I found that many women have entered a misunderstanding about marriage now. They always think that marriage has a high bride price and house name, so that marriage can be guaranteed and happiness can be felt after marriage. If the man does not meet these conditions, he will not get married easily, thinking that marriage will not last long.
I want to tell all the girls that we should not only consider the bride price and the house, but also prioritize. Before marriage, these three things should be considered clearly, so that marriage can be happy for a long time.
First, do you really need to get married?
Nowadays, many women see that the classmates around them are married, and what friends see every day is the news that others have obtained the license to bask in the baby. My age is growing day by day, and my parents are urging me, so I think I should get married.
So I started dating under the arrangement of my parents, met different men, saw a man with good conditions in all aspects, and thought I could marry him. But I just think he is the best of many blind date objects, and I don't really like him.
When a woman marries a man she doesn't like, she will be fine all her life. Like the previous generation, if the marriage is not suitable, she can choose to bear it. But now there are several women who can stand it and dare to divorce if they don't agree. Such a marriage is doomed not to last long.
When a woman is married, she should ask herself, should she really get married? Do you want to get married because you see someone else get married? If you don't love the man in front of you at all and get married for the sake of getting married, such a marriage will not end, it will be irresponsible to yourself and others, and ultimately it will hurt two families.
Second thing, are you two really suitable?
When getting married, it is actually very important that two people are suitable. Many times, the breakdown of bride price negotiations has a lot to do with "the wrong door is wrong." The two families have similar conditions and can live in harmony after marriage. If you don't feel tall, he won't look down upon it. The two families are evenly matched, so the marriage is stable.
There is also whether the three views of two people are appropriate. If two people's three views are very different, then they have different views on all aspects of life. When two people communicate deeply, they are both contradictory and can only say something irrelevant. This kind of marriage should not be married. You can't expect conflicts that can't be solved before marriage to be solved through marriage.
It is doomed to be inappropriate before marriage, and it is doomed to divorce after marriage. So is it really suitable for two families and two people? If it doesn't fit, it's much worse. For your own sake, forget this marriage! Find the right person, and the marriage can be happy.
Third, are you really ready to get married?
Women can't choose to get married in a hurry, but should make up their minds to enter the marriage life before getting married. Because marriage is binding, after marriage, it will not be as free as before, and many things can't be done.
Restrain the behavior of singing and drinking with friends after marriage; Friends of the opposite sex around you should also keep a proper distance from their friends; Think about things at home, not just yourself. These things are considered clearly, and it is not too late to get married again.
Many women regret after getting married, and feel that marriage has bound them and made them not free. This is the person who is not ready to get married and hastily chooses to get married. If you are not ready to get married, such a marriage is doomed to be painful and unhappy for a long time.
Before a woman gets married, the bride price and the house really shouldn't be valued so much. The bride price is just a sense of ceremony, which is used for filial piety, as long as it is appropriate; A house for two people does not bring a stable marriage. Only choosing the right person is the most important thing in marriage.
Only because of a loving marriage, two people are suitable for each other and both sides are ready to get married, can such a marriage be happy and long-lasting, which is the most secure and the value of marriage.