessarily mean you don't like it. Maybe you are tired of each other and don't expect a better future!
Maybe you will be mine at 1, 25th hour, Sunday, 13!
Really let go, not slander, not miss, let her really leave your heart, let herself reopen the cage and look up at the sky.
I remember when I graduated, I was a little confused about what I wanted to do in the future because I didn't have a good grasp of my major. On the recommendation of our classmates, we went to an electronics factory to be a reserve cadre. Although it is said to be a reserve cadre, the work is no different from ordinary employees. It is also on the assembly line. On the same day 12 hours, there is no one-day interval. It was winter and it was very cold.
After working for several weeks, I switched to her assembly line. She does equipment maintenance in the back and I do assembly in the front. Bitter and bitter, blisters often appear on my hands. My monthly salary is not much. Once I was relabeling the equipment, and when she saw it, she offered to help. She looks simple, maybe it's the factory. Girls here generally have a sense of rustic simplicity.
In the next few days, she will often help me, and we will chat together during recess. Gradually, I like her a little, and I always thought she was so meaningful to me, but then I realized that I was wrong, because a colleague told me about her and she was married and had children. My brain was struck by lightning for an instant. At first, it was a kind of doubt. I can't believe it.
After that, I began to feel a little depressed. After a while, I decided to resign. Although I showed no problem, it was only because I couldn't stand such a level of work. Actually, I woke up because I didn't want to dream.
Forgetting is the best way to let go of a person. There is always a lot of helplessness in life. Many things you want already belong to others. This is a tragedy and a kind of luck, because you don't have to worry about it anymore. There is not much difference between getting and losing.
What do you mean put it down? If you can't afford any waves in your heart, if you think that this person's joys and sorrows have nothing to do with you, everything will look bleak! Put it down.
If a relationship can be easily let go, it means it is not deep enough. Love deeply, heartache, no matter how hard you try, you can't let go. Only when it is deep will it feel bitter. Only when you feel heavy will you know how distressed you are!
We live tired because we have too many things that we can't let go and can't bear to part with. Since we are all passers-by, we should walk through the four seasons with a calm and indifferent heart and laugh at the world.
If you learn to let go, you will look down on the gains and losses of honor and disgrace, not happy with things, not sad for yourself, and let the dull days pass wonderfully. Learning to let go and clean up the fallen leaves in time will make your steps lighter. Heart on the road, never tired.
Learn to let go, watch the flowers fall in bloom, watch the clouds roll, treat the complexity with simplicity, treat the noise with tranquility, appreciate the agility of a flower and a grass, and be optimistic about the elegance of blue sky and white clouds.
Learn to let go and let it go, and you will be relaxed, not confused, not trapped in love, not afraid of the future, not thinking about the past, so good.
Learn to let go, let go, and your heart will be wide. ..........
Those who are truly enlightened, after awakening, get a wonderful victory of sincere Tathagata, and turn to Tathagata to hide, so that they can put down the climbing of the five aggregates and eighteen realms, and at the same time put down the climbing of the six entrances and six dust realms;
At this time, the truly enlightened person will let the conscious mind experience the purity of the mind and body hidden by the Tathagata at any time on the basis of the constant change of the self-mind, and the truth of no self that is not affected by the six dusts.
In this way, you can live in Wanyuan anytime and anywhere, so this is the real monk who put down Wanyuan.
That is to say, when we are conscious, our awareness can keep observing the behavior in the world of six dust at any time, in return for the Tathagata from sexual purity and nirvana, so after we are conscious, we will not become stupid.
The so-called enlightenment is not to cultivate our intimacy, but to use our differentiated intimacy to find the original heart that has never been different since the beginning of the robbery. It comes from sexual purity and nirvana. This is enlightenment.
Therefore, enlightened people, with their own intimate feelings, can observe the behavior in the realm of six dusts at any time and turn to hide from the Tathagata instead of clinging to the six dusts and ten thousand laws;
He knew that he had a Tathagata who never gave up, so he stopped at this Tathagata and slowly surrendered my troublesome habits.
So in other words, in the process of practicing Bodhi Tao, the Bodhisattva is not only on the existing side, but also on the empty side.
In other words, he crossed both sides of space and existence, and was impartial.
So he stopped at the emptiness of Tathagata and gradually got rid of the habit of worrying about himself.
At this time, he can also clearly observe that this sincere Tathagata has no five yin phases and no knowledge of yin phases. He never uses any methods. This sincerity is as empty as the Buddha, and it is extremely quiet.
From the viewpoint of sexual purity, nirvana and sincerity, it is not only impossible for Buddha to leak five yin, but also impossible for all beings to leak five yin. At this time, what can be called sentient beings?
The so-called troubles are current, because they correspond to the five yin beings.
However, our eighth consciousness, as sincere as Tathagata, does not correspond to all kinds of troubles, and the five yin of all beings corresponding to troubles are impermanent, empty and unattainable. So what is the bodhisattva called trouble?
At this time, there is no need to talk about letting go. We just have troubles from the perspective of five yin, and there is nothing to worry about from the perspective of Tathagata.
Therefore, an unyielding Bodhisattva, when he personally proves this complacent nirvana, can get rid of the bondage of the five yin forever without any worries.
If this can be done, this monk or monk with liberation wisdom can still benefit from the realm of five dust.
In other words, he still eats, drinks tea, sleeps and does all kinds of things as usual, even in a noisy market or noisy environment, it will be like being in a quiet mountain forest;
Because he can treat any realm with a free heart, there is no difference between noise and tranquility.
So at this time, if he knows that he can give up the newspaper, he can die in the western paradise immediately, and he will not be happy because of it; Similarly, if there is a reason for him to go to hell, he will not resent it.
So at this time, he can use such wisdom to establish six five aggregates everywhere, and follow the fate as he wishes, because these five aggregates are only obtained from the sincere Tathagata, and these are methods that have nothing to gain;
Therefore, there is no joy and no disgust. I can say that at this time, I will be able to put down all my attachments and reach an absolutely real and ordinary place. In other words, there is no trouble at all. At this time, you just need to live quietly in every place. This is the real letting go.
On the road of life, in the world of mortals and vanity fair-love, marriage, family, work, career, money, beauty, status, honor ... too many people are attached to each other, endlessly, until death do us part. What do you mean put it down?
When you retire, whether you are in an official position or an important position, you resolutely bid farewell to the prosperity of the past and start a new life in your later years without looking back, nostalgia, loss or emotion-this is called letting go.
You are divorced. No matter how much you loved each other and how sweet your life was, no matter how much you paid, now that you are so far apart, you can face the reality happily. Since you can't grow old together, don't pester each other, let go, start your new life and find your own Eden again-this is called letting go.
You are lovelorn, no matter how much the other party once promised to love, no matter how many sacrifices you made for love, now you have broken up, indicating that you have no fate, and there are plenty of fish in the sea. You should put the pain behind you and continue to look for true love in the vast sea of people until you meet the person you are destined to meet-this is called letting go.
If your business fails and your work is frustrated, don't be discouraged or complain. Find out the reasons, learn the lessons, find out the countermeasures, or find another way, or fall down in the same place and get up again, and then sprint to create a new world-this is called letting go.
No matter what industry you are engaged in or what position you are in, always do it in a down-to-earth manner, and at the same time keep a normal mind, just work hard and don't ask about the harvest-this is called letting go.
In this world, everyone comes naked and goes naked. Whether they are born or die, money, status and fame are gone. We should look down on all this and try to stay calm, calm and quiet-this is called letting go.
The more a person lets go, the richer he becomes.
Pain comes from obsession, clinging to an idea, being trapped in an idea, and of course suffering. Once you put it down, your heart will be at ease.
Buddha said: "How to get up, only put it down."
Letting go is rebirth; Giving up is having, I don't know it's too late.
This is not pessimism or escape, but a simple way of life. Hold down the present, even a narrow heart can bear all the ups and downs.
Others are doing addition and the yogi is doing subtraction. When others take it, the yogi is giving it. When others are moving wildly, the yogi is still.
In life, what needs to be done is to let go, not give up. On the contrary, many people often give up what they shouldn't give up and can't let go of what they should. How to have the wisdom to distinguish between the two, read more books, talk more with people, don't be opinionated, broaden your horizons and enrich your heart, and you can be comfortable.
I have the courage to give up something for the life I want. There is no justice in this world, and you will never please both sides. If you want freedom, you have to sacrifice safety. If you want to loaf around, you won't get the grades evaluated by others. If you want to be happy, you don't have to care about the attitude that people around you give you. If you want to move forward, you must leave your present position.
Put everything down and win everything. Can't let go, can't earn. A person can let go, can let go, can hedge in his heart and plant chrysanthemums, so he doesn't have to avoid the noise of cars and horses. Wan Li Road is in Wan Li. You can't escape from my noise, and you can't escape from the noise of the world. In other words, if you are quiet, the world will be quiet.
One disturbing illusion after another really has nothing to do with you. It is survival to take up, and life to put down; What you can afford is ability, but what you can put down is wisdom. Some people can't afford it, and it doesn't matter if they can't put it down; Some people can afford it, but they can't let it go. If you can't afford it, you will be mediocre; If you can't let it go, you will be exhausted.
When you really can't let it go, go to the intensive care unit or the cemetery. It's easy for you to understand that you get too much, and then you have greed, too little time and too many interesting things. From the perspective of respecting life, there is no need to entangle.
In a word, a thousand philosophies. If used well, the complicated life will return to simplicity, the confused thoughts will return to clarity, and the impetuous mood will return to indifference. Release, as a state of existence, is the finishing touch after painting the dragon, and it is the tranquility after profundity.
Lotso said: The more things a person can put down, the richer he is. I am often boasted that I can afford it, but I can't let it go.
Hello, friend. The following is the note of an old friend of the counselor. I'm happy to answer your question.
I once met such a parent whose child is going to college soon. She began to sleep every day.
In her own words, "I am too worried about my children. She has never left my side since she was a child. There is so much violence on campus now that she can't handle things. " Then she decided, "I must accompany her to school."
However, I also learned from the communication that her child's ability is still relatively strong, and she is not the kind of person who relies too much on her parents and has no viability. And I made it clear to my mother that I didn't have to go myself.
But for this mother, she can't accept this view. Now she thinks that if the child leaves, there will definitely be problems, and she must play some roles as a mother.
Then I think, for your friend's question, this should belong to an answer and an obsession.
At the same time, I have encountered other examples.
For example, an anxious friend is worried that he will have an anxiety attack when he is in the car, so whenever he mentions a car or a car, he becomes very nervous and resistant.
You see, he is in a safe environment with no vehicles around, but he still has this reaction.
In psychology, this state is generally called "sensitivity". But can it be called "don't let go of your fear" if you are used by a friend?
In fact, there are still many stories. But in order not to affect reading, I am not so nagging.
The first story, we have people who can't let go; The second story, we have emotions that we can't let go. By extension, we can't let go of anyone, anything, anything in real life, and some of them are even fictional.
We may not let go for various reasons, but we can't let go of a unified performance, that is, thinking, mentioning and associating will bring us many emotional reactions.
The brain has the function of reading, analyzing and thinking, so when we see a teacup, we will automatically think of the function, material and related information of this item.
This part functions normally. Just like a mother at the beginning, when she thinks of her children, she will outline factors such as appearance, posture and personality.
This part only represents the normal interpretation, association and analysis of the brain. Doesn't mean you haven't put it down.
Not letting go is on this normal basis, accompanied by a lot of emotional reactions. For example, the mother's worry, the resistance and fear of anxious friends, the pride of employees and so on.
So what do you mean you can't let it go? When something still causes a lot of ups and downs in our hearts, it also causes us to have a lot of emotions, and even these emotions are sometimes difficult to control, it is called letting go.
As the saying goes, one day, people who can't let go, people who can't let go, we will tell others calmly like telling stories.
Thank you for reading. Best wishes.
Even when others repeat your past misfortunes in front of you, you seem to be listening to other people's stories without a ripple in your heart.
People should learn to let go, because some people, others don't care about you, why bother to wronged themselves. No matter how painful and sad you are, people will not see you and will not feel bad for you. Who are you sorry for? So some people should put down what should be put down. Don't be confused, don't be trapped in love, don't be afraid of the future, don't miss the past, so be safe. Put it down, that's all.