However, with the change of people's concept, some people's satisfaction with their marriage life is weakening, and they pay more attention to their own experience. When the other half of their married life makes them feel uncomfortable, they are likely to comfort their depression and loneliness according to other heterosexual friends.
Some people even regard the affair as a way to deal with the other half, not only failing to converge, but also going backwards.
In their eyes, married life is no longer a warm home, but more like a prison or an arena. They are fighting for their own lives, enjoying their emotional and physical freedom, or conquering the other half to claim their own honor.
I don't know that this kind of personal behavior is not only a disaster of married life, but also a kind of trampling on social morality.
In the case of touching me, some men, after having an affair, not only did not feel ashamed, but also talked about things in the old days and felt that they were quite capable.
Then, from the perspective of women, do they feel that this is a kind of humiliation, and can they solve their husband's "sexual" treatment as if they were uncomfortable in their hearts? What about daily life?
0 1: My husband apologized to me first. I just want a psychological balance.
Xiao Zhao and her husband also experienced a feeling of knowing each other and cherishing each other. When I first got married, the family conditions were very poor, and it developed bit by bit under the leadership of husband and wife Qi Xin. We can see that her husband has a successful career now, but she feels that she has lost her feelings.
My husband said that he was mainly at work and often didn't go home, but Xiao Zhao understood that this was all an excuse. After all, my husband has money in his bag, five fans and three stories.
For this matter, Xiao Zhao also made trouble and even hit women who seduced her husband, but slowly she realized that it was not how good those women were, but her husband who was "unfaithful"
After seeing through it, she won't expect too much from her husband. What she thinks a lot about is where her future lies.
Seeing her loose figure, in order to take better care of her family, she decided to take a good exercise in the gym, but when she saw the cool and handsome gym coach, an idea of coping suddenly ignited in her heart.
The gym coach became her lover, caring and considerate for her; She went to the health club to fight with him when she was free. It's impossible to say that Xiao Zhao doesn't feel guilty, but for her, the happiness of dealing with this matter obviously exceeds the guilt.
Xiao Zhao has never been divorced, and has been married to her husband, having an affair with a fitness instructor, and the women who are outside with her husband have changed one after another.
Sometimes when my husband comes home, he will definitely ask for "sex". At first, Xiao Zhao's heart was contradictory. However, in order to better prevent her husband from getting suspicious and leaving her property behind, she imagined her husband as a charming lover again and again, although she decorated her marriage life calmly.
In Xiao Zhao's view, she was forced to do this herself, that is, her husband can find beautiful women outside, so why should she abuse herself and only be a woman with her husband?
02: I regret the trivial dispute.
Pony and her husband met on a blind date, and their personalities are very different. Pony is extroverted and loves interpersonal communication, while her husband is introverted and loves to stay at home. However, because she was an older woman and her relatives were urging her, she got married soon.
Shortly after marriage, the personality differences between the two people occurred. Husband resists Pony's interpersonal communication and is always worried that she will have sex with other boys, but Pony is unwilling to give up himself for a better marriage life, so they often have conflicts.
Although he calmed down, Pony knew that her husband took good care of himself and was a good man at home. However, as soon as her temper came up, she felt that her husband was an old-fashioned person, blocking his emotions and reason, not being emotional at all, but occupying himself.
Once, in order to reunite with old classmates better, Pony and her husband had another conflict. Pony rushed out of the house in anger and got drunk at the party.
A boy who likes ponies in college explicitly offered to send ponies home. In the taxi, the pony complained about his tragedy and praised the boy. The boy summoned up the courage to send her to the hotel.
One night, the pony realized that he had made a big mistake. The boy knelt down and made sure that she would be kind to her, but she put on her clothes and stumbled home.
My husband lost his temper. At this time, he was worried about the fate of the pony. Seeing the pony come home, he quickly helped her to bed and asked her questions. Tears jumped around her husband's deep affection for himself. The pony felt very guilty, but he was afraid to say it. He could only eat it in his stomach.
After that, she became more and more gentle, and many things gradually followed her husband's advice, just because she felt guilty and wanted to fill each other up. It was only when her husband explicitly put forward the "sex" rule that she kept saying that she was unwell. She felt that she was dirty from the heart to the human body, but after learning the truth, she couldn't bear her husband's anger, so she thought, that's it.
In Pony's view, this choice of her own is undoubtedly a heavy stain on her life. Even if she and her husband can be happy on the surface, the guilt inside will never be eliminated.
03: My husband thinks I'm suitable for his job, but I just want him to stay away from me.
Xiao Jin and her husband have been married for ten years. With children and the expansion of life pressure, they have long lost their enthusiasm for getting married. They live under the same roof, but they seldom talk. Her husband is busy at work, while Xiao Jin is busy taking care of the children.
But with the children in primary and secondary schools, Xiao Jin's inner world suddenly became empty. She followed her best friend's advice and gradually learned to dance in her spare time.
That is, in the whole process of dancing, she met a partner. Although both of them have families, they have caused ambiguous feelings in their daily contact.
The partner's daughter-in-law is a tigress and attaches great importance to him; However, Xiao Jin's husband can only speak a little and doesn't know how to coax a woman. Xiao Jin's understanding is only relative to his partner's rhetoric, and of course he is particularly comfortable to associate with.
That day, it was Xiao Jin's birthday, but her husband didn't have time to work, but his partner bought a birthday cake to celebrate her birthday and sang a birthday song to her. They drank red wine and used it to strengthen the last line of defense.
Xiao Jin and her partner know that they have their own home, and they are unlikely to divorce the other half, but they still have an underground love affair and enjoy the joy of love.
But as her affection for her partner grew, Xiao Jin found that she was in a state of resisting her husband's rules of "making love". Although in order to better fear her husband's suspicion, she had to cooperate with each other, and she only felt sick and nauseous every time.
Soon, my husband received a transfer order to work in a different place for two years, so that he could be promoted and the treatment was good. In the past, Xiao Jin, who resisted the elderly the most, tried her best to make her husband work hard for a better job. When she saw her husband walk into the airport, Xiao Jin not only felt uncomfortable, but also had a feeling of getting rid of it.
In Xiao Jin's view, her husband is just a small partner who manages the housework together, and her feelings have already flown to her partner. Husband's business trip in different places not only prevents her inner contradictions, but also gives her a lot of convenience, which can repay her tryst with her partner. As long as she can get paid on time, she can go home all her life!
All three women have their own reasons for cheating and their own results.
However, it is worth mentioning that cheating after marriage will undoubtedly have an impact on the defendant's heart, and paper can't hold fire after all. All the people who came to the bottom and were deeply hurt were poor children except the other half and relatives.
The difference between animals and people is that people have very high self-control ability and know how to control themselves with obligations.
In essence, marriage is also a contract, and those who break it will be punished, but there are always people who are lucky enough to think that they can get away, but they don't know that they usually regret it until it is too late.