My daughter, Yue Yue, has been a gentle child since she was a child, and she has little courage. From the beginning of entering the park, my father and I were worried about our daughter, fearing that other students would bully her. As a result, not long after going to school, my daughter suffered all kinds of bullying. Every day at school, she is either pushed down by her classmates or robbed of toys in the game class. Once, she was scratched by a little boy's hair, arms and face.
When I saw my daughter's face, the whole person collapsed. Angry and distressed, I took my daughter to find the child who hit people and told her loudly, "Mom is here, please call me back." As a result, my daughter didn't call back, but the whole person has been hiding behind me timidly. I'm going crazy with anger! There is even a kind of psychology of "mourning his misfortune and angering him", and his anger towards his daughter is greater than that of the child who hits people.
Fortunately, the teacher persuaded her in time to help appease her daughter, but looking at her crying daughter, my heart was really bleeding. When I told my father about it at night, we also began to reflect on our education methods. Obviously, our daughter has become like this, and we have a great responsibility. And if this continues, the children will suffer big losses.
Come to think of it carefully, since our daughter was born, our education has always been modest and sensible, especially in fighting. We often say to our daughter, "Don't fight with children, it's wrong to hit people." That's it. My daughter's character is becoming more and more honest and timid, even if she is bullied, she doesn't know how to resist.
So how can I help my daughter? At this moment, I suddenly thought of a friend. This friend has been a head teacher at school for more than 20 years. He has rich teaching experience and knows this "little river and lake" among students very well. So I asked him out to meet and told him about my daughter.
As a result, my friend told me that in fact, at school, timid children are really bitter and will definitely be caught. Unfortunately, many parents ask their children to be smart and sensible, but as a result, they ignore this point and let their children suffer a big loss unconsciously. Then my friend told me a case. At that time, a classmate in his class studied hard. Although he is a boy, he is quiet and sensible. In the teacher's opinion, such a classmate is very good, but other students often bully the child. So he called those classmates to talk and asked them why they always caught that classmate bullying others and didn't even bother them. As a result, these students disdained to say that they would be angry when they saw him and would not bully him.
Therefore, it is true that people are always picking soft persimmons. For parents, it is best to make their children look "unruly" if they want to be bullied. So people will be afraid. After listening to the advice of my friend in charge of the class, I suddenly became enlightened and made up my mind to cultivate children's "unruly" temperament so that children would not suffer wherever they went.
So I went home and communicated with my daughter. When I asked my daughter why she didn't fight back after being beaten, her daughter told me that it was you and dad who told me it was wrong to do so since childhood. So I have to tell my children seriously that I will fight back in this case.
But I know that my daughter's consciousness is not easy to change. In order to cultivate her self-protection consciousness and rebellious spirit, I need to set a good example for her and conduct repeated guidance and education. At this time, I thought of reading a picture book story to my daughter. On the one hand, picture book stories are easy for children to accept, on the other hand, the image of the protagonist and the way to deal with bullying will set a good example for children. So, under the left and right choice, I chose "Children's Anti-bullying Picture Book" for my daughter and began to take her to exercise every day.
After a period of persistence, my daughter's body has really become much stronger and her appearance looks more "domineering" than before, but I still don't know if her thoughts have changed. However, at this time, an accidental opportunity told me that the picture book story was really useful and my daughter had the courage to resist.
I took my daughter to the shopping mall that day, and there happened to be a children's playground, so I bought a ticket and went in. Halfway through the game, a little boy began to grab the ocean ball with his daughter. He slapped her when her daughter refused to give it to him. Unexpectedly, the timid daughter reacted quickly this time, slapping each other, hugging the ocean ball tightly and yelling at the boy.
Maybe the boy was hurt, maybe he was just scared by his daughter's imposing manner, and he just lay on the ground crying. The boy's mother heard the sound and ran over, picked up the child and said rudely, "Did she hit you?" She also asked her daughter to apologize to her son with a ferocious expression. I was about to help, but I heard my daughter reply loudly, "He hit me first, so he should apologize to me first", and then told my mother what happened. When my mother heard that I was wrong, she saw me coming, slapped my son and walked away swearing. I was very satisfied with my daughter's performance, so I praised her happily, carefully checked the place where she was beaten, made sure it was okay, and then went home happily.
Many parents think it's good to have a teacher to look after their children at school. Now they don't have to worry about their quality. What I want to say is that I thought so before, but the reality is cruel. In fact, some experts made a special investigation on school bullying, and found that more than half of the children were bullied on campus, and their personality, physical and mental development and later life were affected to varying degrees. As parents, don't wait for things to appear before you make up for them. You must learn to "nip in the bud" and help your child avoid harm as much as possible!
Here, I also recommend this set of anti-bullying children's picture books to my daughter. I hope your children can know how to deal with these common bullying situations tactfully, such as being pushed, wronged, laughed at, rejected, groped, bullied, discriminated and abused, so as to protect themselves perfectly instead of being helpless, or
In a word, if your family also has children aged 2-8, if your children are slow-witted, sensible and even a little timid, parents should never neglect to guide and help their children. There are also limited-time promotions for ordering now. Please order a set for your child quickly.
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