One day, a classmate in the class lost a lot of hard-earned collection cards. The teacher led the whole class to try to find them, but there was no result. Amy suddenly pointed to her classmate B and said loudly, He should have stolen it! Student B immediately denied it, and the teacher asked Amy how she knew it was student B. Amy said, "Because once B took my collection card," and everyone found that Amy had more than 70 collection cards. The student asked her how she had accumulated so many collection cards. Amy: "Some of them were bought by my mother, and some were given to me by my brother (senior 3 in the same school)! Other informed parents thought that they should tell Amy's parents about these 70 cards, but the teacher really didn't know how to tell her parents because she had a fall a while ago, and finally it went away ...
Every time I go to kindergartens all over the world to do consulting services, I can't stop watching busy teachers come into the classroom: handling children's complaints, reminding children what to do now, helping them finish their homework, prepare lessons and attend classes. Even when primary school students are in class, there are still complaints, pranks, children's emotional or behavioral problems, learning problems, and unconsciously classes will be held again. (Recommended reading: Complaining is natural! Teacher: first understand the child's five mindless mentality)
I often think that a mother always finds it hard to deal with children. After the children go to school, they can finally relax, but what about the teachers? The teacher has to deal with the various conditions of these twenty children every day, and also instill all kinds of knowledge into each little head according to the teaching progress of the school. Some small heads are not so easy to absorb! This load is not only more than 20 times harder than our parents! Every time I think of it, I want to run over and give the teacher a hug. Come on. The teacher is really hard!
Thinking from another angle, it is easy to realize that teachers are not clairvoyant and have no superhuman powers, so teachers are the key to the success of parent-child communication!
1. sympathize with the teacher and show concern.
No matter what the parents' communication intention is, express their concern for the teacher first! "The teacher recently? Thank you! This simple greeting can help teachers work hard and reduce their fears and defenses.
2. State the "event" and listen to opinions.
Objectively describe the situation or problems encountered by parents, and listen to the teacher's methods and ideas. Children usually behave differently at home and at school. Listening to the information observed by teachers at school helps parents to understand their children more comprehensively. "Teacher, recently my Gege often told me that he didn't like math class. I wonder if the teacher has observed anything. 」。
3. Express "ideas" and seek "cooperation"
After listening to the teacher's handling methods and opinions, if there are still doubts or different ideas, parents can calmly describe their opinions at this time, but the purpose is to let the teacher know the parents' expectations and finally get * * * knowledge and cooperation methods! Therefore, no emotional expression and personal attacks are allowed.
Thanks again and keep in touch
No matter whether the result of this communication reaches your ideal or not, don't forget to thank the teacher for taking the time to discuss, and also thank the teacher for his usual care and guidance. You can also take this opportunity to agree on the opportunity or way for the next discussion, keep good communication methods at any time, and create the best learning and growth environment for children. (Recommended reading: Preschool baby must have! Parents and teachers communicate at zero distance)
Parent-child communication is like getting along with husband and wife. Honeymoon is like the beginning of a new semester. Teachers and parents treat each other like guests. After getting married (school life) for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be friction and quarrels (children's injuries, study problems, etc.). ). Only by continuous communication can we find the most suitable way to interact with each other. After all, a teacher is like a child's second mother, and it is a blessing for a child to have one more person who cares about and cares for the child. I hope everyone can establish good communication with teachers!
Xu teacher's dormitory parenting diary authorized to reprint the original source. How do school-age children communicate with teachers? Four tricks of parent-child communication