If you want to get married, what is the distance between you and the bride-to-be? The answer of many people is mother-in-law. Because the mother-in-law should not only examine your character and family style. What is more troublesome is that she will put forward "three mountains": house, car and bride price. Some people joked that the reason why the house price is so high is the credit of the mothers-in-law, who raised the house price.
You may think it meaningless to get married with such a high bride price. Just sell your daughter. However, in the eyes of the woman's parents, the daughter is definitely a treasure. Not only did they not ask for a high bride price, but they also reduced it, which gave you a discount.
Xiao Li is 32 years old this year, and she has long been old enough to get married. Xiao Cui, the object he talked about from high school, has been busy with her studies and has no time to get married. High school was such a tense period, and they actually began to fall in love. At first, parents and teachers were very opposed, and the school even threatened them with notes.
However, their grades are very good, and they all say that they will not go to school if they don't agree to love. They are among the best in the whole grade, and their suspension from school is not only a great loss for both families, but also a great loss for the school. Although I am in love, my grades have not dropped at all, but I am more energetic. So everyone acquiesced in their relationship.
In fact, they didn't love each other at first, but they were one step closer than ordinary students. As the two top students in the class, they often discuss problems together, cheer together, and discuss the future together, gradually narrowing the distance.
Finally, they were admitted to the top universities together. Although the majors are different, they are in the same campus. Xiao Li wants to graduate and get married, but Xiao Cui wants to continue her studies. There is no way, Xiao Li accompanied Xiao Cui to graduate school. Xiao Li suggested that you can get married after graduation, but Xiao Cui felt that her knowledge was still too shallow and wanted to continue studying.
Xiao Li had no choice but to put forward a plan. Let Xiao Cui continue her studies and find a job first. After all, men need to earn money to support their families. Finally, Dr. Cui graduated and finally agreed to marry Xiao Li. But all the three mountains that all men are afraid of are coming over. Xiao Cui's mother not only asked Xiao Li to buy a car and a house, but also asked for a bride price of 600 thousand.
She said: nowadays, the bride price of girls is based on academic qualifications. College students100,000, undergraduates 200,000, postgraduates 400,000 and doctoral students 800,000. I asked you 600 thousand, and I already gave you a discount, not much, and we didn't lie to you.
Xiao Li has used all his savings and his parents' savings to buy a car and a house, and there is no money, not to mention 600 thousand, not even 60 thousand, and the remaining money is less than 1 10 thousand. After deducting the mortgage and car loan from his monthly salary, there is only 10 thousand yuan left.
Although there is no money, Xiao Li dare not sayno. Through years of understanding, he knows what kind of person the prospective mother-in-law is. She is mean and selfish, and she is definitely the queen at home. In addition to the daughter can say a few words about her, the prospective father-in-law is absolutely afraid to oppose her. But in the matter of marriage, it is estimated that the daughter does not have much say. Since she wants 600,000 yuan, the possibility of refusing is absolutely slim.
Look at his girlfriend trav. Instead of stopping her mother, she nodded again and again, as if she thought her mother was right. Xiao Li called to her for help. Xiao Cui was as expected: I think what my mother said makes sense. Although the bride price of 600,000 yuan is very high, my education is a doctoral student, which is not high compared with it. Over the years, my family has spent a lot of money on my education. As my future husband, you should help me respect them.
Xiao Li suddenly felt a big head. He said: What you said is very reasonable. I don't think 600 thousand is a lot, either After all, you have such a high degree and good grades. Your parents must have put a lot of effort and money into it. But I really can't take out so much money at once. How's this? I will pay10,000 yuan in monthly installments. In order to show my sincerity, I raised the bride price from 600,000 yuan to1000,000 yuan, and wrote down the iou and put my handprint on it, which is absolutely legally binding.
Xiao Cui's mother was about to interrupt Xiao Li when she heard that the bride price had risen to 1 million and she still owed an iou. She agreed. In this way, Xiao Li paid the first month's 1 10,000 yuan bride price and held a wedding with Xiao Cui. After the marriage, Xiao Cui continued to go to school for half a year, and Xiao Li went home to cook besides going to work.
The married life that should be happy makes Xiao Cui a little unhappy. Because she feels that the quality of life after marriage has obviously declined. In the past, Xiao Li always asked Xiao Cui what he liked to eat first, and then he went to buy the corresponding dishes. Now three meals a day have become the cheapest shallots mixed with tofu, boiled eggs and a glass of milk at most. I haven't eaten the sweet and sour pork ribs for a long time. After all, pork is too expensive.
In the past, the refrigerator was always full of durian and cherry, which I like to eat. Now it is empty when I open the refrigerator. She asked Xiao Cui several times, and Xiao Cui always said that it was difficult during that time, so let her endure it, and it will be fine after ten or eight years. Because now after deducting the loan, almost all the monthly salary is given to my mother-in-law.
At first, Xiao Cui endured it. After all, it is not easy for parents to support themselves, and the bride price must be paid by installment. Just next month, when Xiao Li paid her salary and Xiao Li wanted to give money to her mother-in-law, Xiao Cui quit and said, don't call yet. We will go to my parents' house today.
Xiao Cui led Xiao Li to her parents' house. On the way, Xiao Li said to bring some gifts to her parents and go to the supermarket on the way. I didn't expect Xiao Cui's face to be particularly ugly: what to bring, give them so much money every month, they can't buy anything, and we won't live next month?
Xiao Li nodded on the surface, but his heart was full of joy, because this was exactly what he wanted. He knew that Xiao Cui, who had never worked, certainly didn't know that money was hard to earn, and that it was not easy to experience no money without being oppressed by life, so he agreed to his mother's bride price request.
When Xiao Cui returned to her mother's house, she began to look through the IOUs written by Xiao Li. Her mother tore them to pieces before she knew it. Mother is anxious: you are a prodigal daughter, how can you tear it for me? This is the proof that I want money. Xiao Cui also began to be furious: you want money, you want money, you know you want money, but will you let people live? All the money is given to you, and we have no money to eat. I ate tofu for a month last month. Can't you see that I have lost weight?
Mother-in-law was unwilling, and looked at her daughter's sore cheek at the same time. Coupled with her daughter's sloppy play, she can only forget the bride price. As a result, the young couple had a delicious meal at their parents' house. Before they left, Xiao Cui packed everything in her refrigerator and muttered, My refrigerator is empty. It is too late for me to go to the supermarket now. Let my dad go to the supermarket to buy it tomorrow.
In this way, Xiao Li's bride price rose from 600,000 to 1 100,000, but only1100,000 was spent in the end. Moreover, this matter became the handle of his wife's mouth. Every time I go back to my mother's house, I say that my mother has withheld her money, starved herself for a month in vain, and then swept her refrigerator with confidence.
Emotional information
Many times, two people who clearly love each other are separated because of the high bride price. The man thought, do we need money to measure our feelings? Not if you can afford it. This is an act of betraying your daughter. Some men can't afford it unless they borrow it, but the days after marriage will be very sad.
In the eyes of the woman, not giving a good bride price means not loving her performance. Doesn't she deserve a bride price? It is a great pity that countless couples failed to enter the marriage hall because they did not give in to each other. In fact, the bride price is really just a form, a good lottery. Bride price can't explain whether a girl is worth it; The amount of bride price has nothing to do with face. Compared with the happiness of the two after marriage, the bride price is really as light as a feather.