For example, people of different ages are prone to suicidal thoughts when they encounter the same problems; People of different occupations are prone to suicidal thoughts when they encounter the same problems. People in different environments encounter the same problems, and people with superior environmental conditions are prone to suicidal thoughts.
Generally speaking, people with fragile personality and psychology, smooth life experience, introverted personality and high self-esteem are prone to the idea that "God will destroy me" after being hit. Then, at this time, you will have your own ideas and suicidal tendencies.
For example, as far as college students are concerned, since the beginning of the new century, the proportion of suicidal thoughts has been on the rise, which has aroused widespread concern in society. They can have a brilliant future and become the pride of society. However, when they encounter some seemingly ordinary problems, they adopt a "stupid" and "naive" way. For example, unlike high flyers, who is knowledgeable, they are like "mentally retarded people" when facing the general pressure brought about by problems such as further education, employment, feelings and the gap between the rich and the poor.
In fact, as far as suicide is concerned, it is no longer a problem in any country. Under the increasingly severe "countercurrent" situation, all countries in the world have established intervention departments and institutions to prevent suicide, such as "psychological outpatient service", "psychological interview", "psychological exploration", "psychological doctor" and "psychological consultation" in government and social organizations, which have helped many people to relieve their psychological troubles and should be affirmed and popularized.
Finally, what kind of despair did people experience before they had suicidal thoughts?
The first is because of people with incurable diseases (such as cancer).
The second kind is people who have committed serious crimes (murder, being hunted).
The third kind is the person who has struggled for a long time and can't see hope (continuous loser).
The fourth type is people who are dragged down by family members or families (postpartum depression).
The fifth type is people who are burdened with huge debts and are difficult to repay (investment failure or being cheated).
The sixth type is people who suddenly fall into the abyss after being sought after (this is not an example).
The seventh kind is people who have been discriminated against, insulted and unable to be understood since childhood (early depression cannot be recovered).
If carefully sorted out, there are still many, so I won't go into details here. People who have suicidal thoughts go to the point of no return after seeing no hope. No hope is despair.
In short, people who have suicidal thoughts are extremely painful and depressed, and they should get understanding and help from their families and society at this time. Especially with the help of people with professional knowledge, helping them is to save their lives and let them walk out of their misery and move towards a new life.
Generally speaking, despair is the root of suicide. Despair comes from our inferiority complex, helplessness, inferiority complex and other diseases. They make people feel excluded, rejected and eliminated by others in society. They make people feel as if fate is against them. Over time, people will feel more and more desperate about the world, and suicide has become a natural choice.
People who have suicidal thoughts tend to exaggerate the degree of personal mental pain. They thought there was no way to solve the blow they had suffered, so they felt desperate. Once you let yourself fall into this psychological hint, everything in the world will become extremely gloomy. For them, only death can liberate themselves.
The root of suicide is despair, and the terrible thing about despair is that it is an illusory feeling state, and it is difficult to change and help the desperate people feel despair from the outside. For people with obvious depression, research shows that depression will obviously change the physiological mechanism of the brain, while severe depression will make them lack imagination and expectation of life, such as no longer believing in a bright future, or things may develop in a good direction; Once they encounter setbacks and setbacks, they can easily fall into despair. This cycle is plagued by suicided ideas, and it is difficult to control yourself. Some people's despair comes from the great life and social pressure they have suffered for a long time. These pressures lead to their physical and mental exhaustion, and finally they are no longer willing to continue to face life, so they are more and more eager to get relief through death. Desperate people go from despair to suicide, which is the accumulation and comprehensive effect of social, physiological and psychological factors. Everyone wants to commit suicide because of despair for different reasons, and we need to provide corresponding guidance and help according to our own behavior and motivation.
Cherish life and be kind to yourself.
Life is worse than death, which is people's awe of life.
However, in real life, we can see that there are indeed many people who, for various reasons, are trapped, confused, helpless and desperate and choose to commit suicide, which is regrettable.
According to what the author has heard and seen, the general reasons for suicide in different groups are as follows.
First, some people can't stand the pain, such as cancer patients. Their motive for suicide is that life is worse than death, and long-term pain is better than short-term pain. Suicide is the fastest way to get rid of pain.
Second, some business operators fled because of bankruptcy, high debts, high debts, fidgeting, despair and no hope of life, and then chose to commit suicide.
Thirdly, some high school students commit suicide impulsively because of the heavy study burden and pressure from their parents or family conflicts caused by it.
Fourthly, some people commit suicide because they can't extricate themselves from lovelorn love, or because their married partners cheat, which is beyond their psychological endurance.
Suicide is a kind of courage, not everyone can do it. But this kind of courage should not be advocated, let alone imitated, because it is a contempt for life and also reflects a person's low psychological endurance.
The reasons for semi-intoxicating are as follows: First, sinking fish and falling geese, closing the moon and feeling ashamed of flowers. None of them have come true, and it feels exaggerated. My heart is broken. Trapped by love, wake up without him (her). Stop dreaming and let's go! Second, family changes are unbearable. Being human is unbearable. Third, the Tao industry was frustrated and the spirit was abandoned. In a dilemma, the heart is burning. The reality is embarrassing and it is difficult to restore itself. It is better to break the dust and have no love in this life. ,, solution! It's wonderful to cross the wind and rain. Gain and loss, let it be. Occasionally it's not smooth, but it's also open-minded. Don't exaggerate what you get occasionally. Life is ups and downs, smiling at flowers, bamboo and wood are one.
I am Zuo Shu, a psychology teacher who is engaged in psychology and mental health education. Let me answer your question.
You mentioned, "What kind of despair does a person have to experience before he has the psychological idea of wanting to commit suicide?" This question,
In fact, it is the question of why a person commits suicide, that is, the discussion of the reasons for suicide. I don't know if my understanding is suitable for your question. According to my experience in psychological counseling, I understand it this way.
Yes, what kind of despair did a person experience that made him have suicidal thoughts and behaviors?
First of all, I want to say that suicide is a very complicated psychological and behavioral phenomenon; When we try to explain the causes of suicide, the analysis of suicidal tendencies and behaviors is always a possible guess. Because only those who commit suicide know best why they commit suicide, and only those who commit suicide can understand "why can't I live any longer?"
Secondly, I use college students' suicide to answer this question; In the daily life of college students, there are many life events related to their own development. Some of them have been realized, such as study pressure, interpersonal communication, accounting management and so on. Some are still in the latent stage, such as professional study and interest, employment, love and heterosexual relationship, family changes and so on. Life events, as far as their impact on individuals is concerned, can be divided into positive and negative categories, especially those negative life events, which require college students to adapt with a positive attitude and make active efforts to cope with various changes brought about by life events. Otherwise, this psychological pressure caused by life events will form a crisis for the normal life of individuals, and then there will be bad cognitive and behavioral experiences, which will lead individuals to take drastic measures to deal with it, with ending their lives as their coping options.
Third, then, what are the reasons for college students to commit suicide? First, the cause of college students' suicide should be personal factors. After all, it is closely related to personal psychological endurance, willpower and even life experience. (1) liberation type: suicide is a means for individuals to get rid of pain and seek liberation in despair. (2) Defensiveness: Suicide is considered as a negative and self-defense mechanism against setbacks and self-blame. (3) Retaliation: Taking suicide as a means of revenge, releasing anger and hostility. (4) Call for help: Suicide can be used as a special way to call for help or attract others' attention. (5) Manipulation: Suicide is considered as a way to manipulate others. Second, psychological and social factors; (1) Psychological stress; (2) Psychological fragility; (3) emotional entanglements; (4) pessimism; (5) serious physical illness; (6) Alienation of interpersonal relationship and loss of social belonging.
Fourth, "to do or not to do" is an embarrassing situation faced by suicides. In real life, everyone is killing himself in the way he chooses, sooner or later, directly or indirectly. When analyzing the root of individual suicide, American psychiatrist Ringer said, "Self-destruction is really rooted in our nature, and we must be familiar with its various manifestations. On this basis, we can make corresponding efforts to compete with this deep-rooted death instinct." Therefore, as bystanders, we have no reason to comment, criticize or laugh at those individuals who end their lives by suicide. They choose suicide to end their lives, and they always have their own motives. Maybe they have doubts about the existence of life itself, maybe they lack the courage to live, or they have destroyed themselves because of other accidents, but they always have reason to want to leave this complicated and disturbing world. Suicide as a personal event "I don't want to live", we can only understand, don't laugh, don't blame!
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In fact, I think a person's life is rarely smooth sailing in this world, and more or less he will experience some hardships and setbacks. Some people may say that some people experience small setbacks and naturally will not cause great harm to them. So how do you define the size of setbacks? The same thing happens to different people and the result will be different. Therefore, we can't deny the hardships and setbacks experienced by others, but should see the personal reaction after these experiences. Some people choose to commit suicide because of lovelorn love, and some people still have hope for love after many emotional twists and turns. Therefore, I think it doesn't matter what I experience, what matters is what kind of mentality I face. How to face setbacks and solve them is the most important thing. Isn't it?
Everyone dares to commit suicide, what else can they endure? If you have the courage to commit suicide, you have the strength to live.
I think people who commit suicide are too fragile inside, and their exaggeration makes things worse and leads to despair.
I think people who commit suicide are irresponsible, at least they don't think about their parents and forget that life is brought to them by their parents, so I never sympathize with people who commit suicide.
My sister-in-law committed suicide by drinking paraquat. In my opinion, what happened to her was nothing at all, but no matter how hard she tried to persuade, she just walked into a dead end.
Finally, while everyone was not looking, I took the medicine. When I was rescued in the hospital, I obviously felt her desire for survival, but life won't make anyone regret it.
So advise those who want to commit suicide, wake up, don't give up life for people and things that aren't worth it, love can be found back, money can be earned back, and when people die, there is nothing.
I think the degree of despair depends on everyone's different treatment. Everyone's tolerance is different. There are many things that are very sad. Some people will survive easily, while some things that are not so sad will become someone's serious injury!